The problem is that we are for the most part Gentiles. The Bible was written by Jews, and the first audience was Jews. Within that Jewish culture, the queen would rule alongside the king. But the quend was not the wife of the king. The king could have several wives. No, the queen was his mother.
This is brought out especially in the first 2 chapters of I Kings. When David was still alive, Bathsheba would bow before him. But after David died, King Solomon would now to his mother, Bathsheba.
So Bathsheba went to King Solomon to speak to him for Adonijah. And the king arose to meet her, bowed before her, and sat on his throne; then he had a throne set for the king's mother, and she sat on his right. Then she said, "I am making one small request of you; do not refuse me." And the king said to her, "Ask, my mother, for I will not refuse you."
I King 2:19, 20
The Jews took God's command to honor your father and mother seriously. This can be especially seen by Solomon. Look at what he did:
1. He bowed before her.
2. He set a throne for her right next him.
3. He told her that he will not refuse anything she asks.
I could go through the whole Old Testament and show how the mother of king ruled along with her son. The Jews would call her the Queen Mother.
Witing this context of the king deeply honor his mother as the king, we see Jesus in the New Testament as being the Christ, the King of the Jews. Jesus came an preached that He was bringing in the kingdom of heaven. As soom as a first-century Jew heard this, that Jesus was their King, he would naturally assume that Mary, His mother, would be the Queen Mother.
Why the Bible is not more explicit about Mary being the Queen I do not know. Dr Scott Hahn suggested that the apostles, knowing that the enemies would have tortured and killed Mary if they knew how imprtant Mary was to them. So they kept quiet about this as long as she was alive.
BUT, notice that the only New Testament book that was written after Mary died was the Revelation of John. In this book, John was free to say how important Mary was to the apostles:
A great sign appeared in heaven: a woman clothed with the sun, and the moon under her feet, and on her head a crown of twelve stars;
Rev 12:1
This woman is clothed with the sun, with moon under her feet, and a crown of 12 stars. This sure sounds to me like this woman is the Queen of Heaven. But how do we know this woman is Mary? Read on
And she gave birth to a son, a male child, who is to rule all the nations with a rod of iron; and her child was caught up to God and to His throne
Look at these clues. She has a son, this son is to rull all nations, and this son ascended up to God. This son could not be anyone else but Jesus. So if the woman's son is Jesus, then this woman must be Mary.
And yet this passage does not stop there. This woman has other children.
So the dragon was enraged with the woman, and went off to make war with the rest of her children, who keep the commandments of God and hold to the testimony of Jesus.
Here it says that Mary has other children. These other children are all who obey the commands of God and hold to the testimony of Jesus. In other words, Mary is our spiritual mother. And what child does not go to his mother when in need? Sure,we can go to Jesus, but we also go to our spritual mother.
I look at it this way. Both my father and mother loved me, but in different ways. My father (may he rest in peace) gave me more tough love. He was loving, but he was strict one me. And I thank him for being that way. The same way with Jesus. Sure, Jesus loves us, but He is also the Judge of all the eath. Jesus is the God of love, but He is also the God of wrath. I recall how in the Chronicles of Narnia, He was decribed as being all-good, but not tame. Paul once wrote that it is dreadful thing fall into the hands of an angry God. Jesus is not just our Friend, He is our Judge. He is going to rule with a rod of iron. One Judgement Day, He will separate the sheep from the goats. But Mary will never come to us in wrath. She always comes to her children tenderly.
Look at John 4, the wedding of Cana. Mary had compassion on the couple for such a little thing as running out wine. When she approached her Son, He said that this was beneath Him (He also said it was beneath Mary). Jesus was being like me strict father. In the grand scheme of things, whether this wedding had wine was insignicant. But Jesus gave in. He gave what Mary wanted. Why. Because Mary was His mother, He granted her request, although He Himself thought that this was not deserving of a miracle.
Here it is the Bible. The Bible says that Mary is the Queen of Heaven. The only time Jesus does a miracle that does not seem to fit into the grand scheme of things is when His mother asked Him. The Bible says that we are all Mary's spiritual children. The Bible says it. I believe it. That settles it.