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Is there something wrong with me?

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What kind of man?



This is a good guide for the women of today.
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In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind of man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking

"Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said, "Yes." She began to expound...

As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills.

I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more."

I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.

She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man."

I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You're asking a lot." She replied, "I'm worth a lot."
 
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Fatolia said:
I'm sure many men would just as easily argue that women typically only go after the "hot" guys.

Guilty.

I admit moreso to the myth the only thing women look for is money, and someone who makes a lot of it. And that person being modelesque doesn't hurt either.
 
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love4jesus said:
Life drawing classes? Is that when you draw a naked person? :scratch:
Yup. That's how you learn to draw people. In the more advanced class I had to map the bones on one model, the muscles on another. Most of em were old, a couple were young adults. We got into somatotypes, too. (That's where you rate the persons' fat, muscle, and skinniness on a scale of 1-7.)
 
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Fatolia said:
Exactly. I made it up. I think you ended up hitting the logic of the topic accurately.

What? No one was even talking about married people vs. singles having big egos. The topic is about Love4 feeling inadaquate to get a boyfriend or having guys like her not about her having a big ego. It doesn't have to be logical, feelings don't always make sense, but it doesn't mean that the person feeling them is not sincere or valid in feeling them. Love4 is an incredibily humble person, who truly loves the Lord. Just because she sometimes might struggle with not liking her looks, as we all do from time to time, does not mean she is an unlogical and frivilrious person.
 
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love4jesus said:
Why do I feel that I cannot get a boyfriend because I am not pretty? I keep telling myself that if I lost weight, got my scars removed, if I had bigger breasts, normal hearing, no mole on my neck, and nice hair someone would like me. :sigh: All the wrong guys like me, guys that are weird. I don't know why I feel that a lot of guys only like girls for their beauty.

We view ourselves and others with the world's mirror and measurements, but in reality we're all children of a flawless King. God made you perfect, no mistakes. You're perfect for your purpose and you're perfect for any man He may have planned to put into your life. If we change, try and look perfect by the world's standards, we may in turn miss out on God's loving perfection.

Blessings,
awashinlove
 
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Fatolia

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mina said:
Just because she sometimes might struggle with not liking her looks, as we all do from time to time, does not mean she is an unlogical and frivilrious person.

I would have to agree with you there, but I'm not really sure where you gathered that implication from. :scratch: I thought we were chucking back and forth a good dose of dry humor.
 
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Fatolia said:
I would have to agree with you there, but I'm not really sure where you gathered that implication from. :scratch: I thought we were chucking back and forth a good dose of dry humor.

You all have an dry sense of humor from what I see! LOL!
 
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love4jesus said:
Why do I feel that I cannot get a boyfriend because I am not pretty? I keep telling myself that if I lost weight, got my scars removed, if I had bigger breasts, normal hearing, no mole on my neck, and nice hair someone would like me. :sigh: All the wrong guys like me, guys that are weird. I don't know why I feel that a lot of guys only like girls for their beauty.

You look fine to me. Besides, looks aren't what matters. When God brings to you the mate He planned for you in the beginning, God will make sure that man is attracted to you. He will be attracted to your character, and the beauty of your inner-being, and as a result he will adore you in every possible sense of the word. Of that you can be certain. :) Do not let anyone convince you otherwise! God Bless,

Johannes
 
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Fatolia said:
I would have to agree with you there, but I'm not really sure where you gathered that implication from. :scratch: I thought we were chucking back and forth a good dose of dry humor.

huh? I thought I was responding to another poster about teachers having egos and then you reponded with only married people having egos, which had nothing to do with anything. Sorry I thought you were being serious cause it really wasn't that funny or wasn't any dry humor I've ever seen before. Sorry to have misinterpreted you, but it really didn't make sense.
 
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