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Mentally ill and not sure what to do

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I am now in my mid twenties, but I am exactly half way there to getting a B.S. in Marketing according my credits and classes I got credit for. I did really well in school, with the constant harassment/bullying from a class mate or other student. Then I left that school and ever since I've never completed a whole semester without withdrawing or completing the class outside the classroom due to my illness.

I look around and see people graduating, working good jobs, and making good money. I want that too, but I am unsure about the job part. I hate being picked on and targeted, but if I get a job then that will happen every day with my coworkers. My concern is will I be able to handle a normal job with my illness.

School is very taxing, even though it's online. I can handle online classes, but I'm so unsure of myself. I was enrolled for online classes lately, but withdraw because it was a lot of work just reading the class orientation stuff. I didn't factor in that that's just the class orientation things and it gives you months to get through all of that.

I don't know what I want to do with my life. If I sit here and get my disability check and relax for the rest of my life, then no one will blame me. But I see others fighting and overcoming his or her illness or obstacle and doing what they want to do. It's inspirational and it makes me feel and think I am doing nothing with my life and that's not what I want.

Does anyone have any advice on this? Thank you for any advice given.
 

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I am now in my mid twenties, but I am exactly half way there to getting a B.S. in Marketing according my credits and classes I got credit for. I did really well in school, with the constant harassment/bullying from a class mate or other student. Then I left that school and ever since I've never completed a whole semester without withdrawing or completing the class outside the classroom due to my illness.

I look around and see people graduating, working good jobs, and making good money. I want that too, but I am unsure about the job part. I hate being picked on and targeted, but if I get a job then that will happen every day with my coworkers. My concern is will I be able to handle a normal job with my illness.

School is very taxing, even though it's online. I can handle online classes, but I'm so unsure of myself. I was enrolled for online classes lately, but withdraw because it was a lot of work just reading the class orientation stuff. I didn't factor in that that's just the class orientation things and it gives you months to get through all of that.

I don't know what I want to do with my life. If I sit here and get my disability check and relax for the rest of my life, then no one will blame me. But I see others fighting and overcoming his or her illness or obstacle and doing what they want to do. It's inspirational and it makes me feel and think I am doing nothing with my life and that's not what I want.

Does anyone have any advice on this? Thank you for any advice given.

What is the nature of your mental illness? Have you been diagnosed?
 
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Schizophrenia and I've been diagnosed.

I'll get back to you tomorrow. I can relate, but don't want to divulge too much on an open forum. I'll PM you.
 
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We seem to possess some common attributes. I myself struggle with mental illnesses, having been diagnosed with depression and anorexia. I actually attend college online. Personally, from my perspective, I would recommend taking the online courses. Ask yourself these questions.

How can I best be glorify God? Do I think it would be a positive witness for Him if I were to overcome a great obstacle? If so, can I trust Him to see me through this journey if it would please Him? At life's close, do you believe you are more likely to regret a decision to go to college and perhaps build a career or to live a potentially peaceful life on disability?

Just a few things to think about; hoping and praying all goes well for you.
 
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I think online classes be a good option or distance learning at your own pace.
even without a disability its hard to go full on into study.

I used to think its a bit shameful not to work and stuff but then I look on the other side and reckon its people judging to their own standards thats bringing me down. I think if you can work and you want to its great but just beware some workplaces wont be accommodating.

And also God wants us to be at peace and healthy but we don't need to prove ourselves to the worlds standards. And sometimes it is just not healthy to be at work, and can make any kind of condition worse.

Although I have known people that are great success at what they do, but also it is at great personal cost to themselves. I think maybe just sit down and count the cost. Nobody regrets that they should have spent more time at the office.

Also theres part time work, as you are female too, thats to take into consideration. Don't try and take on a full-time men's job and then find its just not working for you. If you don't need to provide for your family - then don't feel pressured that you need to work all the time to prove you normal. People do burn out at work even when they got no diagnosis.

Pray and ask God what he wants you to do with your life, and it may be some way of serving others that is not conventional and just fits who you are.
 
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Schizophrenia and I've been diagnosed.

May God bless you! :hug: I'm currently in nursing school and worked with some schizophrenics this past semester. You've got a lot on your plate and it's a definite struggle you're going through. I just want to encourage you.

I can only attack this from the perspective of thinking it were me in your situation. I would personally regret it if I never finished a degree. If you are easily stressed- then take part-time classes until you finish. You may eventually find work doing something you consider meaningful- perhaps for a non-profit organization or something. Don't keep comparing yourself to others. The only thing you need to concern yourself with is if you're doing the best that you can. I'm a firm believer that God can use people no matter where they are in life.
 
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there are many things you can do with the life God gave you.
It doesn't need to be just one thing.
Just want to encourage you to do the things that you enjoy AND glorifies God, and sometimes thats just by being a cheerful person.

earning money - well anyone can do that really. it's not that great accomplishment in the scheme of things.
 
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I struggle with mental illness every day. Life is hard often, and I am frequently stressed and depressive, but it could always be worse. He has gotten me a better job than I ever thought I could manage, but even that includes its struggles.

In the end, these are questions beyond any of here. You must seek God personally and persistently until you have answers. I guess that's not an oversight on HIs part.
 
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I learned this about 3 years ago. The single best advice any parent can give to a child would be to "love God!" Just do that, love God, love God, love God, love God, with all thy heart, all thy soul and all thy strength.

However, it's a little hard to do and understand at first because for someone not in a personal relationship with the Father, you don't really know Him well enough to truly love Him. It's a little like trying to love a stranger at first, how does someone find it within himself or herself to love someone we don't know? I know that feeling, I was there once.

Before I go any further. You guys will want to pay good attention to what I'm about to tell you.

These are the two paths to find God when seeking Him.

