I'm kind of hoping that marriage as we know it (meaning a government licensed institution) goes away.
In our society, there's nothing to stop two people from living together, I don't see what the draw is in paying the government to get married
In this issue, I see a lot of hypocrisy on both sides (I'm not making reference to any poster in this thread particularly, or even this thread in particular)
To certain folks on the left...
If it's really about the pursuit of happiness, you don't need a piece of paper to be happy and live with the one you love. (My GF & I have made that very decision, we're not getting a marriage license, we just filled out the appropriate forms to give the other power of attorney and make each other beneficiaries). With that being said, if it's about the benefits that go along with the marriage license, then just be honest and say 'it's about the benefits" and don't try to make it about some noble quest for the pursuit of happiness.
To be honest, I think many gays would be happy to not have a legal marriage, if they could have their family rights protected. One of the major issues I've seen is that, without a government recognized relationship, they are frequently denied things that same sex couples routinely are given -- things like hospital visitation, medical decisions, and inheritance.
I know there was a member of this board who posted his experience with his partner dying. Because the state he was in did not allow for joint ownership of homes unless the couple was legally married, the home went into the estate (complete with inheritance taxes).
Worse, most states have laws giving preference to family members when it comes to inheritance. Because non married spouses are not "family members", they do not inherit. Worse, in many cases the family of the partner, if there is a will leaving things to the surviving partner, have succesfully challenged those wills. In the case of the CF member, I recall he inherited nothing; complete with losing the home and anything in the home that he could not prove belonged to him -- including everything jointly owned.
Gays also insist on marriage, in general, because there would be no guarantee that civil unions would always have the same rights and privileges of marriage. Segregation is a good example of that fear; designed to make everything the same for both Whites and Blacks, just separate, as time went along Black schools and neighborhoods received lesser facilities (schools, parks, etc.) and protection (police and fire).
To certain folks on the right...
Don't advocate small government & less spending in one instance, but then justify frivolous spending by Republicans in cases surrounding this topic (DOMA and similar things...) ...and also, please stop comparing it with incest, inappropriate behavior with animals, and pedophilia as a talking point. Anytime I'm in one of these thread and try to make some progress in justifying states' rights to make their own decisions on it, undoubtedly one of these will show up and derail the whole thing.
I've also seen people try to misuse the FF&C (Full Faith & Credit) clause in this matter too... Since it is a state licensed institution at the current juncture, people have a habit of using this to try to trump other state's laws. Yet, we don't hear those same people complaining about other cases where FF&C isn't being applied to other types of state licenses.
Right now, Concealed Carry and Driver's licenses are two types of state issued licenses that vary greatly from state to state.
We'll go with the drivers license as an example
Driving Age by State
I've never heard anyone say "In many states, you can get a full drivers license at age 17, yet, in Indiana, you have to be 18...Indiana's 17 years old aren't getting equal protection under the law due to FF&C & the 14th amendment"...I've never heard anyone say that these laws are a case of age discrimination, etc...
You are misunderstanding Full Faith and Credit. States still get to select their own laws, such as for driver's licenses -- it merely requires other states to recognize a valid license issued by another state. FF&C has never required states to issue licenses based on another state's laws.
As for marriage, a major reason for DOMA being passed was to prevent states from having to recognize a same-sex marriage from another state. This is the portion of DOMA that is still enforceable -- though it is questionable how much longer it will be before it is struck down. For example, the recent ruling in Kentucky, requiring the state to recognize gay marriages from other states, could lead to the remainder of DOMA being struck down.
As for concealed carry permits, the requirements to get the permit vary widely between states, as well as the laws governing firearms; by contrast, driver's licenses typically have fairly standard requirements and laws regulating driving. I believe the US Congress even looked at mandating FF&C for concealed carry permits (around 2010) and decided it would lead to more problems than it might solve because of the major differences between states.
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