Well....maybe I just never learned how to love. In my family,while growing up,the word "love' was never in anybody's vocabulary.The only time,that I heard those three magic words,"I love you",was when I was watching a TV program,and/or a movie.Therefore,I thought that saying,"I love you",was a work of fiction.
Yes,whenever I did wrong,I received "whoopin's" not spankings. One time,my father had me strip naked. Then, he repeatedly hit me with a belt. Now ,how about that for abuse? Yet,I never killed anyone. I was taught right from wrong.I did not become a serial killer. By the way,when a Black man,such as myself,harms somone due to anger,it is because he is a criminal. If a white man harms someone,because of anger,he is "mentally ill".Well,that is the "burden" that I have learned to live with.
I thank God that I got rid of my anger,and my rage by playing sports,especially by playing football. By me playing football,in High School,I could hit someone legally. Like wise, as an adult,by me playing the villain, in a play,I can be bad,and get away with being bad.
Do you really mean that a husband, who never hits his wife,is not a good husband?
FYI,she admitted that the only reason,that she married me,was to help support her family. Therefore,both of us,were to blame for our failed marriage. Besides,we both had a $150,000 dollar life insurance polices on each other. Have you ever seen any Alfred Hitchcock Stories? Most of those stories were about people murdering their spouse for the insurance money. That was in the days before "irreconcilable differences" were a reason for a divorce.