The confusion that stems between us then is not your original post, but what appears to be our disagreement on the views of salvation. Christ completed work on the cross (grace) vs whatever style of works gospel you believe in, but don't want to call it a works gospel (cause that sounds bad), but definitely think you have to be sinless or obey your way into heaven (I've heard them all). For this, you can read my above post to the other gentleman I was speaking with.
I suspect we do not disagree, but rather you may be misinterpreting my post. Salvation is by grace alone through what Jesus has done for us. There is nothing we can add to or take away from that. (I understand that some people believe that salvation is through faith and works. I am not one of them.)
However, the way to be saved is not:
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16, 1984 NIV)
... because that requires a person
choose to believe, which people can't do (Ephesians 2:8-9; if a person has done anything as part of their "salvation" then they would have something to boast about). There is nothing anyone can
DO to be saved (although one can ask God to save them). Belief/Faith/Trust is a gift from God. John 3:16 is an explanation of who is saved. However, the way to be saved is to hear the truth, possibly with accompanying evidence. One example of hearing the truth is:
God loves you and wanted to save you, but you could not make yourself right in God's eyes (make up for your wrongdoings), so he sent his Son to die to pay for your sins, and now they are paid in full. You no longer have an obligation to pay for your sins for justice to be served. Through Jesus you are justified—made right with God in his eyes. (And you are born again into eternal life
in Christ ...)
THEN we evaluate whether the person has believed this or not. If they have, then they are saved. If they haven't then they are not saved. Understanding how to be saved doesn't save someone (i.e., understanding John 3:16). Genuinely believing and trusting in God does. Reading John 3:16 to someone and them agreeing or committing themselves to God without saving belief does not save them. This is why I basically said keep being obedient, because faith is something that God grants to those that obey, but not because they are obeying, but because it is one way the spiritual blindness that prevents one from believing the truth is removed. However it isn't always necessary. Sometimes people believe the truth as soon as they hear it, but in my culture (the U.S.) this is hardly ever the case. Obedience is often the path to "just believing." Most people in this country have hearts of stone.
The idea that if they didn't believe, they aren't of the elect and can't be saved is complete hogwash. Salvation is available to everyone. The people who do not believe do not want to believe, otherwise they would be seeking to believe, rather than seeking to prove it's all fake.
This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but men loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. (John 3:19, 1984 NIV)
However, it's not just any kind of
belief in God. It is a kind of belief that recognizes Jesus as Lord. And it's not an intellectual assent that Jesus is Lord, it is that Jesus IS Lord of all, including you. When a person truly believes (and accepts) this then other people will see actions in keeping with that.
You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder. (James 2:19, 1984 NIV)
This is a kind of belief that doesn't genuinely recognize Jesus as Lord. James calls this "dead faith," aka faith that does not save (James 2:17, 26). (The demons have no doubt that God is real.)