I'm a girl in high school, and the trend going on in public schools is that you have to conform to what society tells you about your sexual identity/orientation and how you can't be happy if your lifestyle or sense of identity/purpose doesn't accommodate or at least experiment with the label they give you. Literally, identity traps everywhere, in everything, and I'm terrified for my childhood friend who's in the middle of it. We've known each other 7 years, and growing to love and help him introduced me to what complete love truly is-I still love him but never told him how I felt- I guess my emotional investment drives my worry for his life, but I have this unnerving fear that something's been wrong for a long time. He's 16, known God all his life and chose to be baptized/accept Christ in his church less than a year ago but seemed to care about God less and less afterward, has a lack of connection and approval from his father that is reflected in a dependency on guys, he was bullied as a kid and is now fixated on keeping up this 'straight guy' image to keep his friends though ironically has argued against gender stereotyping a couple times, he talks of homosexuality often to his mom (who is a God-loving, praying woman I look up to, but I fear might be tiptoeing around or overlooking true needs out of fear or 'political correctness' or just lack of knowledge about the subject) but to others he speaks of avoidance of seeing gay PDA or avoiding having friendships with gay people and expresses negative or morbid jokes/opinions or just general disgust about it, his interest in girls has faded to misogyny and insecurity and refusal to date, breaks rules and sneaks out to hang out with guys of all ages and has no remorse, and he lies CONSTANTLY. I suspect a struggle with same sex attraction/experimentation with homosexual behavior that has been both perpetuated and shamed by society's oppression on teenager's journey to identity development. I've talked to him about Biblical-centered/unbiased scientific truths about homosexuality multiple times before, but he puts up his 'straight guy' front and says he doesn't care and doesn't approve of homosexuality anyway, and thinks the world's guesses are more logical. I don't want to do too much, I've also given him some space, and we haven't talked in a while, but I worry still, have lost all but this one drop of hope. Please pray for him and how he shapes his identity, etc and also pray that he doesn't get caught up in inappropriate contentography or destructive behaviors.
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