Is remarriage actually adultery?

[Kit Sigmon]

Is it? Idk I qas thinking about an aunt of mine who is extremely spiritually attuned to God.. her husband remmried and she's pursuing another guy.

Why is remarrying a sin?

Thanks for the response.

Why did they divorce?

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Yahweh hates divorce.

Who loves and approves of what Yahweh hates ?

 

[JojoM]

Is it? Idk I qas thinking about an aunt of mine who is extremely spiritually attuned to God.. her husband remmried and she's pursuing another guy.

Why is remarrying a sin?

Thanks for the response.

Matthew 19 - 4. "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' 5. and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? 6. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." 7. "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" 8. Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."

Verse 6 says “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." It is a sin to separate what God has joined together.

And if you look even deeper, before Adam sinned, Adam also had a connection with God. Because of sin, the connection was cut-off which God obviously was not happy about. Adam sort of committed adultery when he despised God’s commandment and went with the devil instead. Also when Jesus arrived, marriage became the shadow of the relationship of Jesus and the Church making marriage a very precious institution for God.

However Moses allowed the Jews to divorce because as Jesus said, their hearts are hard which the Jews themselves do not know. They do not know how sinful they are and Moses was only trying to make civil solutions for them because there is nothing that can be done with the evil nature.

The thing is we as gentiles are not better than the Jews. We are all sinful. We must not judge others if their marriage fail and hope to start a new one. Yes this is sinful just as a man looking at a woman with lust is adulterous but because we are educated by the Church, we learn to act in a civilised manner which is sadly in a form divorce in terms of marriage.

 

[PaulCyp1]

Because the marriage vows state "until death do us part", or "as long as we both shall live", and death is the only thing that can end a sacramental marriage. Of course, if the marriage is just a civil contract before a judge or a justice of the peace, that contract can be terminated civilly.

 

[Blade]

There are reasons two may divorce and then remarry. We all sit on the outside not truly knowing why someone divorced other than their word. Just like with any sin. repent get up dust off and keep going.
Marriage when two leave home then come together they become one flesh. That is very sacred to God.

As with all SIN.. this one also has a price.. if one just leaves for another for nor biblical reason. Yet.. Christ did die for ALL sins. Again.. just repent and move on. For Christ is your God not man. Who cares what some man/woman on this world thinks. They are not your judge.

 

[GodsGrace101]

Thanks... But why exactly is it adultery and sinful

It's adultery and sinful because divorce is not possible in God's eyes.

So...

There's no such thing as divorce. While the first wife is alive, the man is still married to her no matter what.

So, if he gets remarried, that's adultery. Ditto for the wife.
We're supposed to have only one partner till death do us part.
As in Genesis. God created marriage in Genesis. He made one woman for Adam, not two or three.

 

[Dave L]

The adultery of the husband legitimises the divorce.

If so, why would the innocent divorced wife commit adultery along with her new husband when they marry?

 

[Inkfingers]

If so, why would the innocent divorced wife commit adultery along with her new husband when they marry?

She doesn't. Read it again. A divorce that does not happen over adultery itself leads to adultery in remarriage. A divorce that happens over adultery does not lead to adultery in remarriage.

 

[Dave L]

She doesn't. Read it again. A divorce that does not happen over adultery itself leads to adultery in remarriage. A divorce that happens over adultery does not lead to adultery in remarriage.

Husband 1 commits adultery when he divorces innocent wife 1 and then marries wife 2. = Adultery.
Innocent wife 1 also commits adultery along with innocent husband 2 when they marry.

If husband one is an adulterer, why does innocent wife 1 also commit adultery when she remarries? = "except clause" doesn't mean what you think it means.

 

[Loren T.]

Just looking for opinions, not trying to argue, but what about abuse? Is a woman who divorces an abusive spouse guilty of sin?

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Just looking for opinions, not trying to argue, but what about abuse? Is a woman who divorces an abusive spouse guilty of sin?

Yes.

 

[GirdYourLoins]

There are certain things that release you from the wedding vows. Adultery by your spouse being the most obvious and easy to argue. I know a pastor who wants to remarrying after his wife left him for another man. She is living with the man and they are getting married soon so there no issue for me if he chooses to remarry. As I see it, the wife has committed adultery and broken the marriage vows therefore releasing him from them and any guilt is on her, not him.

