Loneliness

[AWorkInProgress]

wow, i do agree w/ syndyan & crucifix, but just alot of what ALL of us are expressing is really great and helpful stuff for me, and i wasn't even the one that started this thing!

In any case, i feel that we are all on the right track and that's very encouraging. I know that i can look to my cf peers to help me and uplift my spirit .

You all sound like really great individuals that have a healthy idea about being or feeling lonely and know how to combat it. God says in His Word "My people perish for lack of knowledge". Now We just need the courage & faith, huh? But you guys are great. Please keep posting and encouraging eachother, this stuff is really useful for me.

I can comment and respond on just about everyone that has since posted in here, but that would take me forever in a lifetime, but just know that all of you have been a real blessing to me and i'm sure to Singing4MyLord.

Great job guys putting yourselves out there .

As always, God bless & His best to you all.

In His Service,
sh4G

I have another theory about addictions and moods. Based off of how failure and success effects one's mood. Got me thinking about it when said uplifting the spirit.

Try to avoid thinking about problems or failures in life that you have no control over(or atleast can't solve right now). Allow yourself to get good rest so you are at your full potiential. Organize your day with problems to solve that are best suited to you. If you have a major project or learning a new skill, break it down into smaller tasks.

I find when I think about the girlfriend issue, my mood gets down and look for something to make me feel better. Or if I think about how my appartment needs serious cleaning, I get overwhelmed and get lost in things I shouldn't be doing. YET if I make check list of things to do and execute them, I find mood is better. As well as sense of completion after.

Set up your day with problems that you can solve. Take any task or skill your trying to learn and break them down into smaller tasks.

 

[Crucifix]

That's exactly what I do, Work. It brings a sense of accomplishment and good feelings to do a few small things, even if you don't get everything done you hoped to.

 

[servantsheart4God]

SH4G, what has just happened as you described in your post is what I said to another CF member about a different topic: "We never know when what we have posted will be of benefit to others, known only by God."

Thanks for the affirmation and please take some time to put your thoughts into words about what you have read. Your opinion counts too!

Sindyan, leave it in God's hands and ask for our continued prayers and support for this. I also wouldn't hesitate to ask if any of the members are nurses who might be able to help your out with the academics OR clinicals! I did and it was a very growing, positive time for me.

thank C!! well, i don't feel equiped to give advice or my point-of-view rather, but my specialty IS expressing and verbalizing what i am going through and apparently it HAS somehow helped someone else.

Thanks again guys.

 

[servantsheart4God]

I have another theory about addictions and moods. Based off of how failure and success effects one's mood. Got me thinking about it when said uplifting the spirit.

Try to avoid thinking about problems or failures in life that you have no control over(or atleast can't solve right now). Allow yourself to get good rest so you are at your full potiential. Organize your day with problems to solve that are best suited to you. If you have a major project or learning a new skill, break it down into smaller tasks.

I find when I think about the girlfriend issue, my mood gets down and look for something to make me feel better. Or if I think about how my appartment needs serious cleaning, I get overwhelmed and get lost in things I shouldn't be doing. YET if I make check list of things to do and execute them, I find mood is better. As well as sense of completion after.

Set up your day with problems that you can solve. Take any task or skill your trying to learn and break them down into smaller tasks.

that is soo like God!!...to put someone in my path that is dealing with the same issues as me....how predictable .

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

While I'm not allowed to work, the volunteer work I do is far more therapeutic than wondering if I'm doing "the right thing" or feeling constantly lonely. As I post this now, I'm wondering if "Singing" has ever thought of doing some volunteer work to fill the empty void she feels. There's a lot of truth in the saying that, "in giving of yourself, you receive more than you ever expected." This is a powerful esteem builder for me.

Just my humble opinion on it.

I actually do volunteer at my church. Have been since about March of this year.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

I read this last night, but I wanted to think about what to say...I was thinking about it during work..but everyone pretty much said everything that really needs to be said.

I understand how almost painful shyness can be at times. It almost hurts to be around people, yet you want to be around them. What has helped me is just saying to myself "I have something to offer", and just doing what I can. What has helped me to overcome shyness is to go talk to other shy people. Since your both shy you understand each other. With one of my friends now, I'm yelling at him "Sexy Beast" across my college campus (Don't worry, i'm not gay long story...) Before...i would never do that...but I can and just laugh at it.

For so long I was alone, and by myself...and i forget how to hang out with people, and have conversations. I'm slowly overcoming it...by hanging out with people, and slowing relaxing. It takes a lot of time, pain, and work...but it's worth it. This summer I finally have come to a time in my life...that i'm overall very joyfully and happy. It's not linked to having a love in my life, which I don't, but because friends care about me, and take care of me.

Oh yeah, i read that your going back to school. Great idea! I joined a Frat...an anti-hazing one...and that has helped me the most. If you are attending a college that has Sorority..find yourself a good Christian one. Also...not all of us are the crazy lets get drunk, and make pledges do dangerous stuff. For some it's brotherhood, and the change to laugh at each other.



God bless you,
Anthony

Just keep fighting..

