Manly man, and girly girl..

[axydavid]

Yes he said he'd get the kids and they gave me prozac so I did a suïcide attempt and then I had to go there.

I need some kind of time-line here, why were you dumped after 12 years?

 

[Messy]

I need some kind of time-line here, why were you dumped after 12 years?

He said I was a kid and nuts and he was chatting with someone else. In fact we were just having a hard time but he was quite shocked after the attempt so he called me there to say he wanted to divorce e and I asked if I could take someone else. He said take 10 if you want. 7 weeks later he called if I would come back, but it was too late. I believed I was married, we did that ourselves, and Leviticus says you can't go back or the land will spit you out. Couldn't tell him that. I was just nuts, demon possessed whatever. Fell from my faith then.

 

[axydavid]

He said I was a kid and nuts and he was chatting with someone else. In fact we were just having a hard time but he was quite shocked after the attempt so he called me there to say he wanted to divorce e and I asked if I could take someone else. He said take 10 if you want. 7 weeks later he called if I would come back, but it was too late. I believed I was married, we did that ourselves, and Leviticus says you can't go back or the land will spit you out. Couldn't tell him that. I was just nuts, demon possessed whatever. Fell from my faith then.

A counter to leviticus would be Mark 10:9 "Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." Maybe even going on trough Mark 10:11-12 ?
Falling from faith, sounds painful, I see that in your profile it says that you are Christian so I take that you recovered your faith?

 

[Messy]

A counter to leviticus would be Mark 10:9 "Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." Maybe even going on trough Mark 10:11-12 ?
Falling from faith, sounds painful, I see that in your profile it says that you are Christian so I take that you recovered your faith?

Yes I was mislead. A year later I found that out and I repented and cut the relationship off and came back to God.

 

[axydavid]

Yes I was mislead. A year later I found that out and I repented and cut the relationship off and came back to God.

What happened afterwards?

 

[Messy]

What happened afterwards?

I wanted to reconcile and first he said yes but I had been living together in sin for a year, so lol I understand he didn't want to. He dated someone else. They would marry, had set a date in may. That was a half year later and then the other one wanted to talk things out and said he wanted a Bible while he was an atheist who said the sinner ' s prayer to do me a favor and everyone warned me but we married then within a month, which was a disaster from day 1. Within a month he was on pot again. 1,5 year later he left.

 

[Rhamiel]

I play Dota1 and Dota2. I look very girly so a lot of my guy friends were surprised when they knew.

I also love playing chess. Recently, a guy friend pointed out that I'm the first girl he knew that knows how to play one.lol.

I'm in an engineering program now. So I tinker a lot with motors, circuits, and controls.
Yep, no mani-pedi for me.

I would love to play you in chess some time
I must apologize in advance
I do not have much skill at the game
but it IS such an enjoyable way to spend time
and I can think of few who I would want to spend the time with besides you

 

[kittysbecute]

A lot of gender stuff is all just stereotypical, or cultural. But I will mention stuff that is stereotypically stuff less associated with girl stereotypes.
I like playing computer/video games; enjoy hiking, and bike riding; I don't wear makeup, I can get ready to go in 5 minutes because I don't really care too much how I look; I'm a percussionist, and I studied biblical hebrew (both cases I was one of the few girls there); I enjoy martial arts; I don't care for pink, and I absolutely hate shopping - except for books, electronics (music/dvds/etc), or toys. I dislike romance movies or books (adventure is way better). I am not emotionally expressive - though that is not a gender thing but actually a personality thing. I enjoy going to baseball games, I know some stuff about computers. I really don't care about celebrities and famous people much and don't really watch any popular tv stuff (this is more just being alienated from pop culture in a way I suppose - rather than a gender roll). I am not extremely fond of cooking and dishes are the worst. I generally don't flirt because I don't see the point of wasting energy on that and potentially leading someone on - but because of that sometimes guys feel comfortable talking to me and telling me about all the girls they like or think look nice. It was weird when it was someone I had a mild crush on, surprising other times, and refreshing to be trusted as a friend other times.
I really dislike getting attention.
I'm sure theres probably more that I can't remember. But then I do have quite a few stereotypically girly traits as well.
Another thing I just remembered. I was a history major and most of my classmates were guys; yet I went to a university that had far more female students.

