Marriage Readiness

[AbbaLove]

Both men and women who desire marriage should realize they each have faults and learn how to navigate a relationship and take responsibility for their part in it.

Your reply is exactly my point and we hopefully agree that from a women's perspective (and my perspective) that most woman have better listenig skills and thus generally better communicators assuming the person on the other end has good listening skills

So if there is a breakdown in communication (for instance on a blind date) i'd agree it's usually the man that's at fault. Women do have a special wisdom that men often overlook or dismiss (unfortunately). I've always found Proverbs 3:13-18 interesting in that "she" is used when referring to "wisdom"

I'm just saying that LaBella prepare herself just in case the man she may be attracted to is still operating on another wavelength. So she's not too quick to write him off, but rather use her God-given wisdom to see if he's educable

 

[bèlla]

The feminist movement has no influence on a woman who loves her partner, respects him, and desires to make the marriage work. An individual’s choice to quit is likely due to issues in the union. Not social movements.

The nature of a man differs for every person. Christian men don’t hold a monopoly on a specific temperament. And what appeals to one is less so to others. The same is true for women.

We’re aren’t raving feminists seeking to usurp a man’s authority or rule him. And some men don’t desire the helm and more than a few lack the capacity to lead.

 

[bèlla]

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I'm just saying that LaBella prepare herself just in case the man she may be attracted to is still operating on another wavelength. So she's not too quick to write him off, but rather use her God-given wisdom to see if he's educable

I think its important to be honest with the things you can live with. I’m attracted to purpose driven men with good leadership and communication skills. The absence of these (for me) is too difficult to surmount.

But all relationships require compromise.

 

[Nicholina]

I think its important to be honest with the things you can live with. I’m attracted to purpose driven men with good leadership and communication skills. The absence of these (for me) is too difficult to surmount.

But all relationships require compromise.

He may just need someone to lead to bring this skill out in him

 

[bèlla]

He may just need someone to lead to bring this skill out in him

That may be so. But I’m not the woman for him. There are others who are better suited for the task.

I think its important you choose a partner you can accept as is. If you go into a marriage expecting to change or improve this or that you may be disappointed. Too many women do this in my opinion.

 

[mama2one]

many woman have a big list that MUST be met, also
not saying you do, as don't know

 

[bèlla]

many woman have a big list that MUST be met, also not saying you do, as don't know

There’s a big difference between seeking a companion in your twenties and forties. You’re in different seasons and have a greater sense of self.

The absence of discrimination doesn’t guarantee a happy ending. Many people marry for the wrong reasons and their challenges are a result of that decision.

Knowing what you can live with is a must. I have no jurisdiction over anyone’s preferences and every one has them.

Indicating your desires doesn’t lessen opportunities. I had several last year and two that were really promising. My dilemma is finding that in a Christian guise. I haven’t encountered him thus far.

And I don’t think that desiring a companion who loves the Lord, knows his purpose, and is a good leader with self-control is asking for much. I’ve found the same (minus faith) in secular men.