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I’ve suggested and so has his dad. He’s not interested.after reading your last post, it doesn't seem he probably hasn't processed all that happened nor forgiven his mom
he really does need counselling himself and then maybe you two together
is there anyone who could convince him to go?
What do you say when someone is atPLEASE PEOPLE....your looking from the out side in... what YOU would is is NOT what she needs to hear... PRAYER!
Pray. Follow Christ. Pray. Love him in spite of his bad moods and weirdness. Hope, pray, and do not worry. God is merciful, and will hear your prayer.What do you say when someone is at
The end of their rope after years of unanswered prayers?
He’s hiding his world from you and hiding you from his world.By fine I mean I’ve gotten over it and it’s only a matter of time before I get hurt enough to say something the next time in which he won’t respond and the cycle repeats itself.
hi guys,
I’m in need of some advice. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We are both almost 30 years old with no children. Long story short - we’ve been together since we were 15. He was so sweet, kind, and affectionate when we first got together. His family went through a huge crisis (mom had affair and parents divorced) 1 year into marriage. Since then our relationship has drastically changed. He stopped wearing his wedding ring years ago, I’m locked out of his phone, and can’t follow him on social media. He’s changed all passwords and has locked me out. I’ve brought all of this up to him and he gets really mad and doesn’t say a single word. He shuts down and then days pass and we’re fine. Would you stay or go?
Having done so, it seems she might well have had good reason to suspect he was up to no good in relation to her. If not, he should have defered to her from kindness. Women have historically been extremely insecure - even more when single. To my mind, It's a matter of astonishment that she'd been asking so little of him, that when he decided to be nice, she'd thought they were getting along fine.Why do you not trust him and go snooping on his electronic devices?
Yes I agree. This is exactly what I’ve already done for multiple years. Pray and pretend it isn’t happening. That isn’t realistic anymore and I feel like this cannot be the life I was created to live and can’t help but doubt my faith at this point. In the past when I’ve mentioned these things he shuts down, as I’ve mentioned, but I feel it is worth one last shot before I make my exit. I’ve also scheduled a counseling session for myselfHonestly, most of these responses are basically telling you to shut your feelings out and pray. Yes prayer is key, but you can't just turn off your feeling until he decides to come around. Talk to him like an adult, tell him how you feel and ask him what's going on. No, Christ doesn't like divorce but wouldn't likeyr husband basically abondening your marriage mentally and emotionally. Tell him exactly how you feel and be completely honest, and ask him if he still even wants to continue the marriage, because you're having doubts. You can't make this marriage work on your own. Let him know that.
Do you two attend church together? If not, it may be time to start. Maybe have some bible studies together. Also, try talking to him at a good time. For example, when he's relaxed on the couch after he's just eaten, and don't come at him in a nagging way. Let him know if he doesn't shape up and behave like a husband, you're thinking of terminating the marriage. His reaction when you say that will show you how he truly feels. God bless you both. I hope it works out.Yes I agree. This is exactly what I’ve already done for multiple years. Pray and pretend it isn’t happening. That isn’t realistic anymore and I feel like this cannot be the life I was created to live and can’t help but doubt my faith at this point. In the past when I’ve mentioned these things he shuts down, as I’ve mentioned, but I feel it is worth one last shot before I make my exit. I’ve also scheduled a counseling session for myself
hi guys,
I’m in need of some advice. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We are both almost 30 years old with no children. Long story short - we’ve been together since we were 15. He was so sweet, kind, and affectionate when we first got together. His family went through a huge crisis (mom had affair and parents divorced) 1 year into marriage. Since then our relationship has drastically changed. He stopped wearing his wedding ring years ago, I’m locked out of his phone, and can’t follow him on social media. He’s changed all passwords and has locked me out. I’ve brought all of this up to him and he gets really mad and doesn’t say a single word. He shuts down and then days pass and we’re fine. Would you stay or go?
hi guys,
I’m in need of some advice. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We are both almost 30 years old with no children. Long story short - we’ve been together since we were 15. He was so sweet, kind, and affectionate when we first got together. His family went through a huge crisis (mom had affair and parents divorced) 1 year into marriage. Since then our relationship has drastically changed. He stopped wearing his wedding ring years ago, I’m locked out of his phone, and can’t follow him on social media. He’s changed all passwords and has locked me out. I’ve brought all of this up to him and he gets really mad and doesn’t say a single word. He shuts down and then days pass and we’re fine. Would you stay or go?
hi guys,
I’m in need of some advice. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We are both almost 30 years old with no children. Long story short - we’ve been together since we were 15. He was so sweet, kind, and affectionate when we first got together. His family went through a huge crisis (mom had affair and parents divorced) 1 year into marriage. Since then our relationship has drastically changed. He stopped wearing his wedding ring years ago, I’m locked out of his phone, and can’t follow him on social media. He’s changed all passwords and has locked me out. I’ve brought all of this up to him and he gets really mad and doesn’t say a single word. He shuts down and then days pass and we’re fine. Would you stay or go?
One more possible reason is that certain jobs require rings be removed. Many fingers have been lost because they were wearing a ring. Otherwise, it’s time to be straight with him about your feelings.Ive bought him 5 different wedding rings. They are all in the same spot. He deliberately chooses not to wear them after I have asked him to wear one. It is not a matter of losing them.
hi guys,
I’m in need of some advice. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We are both almost 30 years old with no children. Long story short - we’ve been together since we were 15. He was so sweet, kind, and affectionate when we first got together. His family went through a huge crisis (mom had affair and parents divorced) 1 year into marriage. Since then our relationship has drastically changed. He stopped wearing his wedding ring years ago, I’m locked out of his phone, and can’t follow him on social media. He’s changed all passwords and has locked me out. I’ve brought all of this up to him and he gets really mad and doesn’t say a single word. He shuts down and then days pass and we’re fine. Would you stay or go?
I know a lot of people don't wear wedding rings, but I don't understand why he won't state the reason. I can get wanting privacy on a phone -- the thing that bugs me the most is not to connect with you any way on social media. If he is on Facebook and refuses to be your friend on there, or Twitter or something else, I find that highly suspicious and unusual.
Yep. With us, it's me sitting with him and watching TV. Such a tiny thing, but it means the world to him.Sounds like he got pretty freaked out by his mother's affair and the divorce. He might be wondering (wrongly) if he can really trust you, given his mother's behaviour. It might just take him a long time to process it. Guys often process things through doing rather than talking, it might help over time if you do activities together, sports or whatever, things that he likes doing. It might sound odd but for a guy just doing something practical together without talking much can be very bonding and build trust etc.
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