There is something to be said for the Buddhist concept of Karma. It may not be Christian but I pray its true. I find it really hard to reconcile that someone can commit a heinous crime, leave the victim to suffer for years into their life if not their whole life…along with the victims family and close friends. Yet all the perpetrator has to do is say Im sorry God.
Great!!! that evil person is forgiven for all they have done. So I have some questions. If you’re forgiven does that mean you don’t need to feel guilty? If you’re forgiven does that alleviate any obligations to your victim? And what if its true…while the perpetrator is forgiven the victim isn’t alleviated of their suffering. For so many it’s a life sentence. Where is the fairness in that?
Buddhists will say that if your evil then evil will befall you and if you’re a good person then good will come your way. I can see practical elements to this quite easily and it fits with me.
To err is human, to forgive divine.
As much as this can come off as a platitude, the truth in it is almost ironic. There is no logical reason why saying you're sorry will set the world right, but amazingly, it does.
There is something sublime about how a simple apology can erase years of offense when one brother truly regrets his actions against his other brother. But that is how love relationships work. If you truly love someone, you do not really want to get even. You just want the hurting to stop, and for him to start loving you back. Love does not seek fair. Love seeks love.
Karma is the ancient code of justice, and it is even Biblical, an eye for an eye, etc. etc. Every offense has a corresponding monetary value, and one need not regret or repent, but just pay the due.
In impersonal relationships, the business transaction is inherently fair Karma is inherently fair.
But for any of us who love, the business model misses the point. In love, we are all connected. We cannot make our brother suffer the just amount of penance, without suffering with him. That is just the way empathy works. Karma thereby only increases our own pain, as we not only suffer the loss of our own eye, but the eye of our brother as well, as the relentless wheels of Karma turn.
Love just want the hurting to stop. It is not fair; it is not justice.
Love transcends even justice.