Is remarriage actually adultery?

[MartyF]

There are certain things that release you from the wedding vows. Adultery by your spouse being the most obvious and easy to argue. I know a pastor who wants to remarrying after his wife left him for another man. She is living with the man and they are getting married soon so there no issue for me if he chooses to remarry. As I see it, the wife has committed adultery and broken the marriage vows therefore releasing him from them and any guilt is on her, not him.

So, one wife wasn’t enough for him. He seems to have gotten over it and found a new wife pretty quickly. I would definitely not accept him as a spiritual leader over me.

Marty

 

[Dave-W]

No it's not that I just want to know exactly why..like what exactly makes it sinful.

Hi Farside. Greetings from Jerusalem, Israel.

Many consider it sinful due to a belief similar to once saved always saved; once married always married. They believe that the only way a marriage can be dissolved is by death. So any remarriage would be sex without marriage.

However, if that is what Jesus really taught, he would have sinned by teaching against the Mosaic law. Paul tells us in Galatians that He was born under the law. So for him to teach against Moses would have been a sin and disqualified Him from being our sacrifice for sins.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Hi Farside. Greetings from Jerusalem, Israel.

Many consider it sinful due to a belief similar to once saved always saved; once married always married. They believe that the only way a marriage can be dissolved is by death. So any remarriage would be sex without marriage.

However, if that is what Jesus really taught, he would have sinned by teaching against the Mosaic law. Paul tells us in Galatians that He was born under the law. So for him to teach against Moses would have been a sin and disqualified Him from being our sacrifice for sins.

Hey how is Isreak ?

 

[Dave-W]

Hey how is Isreak ?

Hot. Very hot. And beautiful. And very educational.

 

[zoidar]

“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)

Husband 1 divorces innocent wife 1 and remarries committing adultery.

innocent wife 1 also commits adultery when she marries husband 2

= an innocent wife divorced from an adulterous husband also commits adultery when she marries her second husband. = all 4 people end up committing adultery.

Husband 1 commits adultery when he divorces innocent wife 1 and then marries wife 2. = Adultery.
Innocent wife 1 also commits adultery along with innocent husband 2 when they marry.

If husband one is an adulterer, why does innocent wife 1 also commit adultery when she remarries? = "except clause" doesn't mean what you think it means.

You are misunderstanding Matthew 19:9.

What it says is: If a man divorces his wife for any other reason than fornication it is adultery. It also says if someone marry the woman after the divorce who has been fornicating, then he who marries her will also be an adulterer.

It says nothing about if the man is allowed to remarry or not. But of course he is, since the marriage is broken.

 

[Dave L]

You are misunderstanding Matthew 19:9.

What it says is: If a man divorces his wife for any other reason than fornication it is adultery. It also says if someone marry the woman after the divorce who has been fornicating, then he who marries her will also be an adulterer.

It says nothing about if the man is allowed to remarry or not. But of course he is, since the marriage is broken.

It still says the innocent wife commits adultery along with her new husband even though she was divorced by an adulterous husband.

Too, Christ abolished OT law on the cross, making divorce impossible. God does not support divorce any more than he supports abortion. People are still married even after they divorce.

 

[zoidar]

It still says the innocent wife commits adultery along with her new husband even though she was divorced by an adulterous husband.

I don't understand where you see that ... it says nothing about any innocent wife. There is not even an innocent wife in Matt 19:9. There is an innocent man, and an adulteress.

It doesn't even address what happens to the wife that is divorced by an adulterous husband. It's not about that. It's about if an innocent man divorces an adulterous wife, and if someone else marry this adulterous wife. Then both the wife and the new "husband" is comitting adultery. It says nothing about the innocent man, if he can remarry or not.

But from conclusion that the marriage is broken, I'm sure the innocent man is free to remarry.

 

[Dave L]

I don't understand where you see that ... it says nothing about any innocent wife. There is not even an innocent wife in Matt 19:9. There is an innocent man, and an adulteress.

It doesn't even address what happens to the wife that is divorced by an adulterous husband. It's not about that. It's about if an innocent man divorces an adulterous wife, and if someone else marry this adulterous wife. Then both the wife and the new "husband" is comitting adultery. It says nothing about the innocent man, if he can remarry or not.

But from conclusion that the marriage is broken, I'm sure the innocent man is free to remarry.

What happens as a result of husband #1 divorcing his innocent wife and remarrying?

Innocent wife #1 also commits adultery when she remarries innocent husband #2.

Wife #2 also commits adultery by marrying adulterous husband #1.

all 4 end up committing adultery by marrying divorcees.

 

[zoidar]

What happens as a result of husband #1 divorcing his innocent wife and remarrying?

Innocent wife #1 also commits adultery when she remarries innocent husband #2.

Wife #2 also commits adultery by marrying adulterous husband #1.

all 4 end up committing adultery by marrying divorcees.

