OK, it looks like I am caught up, although I was skimming some.
In short, Zoii, I feel no leading or compulsion to even address the issue of the offended being called to forgive. Several of the responses you received in regard to this were good, but it was not the question you asked.
Rest assured that any "Christian" teaching that suggests we are not called to conform ourselves to the character of Christ Himself is entirely erroneous, as I believe GregJ stated. One of the things that especially grieves my heart about modern Christianity is that it so badly misrepresents God to people of other faiths, especially Muslims, who see us a promulgating filth and inappropriate contentography to the world in the name of "forgiveness."
I hope you will understand that the Devil is using many today to completely misrepresent what true Christianity is, what the true heart of God is, and what He still expects of His people.
I hope you will consider looking at Him again, knowing it is not He who excuses sin so flippantly, but merely wicked, sinful and blind men who will stand accountable before God for the falsehoods they teach.
God Bless, and thank you for your wonderful question!