As a Christian guy, I have entertained the thought of being married one day. As such, I have observed the behavior of women in the church. I think women outside the church share many of the characteristics, but to a much lesser degree and since they don't know Christ, there is a higher level of unpredictability.
I have the following basic observations.
1) Women are far more social than men generally are. I know very few men who like socializing, shooting the breeze, and being at parties just for the sake of being in social settings. Women actually look for ways to be social and part of an interconnected community ALL the time. Married men can get frustrated sometimes because women want to go socialize even on off days, where a man feels it is perfectly fine to spend an off day recharging, which usually means just doing the house chores and sitting on the sofa watching TV. I have heard this described as the "comfort idol." A lot of guys have this.
Because women are incredibly social and community minded, it follows that a man who is good socially and who is plugged into a community has a far higher likelihood of getting married. In fact, the final test that is often applied to a man, whether in a Christian or non-Christian context, is the woman asking other people who know the man about him. Women value the opinions of others in the community who know the man, and even a man that she believes is good but who others don't like is unlikely to move to the next stage with her.
The above assessment is definitely true of her friends and people in the church or community who know him well. She has to know that the people she respects have a positive view of him.
2) Women are more intentionally handy than men and often build things and are often very busy around the house. Since they value the appearance of their home and its functionality as well as its comfort, they are more likely to be intentional about how it is designed and the functionality of their living space. A lot of guys are just OK with a roof over their heads, a bed, and some food in the refrigerator.
A similar point on this one is that women are craving men who are handy. I have heard women say multiple times in my experience that a man being handy is one of the most important characteristics that they look for. For some, it is almost the primary thing they look for, and if a man doesn't know how to fix things and do projects, they won't date him.
3) Women like men who are brave and take risks.
4) As women are not "over thinkers", they are more spontaneous, and men who live in their heads are generally not going to do well. If a man finds himself overprocessing, he might want to get help for that to the extent possible if he wants to live with a woman. Partially, this is related to enjoying life. Men who are constantly analyzing and processing everything happening and that has happened is probably not enjoying life. Women live in the realm of spontaneity and they appreciate men who do the same.
Finally, I have to reiterate point one. If a man is not social and if he generally avoids social gatherings when he can, he's probably going to struggle in the department of the opposite gender. Women love to be a part of social circles. I feel like women sometimes see themselves as part of an interconnected whole, while a lot of men, especially men who isolate, view themselves as individuals who can use the world to get what they need from it, and then retreat into their private lives.
I hope this observation helps somebody.
I have the following basic observations.
1) Women are far more social than men generally are. I know very few men who like socializing, shooting the breeze, and being at parties just for the sake of being in social settings. Women actually look for ways to be social and part of an interconnected community ALL the time. Married men can get frustrated sometimes because women want to go socialize even on off days, where a man feels it is perfectly fine to spend an off day recharging, which usually means just doing the house chores and sitting on the sofa watching TV. I have heard this described as the "comfort idol." A lot of guys have this.
Because women are incredibly social and community minded, it follows that a man who is good socially and who is plugged into a community has a far higher likelihood of getting married. In fact, the final test that is often applied to a man, whether in a Christian or non-Christian context, is the woman asking other people who know the man about him. Women value the opinions of others in the community who know the man, and even a man that she believes is good but who others don't like is unlikely to move to the next stage with her.
The above assessment is definitely true of her friends and people in the church or community who know him well. She has to know that the people she respects have a positive view of him.
2) Women are more intentionally handy than men and often build things and are often very busy around the house. Since they value the appearance of their home and its functionality as well as its comfort, they are more likely to be intentional about how it is designed and the functionality of their living space. A lot of guys are just OK with a roof over their heads, a bed, and some food in the refrigerator.
A similar point on this one is that women are craving men who are handy. I have heard women say multiple times in my experience that a man being handy is one of the most important characteristics that they look for. For some, it is almost the primary thing they look for, and if a man doesn't know how to fix things and do projects, they won't date him.
3) Women like men who are brave and take risks.
4) As women are not "over thinkers", they are more spontaneous, and men who live in their heads are generally not going to do well. If a man finds himself overprocessing, he might want to get help for that to the extent possible if he wants to live with a woman. Partially, this is related to enjoying life. Men who are constantly analyzing and processing everything happening and that has happened is probably not enjoying life. Women live in the realm of spontaneity and they appreciate men who do the same.
Finally, I have to reiterate point one. If a man is not social and if he generally avoids social gatherings when he can, he's probably going to struggle in the department of the opposite gender. Women love to be a part of social circles. I feel like women sometimes see themselves as part of an interconnected whole, while a lot of men, especially men who isolate, view themselves as individuals who can use the world to get what they need from it, and then retreat into their private lives.
I hope this observation helps somebody.