The first and most common route is in Deut 4:29-31. This is what happened to the Jews in the desert for 40 years during their trial of testing. This path is so commonly practice by almost everyone seeking God that it's safe to say it looks like 99.9999999999999999% because it's common knowledge.

The very very last thing the devil wants is for anyone to have a relationship with God. The devil spends most of his effort to stop each of us from finding Him.

Deuteronomy 4:29-31 (NKJV)
29 But from there you will seek the Lord your God, and you will find Him if you seek Him with all your heart and with all your soul. 30 When you are in distress, and all these things come upon you in the latter days, when you turn to the Lord your God and obey His voice 31 (for the Lord your God is a merciful God), He will not forsake you nor destroy you, nor forget the covenant of your fathers which He swore to them.

In that time while you're searching for God, the devil will seek your greatest weakness and fear and magnify it 10 fold, 100 fold or 1000 fold in order to stop you.

During this time of testing, this is when you go through financial tribulation or physical tribulation or emotional tribulation or mental and psychological tribulation, anything he can use to stop you. This is why you go through tribulation in life in your early stages as a Christian.

Revelation 2:10-11 (NKJV)
10 Do not fear any of those things which you are about to suffer. Indeed, the devil is about to throw some of you into prison, that you may be tested, and you will have tribulation ten days. Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life.
11 “He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. He who overcomes shall not be hurt by the second death.”’

Yes, this is THIS TEST: Rev 2:10-11. This is for the Crown of Life. It's the first major test and is the hardest test you'll pass in the beginning. Nothing compares to this test. Almost every Christian goes through test, like 99.99999999%. So those of you reading this, you're not alone. It's the first of five major tests, but it's the hardest to pass because of what you don't know.

You don't know you're being tested, and you don't know the devil is throwing everything, including the kitchen sink at you.

The length of your tribulation can last months or years or decades until you finally pass this test. Moses' test lasted for 40 years in the desert. Had he only knew, he could of entered the promised land and never endure so much emotional tribulation with the Jews he was leading those 40 years.

What people do to prolong their test and suffer greater tribulation is by giving in to the deceptions the devil throws them. During this time, most people begin to have doubts about God, then confusion, then denial, then anger, then whatever other negative emotions there are. Not necessarily in those order. Some people eventually pass, some don't and they continue taking this test while adding to their tribulation as it mounts up.

What people are doing wrong is let all the negative thoughts dictate their mind about God during this period of testing the devil throws at them.

See the Crown of Life is given to those that can prove they love God. You can't prove you love God when you have negative thoughts about God. It's a little hard to find the person you love when your mind is no longer focused on loving that person, better yet, no longer focused on seeking that person.

Seek Him......diligently.......with all your heart, all your mind and all your strength.

See, what makes this test so hard to endure and pass is what we don't know. We don't realized we're being tested, and we didn't know the devil is throwing everything he can at us at this time. He does not want us to be with God.

During your time of testing, listen to sermons on TV or the internet and read the bible. Focus on the good things God did. Pray and talk to Him. Thank Him for the good things He did for us. Keep your mind focus on all the positive you can think of about God. Don't stop. Keep pushing forward. Keep pushing, keep pushing, keep pushing. Than one day it'll happen. You pass your test, and He'll reveal Himself to you.

Now is when your relationship with God really begins.


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Here's the second path to God: Proverbs 8:17.

Proverbs 8:17 (NKJV) I love those who love me, And those who seek me diligently will find me.

Notice how there's no distress and latter days mentioned in Proverbs 8:17? This was the path David took. He's the only one in the bible that found God without having to endure tribulation before God came to him. In other words, he didn't have to go through "the" test.

He loved God from the beginning and exercised his love for God in many ways before God made him King.

Very seldom do I see people follow this route: Proverbs 8:17. Even Abraham had to find God under the Deut 4:29-31 route. His faith was tested. Abraham, who do you love more, Issac or God?

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So the best advice or gift a parent can give to a child is to tell them to love God at an early age. You know how when you tell your toddler, mommy and daddy love you? God loves you too! Save them from having to take this test.

Those of you taking this test, now you know what to do. Don't let it mount up till you finally realize your life is a tribulation before passing.

And those of you who are not yet close to God but are enduring tribulation, you are one of the lucky ones. You get to pass this test before others take their test during the 7 year tribulation.


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Here' a maybe off the wall thought. I see kind people, above, giving helpful advice based on their own struggles with mental illness. I wonder if some of them, and/or similar people elsewhere, could be part of an online support group?

There are probably forums for that too. I think Yahoo has a way, also, of setting up email correspondence with people who have similar struggles.

I also wonder if it would help you to get online to see how maybe you could make your appearance and/or social skills more standard. People ought to accept us as we are, but sadly they often do not. If you conform more, perhaps that would decrease your stress levels. Maybe someone close to you could give you tips in those areas too.

Praying for wisdom and guidance and healing for you.
 
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I have a friend who struggles with mental illness and from
what you have written I'm thinking you may need to take
a medical leave from your studies, so you can focus on
your own health well-being at this time.

Later when you feel you are able to handle the study load
ease back into school. Don't take on too much too soon...
move into it slowly.

My friend did this and currently she is doing part time TV
work here in Canada, she's hosted a couple of talk shows
already and her boss said she did well. For the most part
she'd been working off-camera...but as she's been in this
program she's leaning more toward on-camera work such
as hosting a certain talk show.

My friend still has setbacks but she's working through that
and I continue to encourage/help her to do her best.
She draws a disability check and she works part time, her
goal is to be able to handle working full time in the career
she's training in (television.) My friend wants to be able to fully
support herself and not be on gov. assistance.


Currently she is living in her own apartment, paying bills
and has made great strides in using public transportation (she
doesn't drive.)
 
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