I need help regarding the direction of my life... mostly my love life. I feel stuck in my past. I still have feelings from my last attempt at a relationship and time doesn't seem to have helped much, now that it's been a little over a year. She seemed to have moved on pretty quick so I think my feelings were more deep and serious. Unfortunately I am having problems moving on and I am trying to like other girls but I can't. It took a few months for me to start liking someone else and it was a meaningless lust-based type of attraction and I lost all interest. I'm still having this issue and I can't develop feelings for someone else. I'm not a cold-hearted, emotionless person. I have always been more of the sensitive type.
I have been told at work that a coworker is interested in me, and she is cute and has a fun personality, yet the feelings just don't develop. Now I'm not sure what to do. She wants to go out with me but I just don't see things happening between us. It just feels so shallow and meaningless. I want the deep and intense romantic feelings that I had with the girl I haven't gotten over and I feel like I won't feel that again. I want to experience again that feeling of completion, peace, and quiet euphoria, but I can't see that being a possibility with anyone else (and it was real, not just a new-romance spark). It really brings me down when I feel that way and think of what could have been. So is it a matter of time for me to wait and be single until I eventually get over her, or do I need to try involving myself with someone else to try and develop feelings and move on? It seems unfair to her though and I don't want to use her.
I've worked on and improved myself, greatly improved my mental health, pursued my hobbies, spent time with friends and family, all of that stuff that should help me get over her, but it just doesn't seem to be happening. I still think of and worry about her and spend time thinking of times when we'd laugh. Sometimes it's shocking and hard to believe I lost that. I wish my brain could function normally and let me move on, but such is life for now...
If anyone has advise for me, I'd appreciate it and I am open-minded to your opinions I've been over this issue with a therapist and she just wasn't helpful so I don't see her anymore. So I am praying and trying to make the best out of things. I sometimes get a sinking feeling in my chest from this and feel too sick to eat or sleep (current situation). It's tough to work with and I don't really have anyone I want to discuss this with, so I really need someone to discuss this with me. I am sorry if I sound dramatic, but I can't help but feel this way. Has anyone else been through this same thing? Okay... God bless you all
I have been told at work that a coworker is interested in me, and she is cute and has a fun personality, yet the feelings just don't develop. Now I'm not sure what to do. She wants to go out with me but I just don't see things happening between us. It just feels so shallow and meaningless. I want the deep and intense romantic feelings that I had with the girl I haven't gotten over and I feel like I won't feel that again. I want to experience again that feeling of completion, peace, and quiet euphoria, but I can't see that being a possibility with anyone else (and it was real, not just a new-romance spark). It really brings me down when I feel that way and think of what could have been. So is it a matter of time for me to wait and be single until I eventually get over her, or do I need to try involving myself with someone else to try and develop feelings and move on? It seems unfair to her though and I don't want to use her.
I've worked on and improved myself, greatly improved my mental health, pursued my hobbies, spent time with friends and family, all of that stuff that should help me get over her, but it just doesn't seem to be happening. I still think of and worry about her and spend time thinking of times when we'd laugh. Sometimes it's shocking and hard to believe I lost that. I wish my brain could function normally and let me move on, but such is life for now...
If anyone has advise for me, I'd appreciate it and I am open-minded to your opinions I've been over this issue with a therapist and she just wasn't helpful so I don't see her anymore. So I am praying and trying to make the best out of things. I sometimes get a sinking feeling in my chest from this and feel too sick to eat or sleep (current situation). It's tough to work with and I don't really have anyone I want to discuss this with, so I really need someone to discuss this with me. I am sorry if I sound dramatic, but I can't help but feel this way. Has anyone else been through this same thing? Okay... God bless you all
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