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servantsheart4God

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It's hard for me to be lonely. I have 2 dogs, a cat, 2 birds and a fish. They really keep me company and I love it!!

that's so neat - you have an aray of pets! do you talk to them?
 
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Singing, do you have a pet, like a dog or cat, which you can stroke or pat? The "touch" aspect is always important. The animals used in pet therapy in Nursing Homes get petted a lot by the patients. It cracks the isolation in a very non-threatening way.

I do have a cat. She's my baby!:)
 
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now i KNOW i am called to being "alone" right now...

all the talk of pets and their undying devotion reminds me of the small pooch I had, he was my baby, as was his name. He was so attached to me as I have the tendency to get attached to both humans AND pets! So it worked out fine. But there was a problem. It was much like having a child, having to care for the little one ALL THE TIME - took my attention, my love & affection...hmm...reminds me of my past relationships...:doh:.

Well, come to the realization that I had to eventually give him away - couldn't afford to care for him any longer. In the process of this very difficult and trying time, God spoke to me..."The undivided attention and constant attentiveness towards Baby is what I desire from you. I have caused you to get rid of him to show you this." - was all I heard, was also all I needed and was all God had to do to get MY "attention". Much like the many failed relationships of my past...
 
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now i KNOW i am called to being "alone" right now...

all the talk of pets and their undying devotion reminds me of the small pooch I had, he was my baby, as was his name. He was so attached to me as I have the tendency to get attached to both humans AND pets! So it worked out fine. But there was a problem. It was much like having a child, having to care for the little one ALL THE TIME - took my attention, my love & affection...hmm...reminds me of my past relationships...:doh:.

Well, come to the realization that I had to eventually give him away - couldn't afford to care for him any longer. In the process of this very difficult and trying time, God spoke to me..."The undivided attention and constant attentiveness towards Baby is what I desire from you. I have caused you to get rid of him to show you this." - was all I heard, was also all I needed and was all God had to do to get MY "attention". Much like the many failed relationships of my past...


God has been teaching me this too. The verse "Be still and know that I am God" has come into my head. I watched this video today and it brought me to tears. It's so amazing and so convicting. :bow:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvxWVHzEZ1w
 
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Well, I'm looking into a Christian counseling program. It's a few states away and it's a residental place made just for girls/women ages 13-28. They reccomend you sign a 6 month contract. You have to apply to this program so so I'm not sure if they'll even accept me or not but God will take care of that. If he wants me there He'll get me in. It takes awhile to get everything in order so I probably wouldn't be going till next year sometime if accepted. If ya'll could pray for me that'd be most awesome. I feel somewhat guilty about applying because I know my case isn't nearly has severe has most girls there but I feel like I have some things in my life/past that I haven't dealt with and I feel I need to in order to live a full life. Thanks ya'll. God bless you all.
 
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now i KNOW i am called to being "alone" right now...
I have to be alone right now, but I would not call it a calling. For me it just is. It is something I have to go through to get where I want to be. I learned an interesting term today, "inspirational dissatisfaction". Meaning a state where we are dissatisfied into action/motivation. And I think that describes me pretty well right now with regards to my particular loneliness.
 
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Sing, you deserve to be happy as much as anyone else. Please forget about your age when you go, even if it IS next year. You'll be that much stronger in years to come to pass on to others what you have learned.

I've done this with other aspects of my life in which others came to benefit from what I learned. They had to make the choice, though; I didn't impose it upon them. Some of them were grandparents, so don't feel guilty. That's negative thinking. We'll be praying that you're accepted and that everything falls into place for you.
 
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Thanks! I downloaded the application today. 32 pages! :eek:
That's a lot of pages! But it will allow them to better understand you, where your coming from, and how you individually need help! I'm very excited to hear about this, and I really hope, if God opens doors for you to enter into this program, that God will use it to help you find freedom from negative thought patterns, and your past! I pray for the best!
-Anthony
 
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Thanks everyone for your encouragment and prayers. I read over all the rules and regulations last night and it's a bit overwhelming. Everything is so structed (which I know it has to be) but I just don't want to feel like I'm in a "prision" lol! Also they pretty much require you to stay at least 6 months. Which is a loooonnng time. (I'm very much a homebody) I'm just so overwhelmed right now ya'll. I'm gonna continue to pray about it and see what God says. If He says to apply I will but I just don't know right now.
 
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I am currently reevaluating my findings and understanding of loneliness.

I found that loneliness I thought I conquored was just deep version of it. I finally realized how my loneliness is effecting my judgement when I am around sisters.

Some of behaviors that seemed normal might acually be indicators of loneliness. I think what really caught my attention was "emotions turned inward.".

I will post again if I discover anything intresting.
 
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Thanks everyone for your encouragment and prayers. I read over all the rules and regulations last night and it's a bit overwhelming. Everything is so structed (which I know it has to be) but I just don't want to feel like I'm in a "prision" lol! Also they pretty much require you to stay at least 6 months. Which is a loooonnng time. (I'm very much a homebody) I'm just so overwhelmed right now ya'll. I'm gonna continue to pray about it and see what God says. If He says to apply I will but I just don't know right now.
Hmmm...part of me has some uneasiness....but that's because of the "structure" environment that I have been through. But...yours is under the guidance of medical professionals. Just make sure you understand everything going into it. All the rules...more important WHY and the hearts behind the rules. Because of where I spent for year, many people after leaving couldn't ease back into society, and went "crazy" is that that went into a lifestyle of partying, sex, and drugs. When they had the "freedom" they couldn't control themselves...because it was so much at a time. And That they ran from the Lord forever.

I know it may be hard, leaving home for that long time. But in interest of the bigger picture of your life, and the future husband and kids you may have (unless the Lord has called you to Singlehood). Even more so...it may be an amazing ministry helping other girls who feel like you, or who are in situations like you.
 
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