I need some input from those of you who truely believe

[chvysb383]

I swore I would never marry. I have met so many "compatable" women. And none stuck out. They were great people, but what made them my "wife", nothing. I met the Holy Ghost in 1996 and suddenly realized that He brought life. A new kind of life, a very real spiritual world. This is what was missing from my relationships. I asked God to bring me the right one. The one who would be my spiritual match. She showed up at my doorstep. My spirit intertwined with hers and God's. I was in "heaven". I felt very completed.
During this time the Holy Spirit taught me so much about marriage, and how it is like our relationship with God. I was teaching others from the Spirit inside me. It was wonderful.
We got married. We have definitely had a lot of good times and our fair share of bad also. But I loved her.
Let me take a quick moment to define this love. It was emotional, but not about emotion. It was attraction, but not about that either. I was connected. I gave myself entirely. Even in the absolutely worst of times, I could not picture my life without her.
So stuff happened, 8 years later, she finds someone else and divorces me. I am heartbroke. I wanted to die rather than live without this piece of me. I turned to God, and once again His Spirit taught me a multitude of things. I am still breathing, but I feel that in the year and a half since the divorce I am dying. I have tried to live the lie and find someone else. And I have found some very wonderful people. But none that I am connected to. None that feel like a familiar part of me.
Herein lies the problem. If I live for God, than the part of me that is connected with her also lives. If I choose to live the worlds lie, than I am living a lie. And we all know that the truth will eventually come forward. I feel like sitting under a tree and waiting for God to take my life.
I don't believe that there is real marriage without the Spirit of God involved. It is an institution, made by God, and without Him it is an empty contract. I do not believe that there is a "divorce" for God's marriage. This is why we are not suppose to remarry if a divorce takes place, if you were with the "one", in truth there will not be another. You will be taking someone else's wife or husband, choosing to live a lie.
Is there anyone else out there going through this??? I don't want a bunch of head knowledge, I am looking for people who are hooked up to the Spirit of God. I hope someone responds, cause this is sooo lonely.

 

[Autumnleaf]

The is no such thing as the "one". Sure there are rules to follow when such things happen, ie your wife cheats on you and you give her a written decree of divorce which frees you to remarry on grounds of her infidelity.

You can stay single forever or remarry. I'm not sure if she can or not, Biblically speaking. The point is, you are not bound to celibacy for the rest of your life if it does not suit you.

 

[SearcherKris]

It has only been a year and a half sinc your divorce. IMO, now is not the time to be making choices about whether or not there is only one person meant for us. Now is a time for you to rest spiritually and emotionally and allow yourself to heal.

Great trauma is done to our hearts and mind, our very souls, when divorce happens. It takes more time to heal than most people realize.

God is near the brokenhearted. Take time to rest in Him. The answers to this will come with the healing.

God is bigger than your pain, failed marriage, and her breaking of the vows. He has a plan and purpose for your life. He saw this comming before you where even born. He knows what He has comming next for you. Allow Him to comfort you through this time and lead you to what is next.

 

[ebob8b]

At some point in our lives, we all have suffered disappointments and hurts. In most cases, we have become stronger as a result. I cannot advise on divorce but I can tell you that God is still on the throne and is there and ready to help you. All we need do is; ASK and HE will supply our every need. TRUST in HIM and you will NEVER go wrong. God Bless You and Keep on Keepin on with JESUS.

 

[Test All Things2]

chvysb383:

I can relate to how you feel about your wife. I recently seperated after 25 years of marriage and companionship. I know exactly what you mean by part of you seems missing or still connected to her. I feel the same about my wife. My wife has really taken advantage of me and my affection for her, but I love her more now than ever.

The pain I feel sometimes is almost unbearable thinking that our marriage is really ending. I cling to the hope that God will straighten her out before it is too late. I pray alot for her sometimes night and day. I ask everybody I know to pray for her as well. There is a whole army of people praying for her actually.

But it all comes down to "their" free will moral choice. No one can force my wife to come back. Only God can change and reach her in her heart...if she allows it. I ask God to provide her his wisdom, knowledge, understanding and conviction.

Pray for God to open your wifes heart, mind and conscience to his divine will and purpose for her. Pray for God to restore within her a clean heart, mind and conscience that seeks to serve him in everything she does. Pray for the Holy Spirit to minister to her everday and be present in all that she thinks or does. God be with you both. God help you both find the narrow path that leads to true life.

 

[ShainaBrina]

The Sandford's have a teaching about Soul ties...

When we are physically intimate, part of our spirit/soul goes into the other person and part of theirs enters into us. When the relationship ends we need to break the soul tie we have with them and get our spirit back... so we can again be whole.

Ask God to take back any part of you that is in your ex-wife and to send any part of your ex-wife that is in you back to her. (repeat for every relationship you've had) This will break the spiritual connection you have with her and help you heal.

May God pour His healing balm into your wounded heart and comfort you in your loss.

 

[AMOG]

CHV,

You are still teaching others from the spirit inside you. Thank you for your post, it pointed me further down a path I was already on.

For me, my second marriage is what you have described. I didn't believe such relationships existed. (with God or with a spouse) God proved me wrong on both counts but only after I had exited a relationship he was not in and then took some further steps toward reconciling with him.

Now I understand how our fidelity in our relationships with our spouses is a direct analogy to our fidelity in our relationship with God. And what you are experiencing is what God experiences when we are unfaithful to him.

What you provided was another perspective on this relationship analogy I have been contemplating.

Yeah, I know, this has nothing to do with what you asked, but I just wanted to let you know that in your posting you have helped me.

Thank you.

 

[Luther073082]

Not that this makes your heart or spirit feel any better, but one should make a theological distinction. Jesus makes a clear allowance for divorce in cases of adultry.

In this case she committed adultry against you and has chosen to finalize it and divorce you in the legal sense. Sadly you are not spiritually or legally bound to her anymore as she has decided to end all of that.

You are free to date again and get married when you feel up to it. However obviously that time is not now.

Maybe you can find a pastor or someone, preferably a Christian to talk to about this and help you sort out your feelings. Nothing is fixed overnight however I think you need to get settled a bit emotionally before you can make good decision about what you want to do in the future.

 

[visionary]

I experienced the "one" and loved with all my being. He died. I felt severed, with only one leg and one arm. I talked to the Lord, and learned much about the relationship, the tragedy and why, and the time to move on. I married the "one" and this time became more of a help meet, spiritually as well as mentally, and physically. For his salvation, I was called to be his mate. The dark hole in his heart was not filled by Christ though he accepted Christ, lived for Christ, and outwardly was a living breathing example of a believer. The dark hole consumed him and he fell back into it. He divorced and was swept away by the tides of evil that consumed him. I married again the one "one" now even more mature in the understanding of relationships, not only between myself and God, but between others and their relationship with God. Ultimately how it all influences the relationship between my soul mate and myself.

So with this insight, I can safely tell you, that you are called of God to be a light and remain the light in all your relationships, giving and forgiving, loving and steadfast, praying without ceasing, and trusting God with your emotions. Trust God, even when it doesn't make sense on what happens in relationships. Be faithful, and keep walking in faith. God will provide you with a "helpmeet" Perfect for where you are to grow in faith.