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PeculiarTreasure

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Hmmm...part of me has some uneasiness....but that's because of the "structure" environment that I have been through. But...yours is under the guidance of medical professionals. Just make sure you understand everything going into it. All the rules...more important WHY and the hearts behind the rules. Because of where I spent for year, many people after leaving couldn't ease back into society, and went "crazy" is that that went into a lifestyle of partying, sex, and drugs. When they had the "freedom" they couldn't control themselves...because it was so much at a time. And That they ran from the Lord forever.

I know it may be hard, leaving home for that long time. But in interest of the bigger picture of your life, and the future husband and kids you may have (unless the Lord has called you to Singlehood). Even more so...it may be an amazing ministry helping other girls who feel like you, or who are in situations like you.


I truly believe it's a legitimate place. I heard about first from a Christian magazine that I fully trust. Also a lot of big name Christian aritist support it too. I assure you it's nothing like you went through. :hug: Thanks for your concern though. I'll PM you the link to it and you can look at it.

From what I've seen and heard about it it's basically like you described. An amazing ministry to help girls. :)
 
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I truly believe it's a legitimate place. I heard about first from a Christian magazine that I fully trust. Also a lot of big name Christian aritist support it too. I assure you it's nothing like you went through. :hug: Thanks for your concern though. I'll PM you the link to it and you can look at it.

From what I've seen and heard about it it's basically like you described. An amazing ministry to help girls. :)
Hehe, good. Cause it would only make things much worse :).
 
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Hehe, good. Cause it would only make things much worse :).

Sure would. I feel a bit better about things. I know it would take a lot of getting used to but once I do I think I'll be just fine and actually embrace my time there.:)

I've decided to go ahead and apply and see what happens. Leave my acceptance in the Lord's hands.
 
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Sounds like great fun!:p ^_^
Haha, it was :)

Up to this point it was sooo boring. Basically, this

Prescription from the Dr. for 800 mg of Iburpforen

You have 200 mg tablets

How many tablets do you give!?

So yeah, my $75 book for the first ohhh sixteen chapters that's basically what it talked about.

But today I got to figure out Insulin shots, and how much fluids to give to Burn patients based on body weight, and time. So a *little* more interesting.

Sindyan
 
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Dosages? meh I don't want to know.

Well between talking with the Great Father and checking out good book on loneliness. All starts with one emotion, fear.

Fear and negitive thinking prevents a person from being themselves around others. Avoiding conflicts, insecurities, shame, self doubt, and anxiety.

Second part is need for control. Fear shrinks the social world so much that try to control what space one has. Lure people into it or hope someone notices. When in large group or crowd, anxiety of not having control prevents a person from being themselves.

Lack of faith, ever human being has written in their souls for the heart's desire to share themselves with another. God created us with relationships in mind, but when one cuts themselves from others. Like creates a vacuum, and that makes the heart's desire seems like the cure all. When in reality it is not enough. Placing way too much weight on equal yoked situation.

God told me commitment. Natural tendency to allow God to have control in all things in life except maybe finding love in my life or playing my guitar. Or fill in whatever desire that one wants control over. I found it surprizing my lack of faith I have in this area. REALLY the fear and desire for cure all created discontentment. That discontentment has become a wedge between my trust in the God in this area. When in reality the folly lies in my fear of being social, which created the problem in the first place.

-learn what negitive thoughts preventing one from crossing that bridge to be social with others
-learn positive thinking and additude, if anything is negitive make sure there is solid proof to back it before it is believed
-suffering from shame or guilt, solve these problems(I used to carry my own shame with my porn addiction, I am not afraid of it anymore for I humbled myself and tackled it)
-let go of one's death grip on whatever desire. Control should be in God's hands, not ours. Freedom is in having no control and breathing in unpredictiblility and risk
-commitment, return trust in God that he will help you. He has a plan, always does. Reflect thru one's own life to see where his hand has played if need proof.

