If you view it from that perspective you’ll see He’s doing the same with others around the world. Surrendering to the lesson is key: not my will but Thy will be done. That has the greatest impact on your tenure.
Everything you’re facing will serve you well in your work and future union. For a time all seems bleak. You can’t see the ram in the bush up ahead.
You are blessed to be intolerable by the world and our culture. A Godly woman will not care about these things.Thanks for the encouragment! It's not just financial stability but other things that has changed as well. Things are a bit more complex now. In our culture, these situations are tolerable enough but our culture is rapidly becoming more Westernized and less women could tolerate these little inconveniences.
Our character has a lot to do with how we can do in a close relationship.
We will need deep correction, just so we are capable of enjoying and benefiting from marriage the really right way; and this will not all come beforehand.
And my opinion is I need to encourage her to make sure God really is changing her so she does things differently but in the right way. And the same goes for me; only God can change me to how He wants me, and then I can be submissive to what He has me doing, after we mature more.
Before I met her, in prayer I was going through these scriptures and already practicing these things, just in case God would have me get married or get into a close sharing relation with someone.
So, when I get into a problem with her or anything, I do well to pray until I am inspired, even, how to understand something, the way I understand in His peace, and not how I see things during lusts or paranoia or bitterness or frustration or anxiety.
And my sweetie can call me out on this; while she may still have certain problems, God uses her to help me be more feeling for others.
He includes us in His process, and He will not, therefore, have us succeeding without learning how to love with our various Jesus brothers and sisters, especially whomever He has prepared and chosen to be close to us.
God prepares the ones He uses to help us to be conformed to the image of Jesus while we learn with one another how to relate with God and how to love as family . . . so now we can minister this to others who already are our family, plus to ones we help to get adopted.
Is there a point when you realized your readiness for marriage? Was it an internal alarm, sense of peace, craving, or something else? How did you know its time?
Is there a point when you realized your readiness for marriage? Was it an internal alarm, sense of peace, craving, or something else?
How did you know its time?
I considered this last night and addressed it in my musings on home. The differences in approach and temperament are beneficial to each. Although I don’t pour over scripture to the degree I did in the past. I am bettered if the Lord inspires him to do so. My attention has been redirected to other areas.
The most important factor is communication, communication, communication and having good listening skills is imperative.
Basically, because i knew i could never find another woman that came even near to equalling my first and only mate. Had one woman tell me i was still emotional attached to my former wife so she had no further interest in me.
One way to find out whether its of the Lord is to get a free trial (if possible) to one of the Jewish dating sites to just find out how easy or difficult it may be to find someone of similar beliefs and interests.
My wife was never very good at admitting dependency and being honest about being in so deep there was no real way of getting out.
Puddle glum in C S Lewis's book sums her up quite well, a beautiful soul, but always seeing the down side.
And I can say, the beauty she has been, and the love shown to be and the kids, has been astounding, but she would never know how to admit this. God bless you
Like when dating it's better to be upfront right-off and have mentioned from the get-go in this thread that your interest in marriage (i assume) is the second time around with a forever companion, soulmate and lover.
I'd also throw in one should ask themselves just how ready are they to fully commit, even in the super hard times? And how much are the willing to sacrifice for marriage?
Far to many divorce when things get tough. Life will change, heck everything changes. If that seems to much for someone then may not be ready for marriage just yet.
If you don't want them to change then you may be in for a surprise. Granted some changes may be bad. But gotta find a way to deal with it (well except in obvious cases like abuse of course).
And sadly enough gaining weight is an issue I've seen people (especially men) leave their wife over. >.<
All well and good going into marriage and through the honeymoon. However,But oh! the blessing it is to have a friend to whom one can speak fearlessly on any subject; with whom one's deepest as well as one's most foolish thoughts come out simply and safely. Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. —Dinah Maria Mulock Craik
It is one thing to hear with the natural ear and another to do so with the heart. Christ-like love compels us to do the latter and administer grace to each.
All well and good going into marriage and through the honeymoon. However, after the honeymoon it's true that gals are from Venus and guys from Mars.
Every married couple also needs some space during differing times ... so they don't say harsh words they'll regret.
First the desire and a true openness to marry and then a huge dose of humility to know your own faults and weaknesses clearly and the want to be better in the service of another person and a life of familiarity with them. And the patience and wisdom to be able to see or recognize who would be a good partner for you.
What exactly did that look like for you both?
For me an my fiance, we both just had the feeling that God was pushing us to tie the knot, which we're making plans to have happen soon. We have been together since we were 13-14 years old and since scripturely we both feel obligated to marry one's sexual partners, being together for 8 years, we were sure that God was letting us know independant of eachother that the time's coming up. I suppose just prayerfully consider it.Is there a point when you realized your readiness for marriage? Was it an internal alarm, sense of peace, craving, or something else?
How did you know its time?
For me an my fiance, we both just had the feeling that God was pushing us to tie the knot, which we're making plans to have happen soon.
First the desire and a true openness to marry and then a huge dose of humility to know your own faults and weaknesses clearly and the want to be better in the service of another person and a life of familiarity with them. And the patience and wisdom to be able to see or recognize who would be a good partner for you.
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