Thanks for replying! It's nice to know I'm not the only one that has gone through or is currently going through this. Sadly though I'm only going to a community college so none of the sorority stuff is available there.

 

[Sindyan]

How sad....but community college is such a great thing. It's sooo much cheaper. I hate my 16,000 a year college. But...it's for nursing school so it's a huge investment.

But Education period is so important. I'm at a point now that my entire future family will go to college. My wife even if she wants me to be a homemaker...will go through college. It really does make you think about life so much different, and knowledge really is power. I know it's a very clique saying..but it's so true.

-Anthony

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

How sad....but community college is such a great thing. It's sooo much cheaper. I hate my 16,000 a year college. But...it's for nursing school so it's a huge investment.



-Anthony

It sure is! I'm seriously getting to go for free!

 

[Sindyan]

I would shake my fist at you in anger ....but my fist is chained to the monster of debt

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

I would shake my fist at you in anger ....but my fist is chained to the monster of debt

Awww. I'm sorry.

 

[Sindyan]

ahhh that made me smile. It's ok...once I get out...I'l be an RN...and I'll lay the smack down on that monster!

 

[Crucifix]

Why should laying a guilt trip on someone make you smile - unless Singing had won a scholarship and therefore would explain the reason she's attending the community college gratis? Then I can see the jealousy! (I'm "joshin' " with you!)

 

[IseekTheTruth]

ahhh that made me smile. It's ok...once I get out...I'l be an RN...and I'll lay the smack down on that monster!

I'm on that road too... Very tough path. I'm shootin' for CRNA. One more year for RN, then another 4-7 years to becoming a CRNA. One of those so-very-hard-but-worth-it-all-in-the-end sort of things.

 

[Sindyan]

Why should laying a guilt trip on someone make you smile - unless Singing had won a scholarship and therefore would explain the reason she's attending the community college gratis? Then I can see the jealousy! (I'm "joshin' " with you!)

Hahaha...maybe I am Even though I hate private cost...there are some experiences I would of lost if I went community college...though I did go for one semester. There is nothing wrong with Community college by far!

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

ahhh that made me smile. It's ok...once I get out...I'l be an RN...and I'll lay the smack down on that monster!

Very true.

 

[Sindyan]

I'm on that road too... Very tough path. I'm shootin' for CRNA. One more year for RN, then another 4-7 years to becoming a CRNA. One of those so-very-hard-but-worth-it-all-in-the-end sort of things.

Very much so. I begin my "adventure" in August. I was talking with a nursing brother ...and we are kind of excited about the challenge that is coming up. We no longer call ourselves "College" students, but nursing students...because it's about to become a new ball game.

 

[servantsheart4God]

wow - sounds like some of you guys have an aray of social outlets that can help with the "solo" issue. May God use these outlets to present opportunities for meeting great, godly individuals.

go out, be blessed and receive God's favor wherever the Holy Spirit leads .

 

[Crucifix]

sh4G, not only will they have an array of social outlets; they'll be expected to be social and the instructors CAN be extremely picky if they want to. I was criticized for going to Mass at noon in the hospital chapel, yet they never considered walking 4 miles a day almost as fast as a jogger as exercise.

Sindyan, please keep that in mind. I also made the instructors nervous b/c as I said earlier (possibly on another thread) that I knew more about one area of study than the instructors. They don't like it when the student knows more than they do, as a rule.

 

[Sindyan]

sh4G, not only will they have an array of social outlets; they'll be expected to be social and the instructors CAN be extremely picky if they want to. I was criticized for going to Mass at noon in the hospital chapel, yet they never considered walking 4 miles a day almost as fast as a jogger as exercise.

Sindyan, please keep that in mind. I also made the instructors nervous b/c as I said earlier (possibly on another thread) that I knew more about one area of study than the instructors. They don't like it when the student knows more than they do, as a rule.

Aye, and thank you for warning me.

Thankfully, the nursing program i'm about to enter into is a Christian one that pulls 100% all of its nursing students from the three local private Christian colleges--Methodist, Baptist, and Church of Christ. I have already taken pathophysiology with the Director of the Nursing Program. Before every test we all bow our head and she prays for us. It's amazing. When I was stressing out because of an overload I was taken this summer....one of the staff actually asked me how I was doing the next week, and actually showed concern for me.

Luckly, I tend to come across as the "nice/sensitive" guy so teachers generally like me a lot. I just have to feel her out, and I may just help my friends more than anyone. Or who knows....the special ed poplution may not come up that very much.
Thanks again!
Sindyan

 

[IseekTheTruth]

Very much so. I begin my "adventure" in August. I was talking with a nursing brother ...and we are kind of excited about the challenge that is coming up. We no longer call ourselves "College" students, but nursing students...because it's about to become a new ball game.

Totally... Most people our age can't even comprehend the kind of burdon and responsibility we shoulder with this calling! My friends and I are constantly overwhelmed... It forces you to grow up in some ways at a really expedited rate.

People ask me if I like my university. I tell them, "Well... college was sort of over for me a year ago. You see, a year ago I joined the nursing program."