Never getting married.

[Rigatoni]

What if God overrides that vow, and commands you to marry someone of His choosing later on? Marriage can be one of the most powerful forms of sanctification there is.

The Bible warns us to be very careful when making vows to a just and holy God - He takes them VERY seriously.

When you vow a vow to God, do not delay paying it, for he has no pleasure in fools. Pay what you vow. It is better that you should not vow than that you should vow and not pay.

I would strongly advise not to do so. Breaking a promise to God can bring about divine chastisement and severe consequences, even for a born-again believer. It's not something to take lightly. If you really feel that strongly about it, it would be best to vow to focus on God in the time being, rather than promise never to marry at all. It's up to you though, just be aware.

 

[ChicanaRose]

Yes I am.

Ok, that's great then. We each have our own calling, and if that's your calling, then may God bless it richly.

 

[blessedintrovert]

Thank you, God knows my situation and understands why I am making this vow and I intended not to break it. I am going as far as never having a dating relationship or close friendships with women inside or outside of church. I am to remain single and do what the Lord intends me to do.

 

[ChicanaRose]

The Bible warns us to be very careful when making vows to a just and holy God - He takes them VERY seriously.

I would agree if this was an overnight decision. But we don't have details on how long, how much fasting and prayers, and blessings of his pastor, it took for him to arrive at this decision.

 

[timothyu]

Who’s being selfish the Bible says that not everyone is the marriage type

Exactly

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

What if God overrides that vow, .....

???
Any example of that in Scripture ?

 

[Sam91]

It's done anyway. I hope you feel the additional clarity that this decision brings and that other's doubts don't rub off on you.

I think knowing that you're resolutely single brings a lot of peace with it.

 

[Rigatoni]

???
Any example of that in Scripture ?

If a believer makes a vow that is contrary to God's will for them, He doesn't have to honor it. God has the final word.

 

[blessedintrovert]

I have come to the conclusion over 12 years of waiting on the Lord so it was not a overnight thing.

 

[timothyu]

Thank you, God knows my situation and understands why I am making this vow and I intended not to break it. I am going as far as never having a dating relationship or close friendships with women inside or outside of church. I am to remain single and do what the Lord intends me to do.

That is fine but be careful not to flaunt your decision like others who see themselves as set apart do. Then it becomes a matter of pride.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

If a believer makes a vow that is contrary to God's will for them, He doesn't have to honor it. God has the final word.

That doesn't answer the question, and God is not the one who "honor's a man's vow"... the man must keep his word, even if it brings himself harm. (as written in Scripture posted already).

 

[blessedintrovert]

I am not flaunting my choice it is God telling to make it know so I don’t break it. I am praying the same for you.

 

[Sam91]

???
Any example of that in Scripture ?

I'm thinking of what happened with the Israelites when they were tricked into making an oath protecting strangers from neighbouring peoples. When they had worn out shoes and stale bread to pretend that they were from afar. (In Joshua)

The Israelites had to keep that promise even though it was against the Lord's instructions. Did their descendents cause some of Israel's problems?

 

[timothyu]

I am not flaunting my choice

Not saying you were, just noting a potential pitfall that may come unexpectedly

 

[blessedintrovert]

Anyway I am getting out Of this conversation.

 

[Sam91]

That is fine but be careful not to flaunt your decision like others who see themselves as set apart do. Then it becomes a matter of pride.

Hey, my brother. Are you determined to be negative? I do that sometimes not realising. I have a Christian brother who calls me out on it and I realise that I'm just being contrary for the sake of it.

If I'm mistaken, I am sorry!

 

[Rigatoni]

I would agree if this was an overnight decision. But we don't have details on how long, how much fasting and prayers, and blessings of his pastor, it took for him to arrive at this decision.

This seemed to be a decision based purely on frustration, especially based on previous threads I've read from this member. That's why I issued the warning, I want him to be careful. God truly knows his heart though.

I have come to the conclusion over 12 years of waiting on the Lord so it was not a overnight thing.

Okay brother, thanks for the clarification. Not even having close friendships with women might be a bit extreme though. I've been waiting for about the same amount of time, and yes it is frustrating. But, I'm still praying over it and waiting patiently on His timing. Remember that Jacob had to wait 14 years for his beloved.

 

[timothyu]

Hey, my brother. Are you determined to be negative?

Nope, just advising of pitfalls along the way. He will meet with opposition and that may eventually lead to a defensive attitude. This thread is a good example. He made a statement and right away everybody including me put in their 2 cents worth without even being asked lol

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Remember that Jacob had to wait 14 years for his beloved.

I think you mean he worked 14 years for her. How old was he when he married ? (is it written?)

 

[timothyu]

I think you mean he worked 14 years for her.

That could buy half a house.