You keep saying, but you are not explaining where the Bible says so.

 

[Dave L]

You keep saying, but you are not explaining where the Bible says so.

“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)

Notice Jesus says if someone divorces his wife except for fornication (punishable by death) and marries another he commits adultery.

And if this be the case, he says the innocent wife also commits adultery, even though she is divorced from an adulterous husband. This would involve her second husband too.

Can we remarry if our spouse commits adultery? No, because the innocent wife also committed adultery when she remarried, even though her husband divorced her and committed adultery by remarrying.

 

[Runswithdogs]

Put away... and divorce are not the same thing.
Put away was literally kicking her out onto the street, without a certificate of divorce. This would put her in the position of having to do whatever it took to survive, without any means of support or home.. And as she did not have a certificate of divorce, she could not legally remarry.
So literally A man that “put away” his wife was forcing her to comit adultry (about the only choice open to many women at that time) in order to survive.
And of course if the man put away his wife to marry another, he would be comiting adultry as he was still married.

 

[Dave L]

Put away... and divorce are not the same thing.
Put away was literally kicking her out onto the street, without a certificate of divorce. This would put her in the position of having to do whatever it took to survive, without any means of support or home.. And as she did not have a certificate of divorce, she could not legally remarry.
So literally A man that “put away” his wife was forcing her to comit adultry (about the only choice open to many women at that time) in order to survive.
And of course if the man put away his wife to marry another, he would be comiting adultry as he was still married.

Divorce and remarriage on grounds of sexual uncleanness existed in Moses' day. Because they killed the offender making remarriage possible. But when Jesus abolished Moses' Law, divorce no longer existed. The New Covenant mentions divorce as a pagan custom. But never as an option for Christians. People leaving divorce court are as married leaving as they were when they arrived. God does not sanction it.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

I believe in no divorce at all, unless your spouse chooses to (and you have no options left). Then you remain single until the day they die. It may seem hard but my wifes mother, her husband left her in 1987.

Well in 2016 my wifes father died. Which meant her mom could look for love again. She only this year, 2018, just met a nice christian man she may marry. So if she can do it, anyone can. Problem is we often look at marriage as a goal in life. But the reality is marriage is not a goal in life. Having kids, getting money....etc are not goals either. Our goal is to spread the Word.

But because to many take such value in marriage being almost more important then God, they don't like having to accept if they are divorced, they are stuck single (married in Gods eyes) until their ex passes away. They think its the end of the world when its really not. They focus on relationship with someone rather than a relationship with God. God said there would be trials and life would not be easy. So being stuck single after someone divorces you means accepting its a trial. Just like my wife and I accept we may never have kids. Because as much as we want them, we can't make an idol out of it. Its not the purpose of life.

In the end though people can do what they wish. They have to answer to God for it. Just as I have to answer to God too.

 

[Jenniferdiana]

i wouldn't remarry unless its with the same person only if we could reconcile our problems and such but not if he was unfaithful...i wouldn't want too share my heart and self with someone anymore if they were unfaithful to me..

 

[Jenniferdiana]

I believe in no divorce at all, unless your spouse chooses to (and you have no options left). Then you remain single until the day they die. It may seem hard but my wifes mother, her husband left her in 1987.

Well in 2016 my wifes father died. Which meant her mom could look for love again. She only this year, 2018, just met a nice christian man she may marry. So if she can do it, anyone can. Problem is we often look at marriage as a goal in life. But the reality is marriage is not a goal in life. Having kids, getting money....etc are not goals either. Our goal is to spread the Word.

But because to many take such value in marriage being almost more important then God, they don't like having to accept if they are divorced, they are stuck single (married in Gods eyes) until their ex passes away. They think its the end of the world when its really not. They focus on relationship with someone rather than a relationship with God. God said there would be trials and life would not be easy. So being stuck single after someone divorces you means accepting its a trial. Just like my wife and I accept we may never have kids. Because as much as we want them, we can't make an idol out of it. Its not the purpose of life.

In the end though people can do what they wish. They have to answer to God for it. Just as I have to answer to God too.

hmmm i dont know. God said man should not be alone and God wants us to be fruitful and multiply...i'm not saying its bad to be single but not because of other reasons..or one should atleast should spend thier singleness devoting thier self to God...because being single can mess with you...and no matter how much one enjoys being single they will eventually get lonely...so they should at least devote thierself to God because God can complete us..and God tells us how to treat our spouses and such, i dont know i think marriages would last longer if people had a heart for God and follow his word...he tells us not to commit adultery so why are people not listening to those things in the first place...i want to be married and i would stick by, care for and treat my husband well, because i'm gentle and the person i will marry is going to be someone i truly love and support...

 

[Jenniferdiana]

hahaha.. God started the bible off with a marriage and he ended it with one..and most of the bible is of people multiplying and inheriting..etc etc

 

[All4Christ]

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