I'm not really into fashion and mainly wear just jeans and a t-shirt. I'm not into crafts or sewing. I've never had a manicure or pedicure, simply because I'd rather save my money, lol. I'm not always that expressive of how I feel and prefer to let my emotions play out before I react.

Same here for all those things. I think nice nails are nice.. but never had them done anywhere - seems a waste of money. If someone else paid for it though then maybe I would.

 

[Rhamiel]

i do not want to sound sexist or anything

but do you think some of this is just a cultural preference for "maleness"?

like women who act more "masculine" or at least are interested in stuff men are traditionally interested in are seen as "cool" or at least respected

like that is almost seen as "better"

men who act in more feminine ways are still looked down on

 

[Messy]

i do not want to sound sexist or anything

but do you think some of this is just a cultural preference for "maleness"?

like women who act more "masculine" or at least are interested in stuff men are traditionally interested in are seen as "cool" or at least respected

like that is almost seen as "better"

men who act in more feminine ways are still looked down on

I wonder if people see that as cool. I always thought I was pretty cool when I tried to act as a guy but it was plain out weird and noone liked me for it. Lol I think that was because my sister was too old and interested in boyfriends and I always hung out with my brother. I started to copy him. When I had a crush on someone I started to act 'cool' hahahahahahaha, still do it a bit.
My ex, when he first started talking to me, said: Why don't you ever wear a skirt? I said: that is effeminite. He was like: uhm.. okay. Lol on the first date I wore a boys bike costume hahahahahahahaha. We would go to the city, but he decided we'd stay at home when he saw it.
I think what most do appreciate is when a woman can be a good mom and such, like that Proverbs 39 woman. If she's only worried about her nailpolish that isn't very practical.
I like it when a guy is a bit emotional. Those stupid ones that don't understand anything, no thanks.
Maybe that is in American culture. Here we like the guy that plays with the kids, cooks you a meal, sucks the dust, works parttime to have a dad day, isn't bossy and is just friendly.
I dated a guy who had too much female hormones. That was funny. He didn't look female but lol he'd act like I used to do when I had my period.

 

[axydavid]

I wanted to reconcile and first he said yes but I had been living together in sin for a year, so lol I understand he didn't want to. He dated someone else. They would marry, had set a date in may. That was a half year later and then the other one wanted to talk things out and said he wanted a Bible while he was an atheist who said the sinner ' s prayer to do me a favor and everyone warned me but we married then within a month, which was a disaster from day 1. Within a month he was on pot again. 1,5 year later he left.

I wish I had more brain power because I can't completely understand what you're saying
Can you redo your post?

 

[Messy]

I wish I had more brain power because I can't completely understand what you're saying
Can you redo your post?

I wanted to reconcile but that wasn't possible anymore. My ex would marry someone and then that boyfriend from the mental institution came back, acted as if he was interested in God, so I thought God now approved and married him and we divorced 1,5 year later.

 

[axydavid]

I wanted to reconcile but that wasn't possible anymore. My ex would marry someone and then that boyfriend from the mental institution came back, acted as if he was interested in God, so I thought God now approved and married him and we divorced 1,5 year later.

Ok thank you, now I understand. So what's going to happen now?

 

[Messy]

Ok thank you, now I understand. So what's going to happen now?

I'm gonna wait and marry Tom Mix when I'm 88.

 

[Hawthorne]

I'm gonna wait and marry Tom Mix when I'm 88.

Does he know this yet?

 

[MiniEmu]

That Tom Mix will be the luckiest man around.

 

[Messy]

Does he know this yet?

No, don't tell him.

 

[Messy]

That Tom Mix will be the luckiest man around.

You bet!

 

[SnowyMacie]

i do not want to sound sexist or anything

but do you think some of this is just a cultural preference for "maleness"?

It's almost entirely cultural. Most studies have shown that any psychological differences (which when you study a large enough population, it becomes less and less strong) are the result of culture. This thread itself shows that.

like women who act more "masculine" or at least are interested in stuff men are traditionally interested in are seen as "cool" or at least respected

like that is almost seen as "better"

men who act in more feminine ways are still looked down on

This is becoming less and less so, but it's still unfortunately true.

 

[Rhamiel]

lol should I bring up the topic of bronies?