My friend did not come. I I called him and then another friend got on the phone with him and told him what was going on. I felt really bad about it but I think it would have been worse if he had come and my mother would have said something really ugly and mean to him. Its awful that things are like this.
The bible says to honor your mother and father. It also says thou shalt not lie. What if your mother tells you to lie?
Personally, Im not down with that. Yes, I have lied before, but that is not by any means a reason to do it again! That's just twisted logic. Well, you've done wrong in this regard before, what's once more?....ummm...no. Even if you have committed the same grievous, the same sin thousands of times you can still repent.
Edit: by the above statement I did not mean commit the same sin over and over, ask forgiveness but Not change your behavior, and do it over and over some more. True repentanence involves change.
Acts 5:29 should be our guide when there is a conflict between Mom and God, or between man's laws and God's laws, or anything else that is in conflict with the correct dividing (2 Timothy 2:15) and correct interpretation of the Word of God.The bible says to honor your mother and father. It also says thou shalt not lie. What if your mother tells you to lie?
Personally, Im not down with that. Yes, I have lied before, but that is not by any means a reason to do it again! That's just twisted logic. Well, you've done wrong in this regard before, what's once more?....ummm...no. Even if you have committed the same grievous, the same sin thousands of times you can still repent.
Edit: by the above statement I did not mean commit the same sin over and over, ask forgiveness but Not change your behavior, and do it over and over some more. True repentanence involves change.
That would make things worse. She would say I am choosing my friends over her. And she has already told me before "I will not be second to anyone"
I'm sorry it turned out that way. He was probably very hurt and disappointed. Just because this situation worked itself out, please don't leave the underlying issue alone. Things like this will continue to happen unless your mom and you both learn how to have an adult parent/child relationship.
The bible says to honor your mother and father. It also says thou shalt not lie. What if your mother tells you to lie?
Personally, Im not down with that. Yes, I have lied before, but that is not by any means a reason to do it again! That's just twisted logic. Well, you've done wrong in this regard before, what's once more?....ummm...no. Even if you have committed the same grievous, the same sin thousands of times you can still repent.
Edit: by the above statement I did not mean commit the same sin over and over, ask forgiveness but Not change your behavior, and do it over and over some more. True repentanence involves change.
Well, these type of situations are kind of hard to avoid for the simple reason of...I just never know what is going to make my mom flip. I thought I was being a kind person inviting my friend. And i had no idea my mom would react the way she did. Completely flipped out.
Really, the first problem here is not that your mother wants you to lie. The big problem is that she wants to control who you see in your own home! That is kind of outrageous. She really needs to learn to respect your rights as an adult.
She feels like I have disrespected her. She says I should have known how this would hurt her feelings. Says I have no consideration for anyone's feelings and i am putting my friend before my children.
I suppose so. Bit there is a difference between caring parental guidance and being controlling. Attempting to control at least, I usually do not listen because her demands are usually unreasonable. Like telling me lie to my friend because she did not want his "kind" around. Or yelling "take down those curtains NOW!! I don't like them!" (talking about my curtains in my home). Oh the list goes on.Once a parent always a parent, I guess.
Some parents do an amazing job of changing role from parent to friend and confidant. Others never seem to manage this.
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I remember when I got in a car accident where no one was hurt, my dad wanted me to lie about this bruise I had (from gym class) and say it was from the car accident, so he could sue the others for money. At the time, I wasn't really a Christian, but I still had morals so I said, 'No, I don't want to..' Then my Dad got all passive aggressive, which really upsets me, but in the end I did not lie about the bruise.The bible says to honor your mother and father. It also says thou shalt not lie. What if your mother tells you to lie?
Personally, Im not down with that. Yes, I have lied before, but that is not by any means a reason to do it again! That's just twisted logic. Well, you've done wrong in this regard before, what's once more?....ummm...no. Even if you have committed the same grievous, the same sin thousands of times you can still repent.
Edit: by the above statement I did not mean commit the same sin over and over, ask forgiveness but Not change your behavior, and do it over and over some more. True repentanence involves change.
