This thread is moving much too quickly for me, but I'll try to jump in here and make another attempt to address your question.
We're still waiting for your "good" rape case. You know, one at least based on some semblance of reality.
First, let me say that I cringe every time that you pose this question, because it's so incredibly deceptive that it borders on being deceitful. Of course everybody is going to think that every case of rape is bad, because that's the means by which they judge it to be rape. If they didn't think it was bad, then they also wouldn't think it was rape. The two will always go together, even in cases where one person thinks that the act is rape and another person doesn't. One will think the act was bad, and the other one won't. You can hardly call it objective when it's seemingly impossible to definitively prove which of them is right.
So I do wish that you'd stop asking for an example of a "good" rape, but I'm quite sure that you won't, because you think that it's brilliant, when what it actually is, is disingenuous.
That having been said, I'm going to point out a seemingly problematic consequence of one of your previous definitions of rape.
I'm not a psychologist. IMO, a non-consensual sexual act occurs if either one or both of the partners is unable comprehend the possible effects of their act. So, age is not a criterion for one who has mental health issues or is unconscious or under the influence of drugs/alcohol to the point of losing rationality.
So if a man and woman have sex while the woman is too drunk to form a rational decision to do so, then it's rape. But the problematic thing is, that this should hold true even if they're married. Thus a married couple can have consensual sex, and yet it's still possible for it to be rape.
But the more bizarre thing is, when does it become rape?
Is it rape the moment that they have sex without the woman's rational consent? That would seem to be the implication of your definition, or is it only rape once the woman has sobered up, and retroactively decides whether or not to give consent?
That means that in the case of the former, if a man has sex with his drunk wife, it's always rape, because she was unable to give rational consent at the time that the act occurred.
Would you care to clarify your position?