Hello everyone I came here hoping people would be able to offer me some advice on getting my daughter potty trained she currently has to wear diapers 24/7 for both needs. I have tried potty training her when she was younger but we made no progress at all later on I decided to take her to a few doctors and therapists but they all told that both mentally and physically she was fine.
I just don't know what to do anymore and feel like I've run out of things to try any advice I could get would be amazing thank you.
Something is wrong even if doctors can't find it since regular 7 years olds do not want to use a diaper. My son with ASD trained at 5 and I was told 5 is the upper limit of normal (I didn't know he had ASD at that point because he wasn't diagnosed until 6 1/2) ASD in girls can be hard to spot, a friends daughter wasn't diagnosed until 12 and she wet the bed until 10.
What I did was I told my son he would toilet train when he turned 5. Every day for the 6 months before his birthday when I changed him I told him that. I told him the day after his birthday that his nappies (diapers) would be donated to other younger children who needed them and that he would use the toilet. I didn't add in any options to that. He started to say back that he would train at 5. The day after his fifth birthday I put him in undies and took away the nappies. I left pull-ups because he needed those for bed at night for a little while.
We had a 2 pee accidents and one poop and that was it.
All children this age are capable of using the toilet (unless they have greater disabilities of course) so not using the toilet is mental rather than physical. If your daughter's issue was purely physical she would be upset at having to use a diaper.
My son never used a potty and wouldn't. He would scream anytime that we tried. We went from nappies to the toilet with one of those all in one contraptions. It had a seat, handles and steps. Feeling secure and in control in getting on and off helped a lot. I never figured out what his aversion to the potty was but who wants to clean a potty anyway?
He used that toilet seat combo for a LOT of years, way past when other kids would not. They are about $50 now but well worth it if you use it for many years.
So I would decide on a date and place a sticker on the calendar and make sure she is prepared for the day. take her shopping and pick out some pretty undies, perhaps some Disney princess ones. Your daughter is a bit old but I told my son "We don't want to poop on Bob!" (he was obsessed with Bob the Builder so those were the undies I bought.) I also used a sticker chart for awhile anytime he used the toilet and gave him little prizes for every 10 goes, then every 20 goes before phasing it out.
What does your daughter say about it? She is old enough to be able to articulate what is going on. If it is a fear, some children will clam up. In that case you might need to try some other things. Potty instead of toilet for awhile, not flushing until she has left, some absorbent paper over the open toilet or even an oval-shaped baking pan under the toilet seat lined with some toilet paper. The fear could be the openess and water below her. And like above I highly recommend the all in one seat, handles and steps.