I am not at all saying that you are wrong. In fact, that is one of my biggest fears. My biggest fear is that God won't accept me because I fear him. I fear his wrath and his punishment. And my reason for wanting to obey him, and walking away from sin is that fear of his punishment. So, my reason is fear.
But the fact that you are saying, which many Christians say the same thing, that God will not accept fearful repentance is confusing to me. He did in the Bible. When the Israelites rebelled against God, he allowed other armies to overtake them, and then they would cry out to God, and God would rescue them. He would send plagues to people that rebelled, and when they cried out to him in repentance, he would remove the plague. And Jesus told people to fear God who has the power to throw both soul and body into hell. And then in Revelations he sent plagues to warn people, and he even sent an angel that cried out in a loud voice (and this is paraphrasing), 'He said in a loud voice, "Fear God and give him glory, because the hour of his judgment has come. Worship him who made the heavens, the earth, the sea and the springs of water." Revelation 14:7
It does sound like the Bible condones fearing God's wrath. But at the same time, that is just my understanding of scripture.
Oh yeah, there is also the fact that Jesus talked about the sheep or goat (I forgot which one). One group went into outer darkness and the other group went into everlasting life. The one group that went into outer darkness did not feed the poor, did not visit the sick, and did not clothe the naked. But the other group did. But what if someone only clothe the naked, visited the sick, and fed the poor out of fear of being thrown into outer darkness. Why would Jesus warn people if he did not want people to fear?
2 Timothy 1:7: For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
1 John 4:18: There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; for fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not reached perfection in love.
Romans 8:15: For you did not receive a spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received a spirit of adoption. When we cry, “Abba! Father!”
Philippians 4:6-7: Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Romans 8:34-39: Who is to condemn? It is Christ Jesus, who died, yes, who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who indeed intercedes for us. Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written,
“For your sake we are being killed all day long; we are accounted as sheep to be slaughtered.”
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.