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True or false: If a man likes a woman and wants to be in a relationship with her, he WILL BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER...
Annnnd go!!!
Annnnd go!!!
I see a lot of women in these same situations and I'm just thinking bottom line, if a guy is interested, a woman WILL know it! Wondering if this theory is correct?
Haha...ok, so to revise my question. If a man likes a woman, he will pursue her and take the appropriate action to try and have a relationship with her?
What I'm trying to get at here are these relationships that I keep falling into that go gray on me. Like maybe I talk to someone a lot, hang out a lot, but I don't have that official girlfriend title. Or maybe he talks a big game, but nothing ever happens.
I see a lot of women in these same situations and I'm just thinking bottom line, if a guy is interested, a woman WILL know it! Wondering if this theory is correct?
Taking your mans hand and making him kiss you is not a notch on the bed post. It is called being comfortable with each other and allowed in my book. Jumping in bed does not come until after marriage as I am sure we all know.
Well, sometimes people can be interested in people without being interested in playing the game.Its like I said, sometimes if you are interested it takes action.
Those would be mothers. What kind of a man is defined by his possession of a woman? Not a kind that I want to be.Behind every great man is a woman who put him there.
A man defined by a woman is no man at all.
Yes a guy should let the lady know. But for Christian-Christian it isn't so simple.
Last year (before I met my ex GF) I asked another girl in my Christian small group out on a date. She very quickly refused, saying she isn't interested at all. That was like half a year ago, and things has been very odd ward between us ever since.
I kind of know what she is doing. She now have to constantly show/remind me that she isn't interested one tiny bit. Not one zip. And when she constantly do that to keep her distance, we have no chance of ever getting close as friends.
My other friend said it was great that I tried. Because if I never tried then I would never know. How else would I ever find a Christian lady to date?
But looking back, I am not sure if the risk was worth it. I broke a potential close friendship for one chance at a relationship. So suddenly she feels that all the care and good things I did for her was for dating her. She might even think the reason why I joined this small group, and eventually started leading it, was to get dates. She probably hated me for them now.
Christian-Christian relationship are super hard to get started because they are so complicated. The two people still have to see each other every week. It isn't as easy as "the guy should just let her know!" Do you ladies know how much risk are involved?
Let's say (fictional story) I go to the same church as you. I asked you out and you refused. Ok. Then I asked your friend Mary out and she also refused. Ok fine. Then I asked Jessie (you barely know her) out and she also refused. Alright.
Congratulations to myself. I am now suddenly a player in our church. I am suddenly not there for God. I am there just to find dates. All the volunteering and helping I did was not really for God, but for myself to get dates. Rumor and gossip spreads and I have to change church.
The above story didn't actually happened to me. But I don't want it to ever happen to me. And I just cannot see a solution through that, except to never try to ask any ladies in my church out on a date.
Or, I risk everything and ask the ladies out on dates. I can do this until the church label me a player and I move on.
This "story" has bothered me greatly ever since I broke up. Maybe this story came from the devil and its baseless. I kept thinking how "glad" I am that my ex wasn't a Christian and isn't a close member of my church. This thought is so evil, but it is going through my head. This thought is breaking my resolve to date Christian ladies only, and it is pushing me toward dating non-Christians. If any of you would provide me a solution to the above story I would really appreciate it. =)