My own considered opinion. I wanted to post in turn offs that greatest problem is when person doesn't allow themselves to be themselves. Yes there are people who look to physcial to judge of potiential mate, but there are others who look towards personality. I think I been robbing people in my home town the chance to know who I am. I think lot other people think of their weight or some issue prevent them from shining. Do not look to society that is drowning in sin for concept of normalacy. Be who you are meant to be, which is one's own self. Yes, we all are not perfect and can use some improvement. But so can everyone else in the room, at work, or whereever.
 
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Dosages? meh I don't want to know.

Well between talking with the Great Father and checking out good book on loneliness. All starts with one emotion, fear.

Fear and negitive thinking prevents a person from being themselves around others. Avoiding conflicts, insecurities, shame, self doubt, and anxiety.

Second part is need for control. Fear shrinks the social world so much that try to control what space one has. Lure people into it or hope someone notices. When in large group or crowd, anxiety of not having control prevents a person from being themselves.

Lack of faith, ever human being has written in their souls for the heart's desire to share themselves with another. God created us with relationships in mind, but when one cuts themselves from others. Like creates a vacuum, and that makes the heart's desire seems like the cure all. When in reality it is not enough. Placing way too much weight on equal yoked situation.

God told me commitment. Natural tendency to allow God to have control in all things in life except maybe finding love in my life or playing my guitar. Or fill in whatever desire that one wants control over. I found it surprizing my lack of faith I have in this area. REALLY the fear and desire for cure all created discontentment. That discontentment has become a wedge between my trust in the God in this area. When in reality the folly lies in my fear of being social, which created the problem in the first place.

-learn what negitive thoughts preventing one from crossing that bridge to be social with others
-learn positive thinking and additude, if anything is negitive make sure there is solid proof to back it before it is believed
-suffering from shame or guilt, solve these problems(I used to carry my own shame with my porn addiction, I am not afraid of it anymore for I humbled myself and tackled it)
-let go of one's death grip on whatever desire. Control should be in God's hands, not ours. Freedom is in having no control and breathing in unpredictiblility and risk
-commitment, return trust in God that he will help you. He has a plan, always does. Reflect thru one's own life to see where his hand has played if need proof.

My own considered opinion. I wanted to post in turn offs that greatest problem is when person doesn't allow themselves to be themselves. Yes there are people who look to physcial to judge of potiential mate, but there are others who look towards personality. I think I been robbing people in my home town the chance to know who I am. I think lot other people think of their weight or some issue prevent them from shining. Do not look to society that is drowning in sin for concept of normalacy. Be who you are meant to be, which is one's own self. Yes, we all are not perfect and can use some improvement. But so can everyone else in the room, at work, or whereever.
Haha, we just got off topic :)
 
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does 'lonelines' have to include a main dish of reminders of how very single you are served with a side of quick recaps of past relationship failures??? This is a brand new year for me, someone please tell me it gets better...:sigh:
 
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Servant, not necessarily. As long as you spend time with The Alone, you will find inner contentment or inner peace. As far as r'ship failures are concerned, I'm in the process of letting God handle those. R'ships, in a sense are like buses; if you miss the first bus, there's always another one behind it.

I've been alone, and wanting a r'ship; however what I want and what God wants are 2 different things. What Sindyan said is true. The playing of his guitar is a gift he has been given and he's using it, much in the same way I'm taking voice lessons and singing in the opera chorus. Look for your talents and then develop them. As you develop them, you'll meet people with similar interests as you. Do the "legwork" (commitment, willingness, etc.,) but let God find the person for you. It will happen when you least expect it to.
 
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You know C, this happens to be the first time where I actually wanted to hear the truth. For some "strange" reason, this has somehow brought a form of peace to my mind and heart, whereas before I wouldn't be so inept to face what I've found to be a very sensitive subject for me.

I actually enjoyed reading this post. Thank you for your willingness to offer sound words. I am in agreement with you completely. I know when I let "it" go, God will do what He needs.

Thanks again for ushering in the peace I have been searching for.

May the Lord continue to bless you with His words of truth and peace. :)
 
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Well, I turned in my application yesterday. I'm leaving my acceptance in the Lord's hands. :prayer:


Getting off the subject for a bit I just really need prayer right now due to a certain situation. (not related to anything about my application) It's just tearing me up. I know it shouldn't bother me but it does.:(
 
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