- Feb 14, 2019
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Married
hello,
I am having issue with being married. These last few weeks I have been overwhelmed with feeling unhappy.
I married my wife in 2016, after dating for 2 years. I had thought I married someone who would be my partner in life and work with me. I found out months in that she has no drive for any kind of career, other than jobs like working at Walmart. She didn’t help keep the house, I did that, she spent money that she didn’t earn, she then would gaining weight and not do anything about it. This was when I was working 50 hours a week, going to college for my BA at night full time (2 classes a week). We went to counseling and over time she started contributing, we even got to a point where I thought everything was looking better. Fast forward she is pregnant with our first daughter. Due in April. And I am not happy with our marriage. She has gained considerable weight and has stated how she will probably not lose much of it. Which I call bull on that. I am in fear she will revert back, for she hasn’t show much else in progression.
Now side note, I have started a new job where a woman at this building has been flirting with me. And she has the qualities my wife is lacking, drive, strong work ethic, responsible and mature.
Now since this has happened, I think why I am married to wife? Why do I need to struggle financially, mentally and physically supporting her? I look at her and I am not proud to have her. I believe I married her for I didn’t think any other woman finds me attractive. I have issues with self worth, grew up with an abusive father, done wonders on my self esteem.
In the end I want to be happy, with my wife it is nothing but work and struggle. Any advice would be helpful, I am leaning towards divorce. And I am well aware of Bible on divorce.
I am having issue with being married. These last few weeks I have been overwhelmed with feeling unhappy.
I married my wife in 2016, after dating for 2 years. I had thought I married someone who would be my partner in life and work with me. I found out months in that she has no drive for any kind of career, other than jobs like working at Walmart. She didn’t help keep the house, I did that, she spent money that she didn’t earn, she then would gaining weight and not do anything about it. This was when I was working 50 hours a week, going to college for my BA at night full time (2 classes a week). We went to counseling and over time she started contributing, we even got to a point where I thought everything was looking better. Fast forward she is pregnant with our first daughter. Due in April. And I am not happy with our marriage. She has gained considerable weight and has stated how she will probably not lose much of it. Which I call bull on that. I am in fear she will revert back, for she hasn’t show much else in progression.
Now side note, I have started a new job where a woman at this building has been flirting with me. And she has the qualities my wife is lacking, drive, strong work ethic, responsible and mature.
Now since this has happened, I think why I am married to wife? Why do I need to struggle financially, mentally and physically supporting her? I look at her and I am not proud to have her. I believe I married her for I didn’t think any other woman finds me attractive. I have issues with self worth, grew up with an abusive father, done wonders on my self esteem.
In the end I want to be happy, with my wife it is nothing but work and struggle. Any advice would be helpful, I am leaning towards divorce. And I am well aware of Bible on divorce.