 

[Saint Steven]

Another reason divorce is so wrong is that the two become one flesh.
To separate them spiritually requires tearing a single entity to shreds.
Even if the divorce is for godly reasons, this cannot be avoided.
What God has joined together, let no one put asunder.

To make matters worse, there are victims in divorce. One member of the
couple may not want the divorce. They become the victim of someone else's decision.
The proceedings will move forward without their approval.

And when it is all said and done the victim is left alone. If the church rejects them,
where can they turn? I know of some wonderful and godly couples that were divorced prior. It is a simple fact of life. Like someone that loses a limb. Life goes on and it is hard.

What does that person need from us? Condemnation? Judgment? Rejection?
Let's help them to pick up the pieces and move forward.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Another reason divorce is so wrong is that the two become one flesh.
To separate them spiritually requires tearing a single entity to shreds.
Even if the divorce is for godly reasons, this cannot be avoided.
What God has joined together, let no one put asunder.

To make matters worse, there are victims in divorce. One member of the
couple may not want the divorce. They become the victim of someone else's decision.
The proceedings will move forward without their approval.

And when it is all said and done the victim is left alone. If the church rejects them,
where can they turn? I know of some wonderful and godly couples that were divorced prior. It is a simple fact of life. Like someone that loses a limb. Life goes on and it is hard.

What does that person need from us? Condemnation? Judgment? Rejection?
Let's help them to pick up the pieces and move forward.

Everyone who agrees with what is opposed to Yahweh suffers for it - even whole congregations and denominations.
They willingly or not, chose to promote or to do something Yahweh hates.

 

[Loren T.]

Yes.

If someone is in fear for thier life or their child's safety, I have to wonder what other options there are. Doesn't hurting your spouse physically violate becoming one flesh? I know this is not explicitly spelled out in scripture, but Paul makes allowance for not pursuing the unbelieving spouse that leaves. That actually seems like a less serious offense than physical violence.

 

[ubicaritas]

Just looking for opinions, not trying to argue, but what about abuse? Is a woman who divorces an abusive spouse guilty of sin?

People need to stop thinking legalistically and realize they will be sinners till the day they die, Christianity has never been about becoming less of a sinner. It's about being a forgiven sinner. There is a distinction.

Beyond that, yes, if you are being abused it is OK to seek help and even to separate or divorce if the abuse does not stop.

 

[Inkfingers]

Husband 1 commits adultery when he divorces innocent wife 1 and then marries wife 2. = Adultery.
Innocent wife 1 also commits adultery along with innocent husband 2 when they marry.

If husband one is an adulterer, why does innocent wife 1 also commit adultery when she remarries? = "except clause" doesn't mean what you think it means.

Husband 1 breaks the marriage covenant by committing adultery. Thus the divorce is legitimate (as adultery is the only mentioned exception that allows for divorce).

 

[exitstageright]

If the divorce isn't legal, then the couple is still married. Marrying someone else then becomes either bigamy or adultery. I don't believe remarriage is in itself the issue. It's the divorce that Jesus said was wrong, the problem with remarriage is simply an implication of that.

However Matthew thought there was a class of exceptions, and Paul thought there was another class of exceptions. Given Jesus' way of handling law, it seems perfectly reasonable to think he would except that there are situations where it's worse to stay in the marriage than leave.

My ex wife threated to kill me. She,at one time,told me," I can hurt you!" Therefore,during the last year of our marriage,I had to sleep,in a different bedroom, with the door closed and locked. And,I did not eat any meals that she prepared for me.( I remember watching those Alfred Hitchcock Programs). Now, can any sane person call this a marriage?

 

[Dave L]

Husband 1 breaks the marriage covenant by committing adultery. Thus the divorce is legitimate (as adultery is the only mentioned exception that allows for divorce).

If so, why do people commit adultery when they remarry? Only death breaks the marriage bond.

“So then, if she is joined to another man while her husband is alive, she will be called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she is joined to another man, she is not an adulteress.” (Romans 7:3)

 

[Inkfingers]

If so, why do people commit adultery when they remarry? Only death breaks the marriage bond.

“So then, if she is joined to another man while her husband is alive, she will be called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she is joined to another man, she is not an adulteress.” (Romans 7:3)

I've already told you; if the marriage was broken over adultery or death, remarriage is okay. If it was not broken over adultery or death, remarriage is not okay.

Simples.