I met an extremely devoted Christian guy this year and we went out for the first time last month. He's the man of my dreams and I don't think I've ever loved any man as much as I love him.
Starting when I saw him last time, there were some things that just didn't make sense to me... and I haven't seen him at all lately. Last time I saw him, he let me know that he loved me! I was so happy! Then later that same day, he made a comment to his friend (he knew I would hear it) which meant that he would meet someone else in the future (I didn't know why he would say that and it hurt so much), and shortly after that he made a joke about me being "very willing" which didn't really fit the situation (I was helping him with something) and I felt at the time he was hinting at something else but wasn't sure what exactly he was referring to. It was as if he was pushing me away and our hug goodbye was awkward. It was like he wanted me to leave and I couldn't understand why the sudden change.
When I met up with him that day, he gave me a kiss on the cheek (I then tried to do the same but he's so much taller than me that I missed and it landed on his neck instead!). I was too embarrassed to mention it afterwards. I dressed better that day than I usually did, but nothing revealing, had my hair done before I met up with him, and I felt confident. The two of us gazed into each other's eyes for quite a long time and I really felt like things were moving forward and he was on the verge of asking me to be his girlfriend.
He's been forwarding me things via text and other than that, contact has been minimal, and there seemed to be some kind of deeper meaning to some of the things he sent me, like it had something to do with the two of us. At one time, I wasn't really paying much attention to the stuff he forwarded me. One thing I did pay attention to, was a song he sent me, which tells of someone being heartbroken and despondent, not being able to bear the thought of having to start over again and wondering if they would ever find true love.
I didn't know what was going on. But last night I went through my messages and one in particular I didn't pay attention to previously, which he sent me a week after I saw him last time. And I am in complete shock... he sent me verses from Proverbs 5... the man having to stay away from the woman because the woman is a loose woman!!! And I can't think of any reason a guy would send those scriptures to a woman other than to let her know that is how he sees her!! I'm completely heartbroken, because I am the complete opposite. Just like him, I try to obey God. Something I did must have caused him to see me like that even though nothing can be further from the truth. Was it the eye contact? (I don't know what guys think when they do that, but I was thinking of how much I loved him). Was it the accidental kiss on his neck? The fact that I looked too confident? Was I too well dressed (no short skirts or anything...)?
I just can't believe that something that is not even true can cause him to throw a future away. I've never met anyone I have so much in common with - even he was shocked at how similar we are, same exact beliefs, same future plans, everything. I really believed that God answered my prayers by sending him to me because he is everything I've ever wished for in a guy, and to me how it all happened was a complete miracle. After years of being single and not dating, he appeared in my life out of nowhere. People who see us together, think we're already married. I just can't walk away and let it end like this when he's just got the wrong assumption about me... it just doesn't make sense to me to throw away a future with the guy I'm in love with because of a misunderstanding.
I'm completely heartbroken and I keep praying for God to please let him see that it's not true and it's just a misunderstanding on his part. What do I do? How do I get him to see me so I can talk to him? How do I approach the subject? Do I just confront him and ask him why he sent me those scriptures, then take it from there? What do I say to him?? I've never been in this situation before...
(Please pray for me that God will show him the truth and bring us back together again)....
Starting when I saw him last time, there were some things that just didn't make sense to me... and I haven't seen him at all lately. Last time I saw him, he let me know that he loved me! I was so happy! Then later that same day, he made a comment to his friend (he knew I would hear it) which meant that he would meet someone else in the future (I didn't know why he would say that and it hurt so much), and shortly after that he made a joke about me being "very willing" which didn't really fit the situation (I was helping him with something) and I felt at the time he was hinting at something else but wasn't sure what exactly he was referring to. It was as if he was pushing me away and our hug goodbye was awkward. It was like he wanted me to leave and I couldn't understand why the sudden change.
When I met up with him that day, he gave me a kiss on the cheek (I then tried to do the same but he's so much taller than me that I missed and it landed on his neck instead!). I was too embarrassed to mention it afterwards. I dressed better that day than I usually did, but nothing revealing, had my hair done before I met up with him, and I felt confident. The two of us gazed into each other's eyes for quite a long time and I really felt like things were moving forward and he was on the verge of asking me to be his girlfriend.
He's been forwarding me things via text and other than that, contact has been minimal, and there seemed to be some kind of deeper meaning to some of the things he sent me, like it had something to do with the two of us. At one time, I wasn't really paying much attention to the stuff he forwarded me. One thing I did pay attention to, was a song he sent me, which tells of someone being heartbroken and despondent, not being able to bear the thought of having to start over again and wondering if they would ever find true love.
I didn't know what was going on. But last night I went through my messages and one in particular I didn't pay attention to previously, which he sent me a week after I saw him last time. And I am in complete shock... he sent me verses from Proverbs 5... the man having to stay away from the woman because the woman is a loose woman!!! And I can't think of any reason a guy would send those scriptures to a woman other than to let her know that is how he sees her!! I'm completely heartbroken, because I am the complete opposite. Just like him, I try to obey God. Something I did must have caused him to see me like that even though nothing can be further from the truth. Was it the eye contact? (I don't know what guys think when they do that, but I was thinking of how much I loved him). Was it the accidental kiss on his neck? The fact that I looked too confident? Was I too well dressed (no short skirts or anything...)?
I just can't believe that something that is not even true can cause him to throw a future away. I've never met anyone I have so much in common with - even he was shocked at how similar we are, same exact beliefs, same future plans, everything. I really believed that God answered my prayers by sending him to me because he is everything I've ever wished for in a guy, and to me how it all happened was a complete miracle. After years of being single and not dating, he appeared in my life out of nowhere. People who see us together, think we're already married. I just can't walk away and let it end like this when he's just got the wrong assumption about me... it just doesn't make sense to me to throw away a future with the guy I'm in love with because of a misunderstanding.
I'm completely heartbroken and I keep praying for God to please let him see that it's not true and it's just a misunderstanding on his part. What do I do? How do I get him to see me so I can talk to him? How do I approach the subject? Do I just confront him and ask him why he sent me those scriptures, then take it from there? What do I say to him?? I've never been in this situation before...
(Please pray for me that God will show him the truth and bring us back together again)....