I don't trust people

[Introverted1293]

Sounds like you are in a family where people abuse one another a lot. That is sad. The good part of it is that it seems that you - maybe you alone - realize it is not right, so you have risen above it. Not everyone is like your family, or like the unpleasant people you mention in your tiny community. On the other hand, there is a ton of dysfunction and abuse in the world. Naturally you are leery and hurting. I pray for you to be healed - and your family too.

Thank you very much. God bless

 

[LoricaLady]

Thank you very much. God bless

P.S. It probably won't do any good if people's hearts are hardened and think they know it all, or just like being unpleasant, but here is a thought. If people say you are faking it you can quote the experts involved in your case. You can tell them that the appropriate professionals have diagnosed you and agree that you are suffering from a disability helped by a scooter. Tell them their organizations don't just hand out financial support, but examine all claims with their peers, and that they aren't stupid but again, are experts on disabilities. I would add "Now should I listen to those who deal with the issues of disabilities all the time, or people who really don't have any experience or training in such areas?"

 

[Introverted1293]

Yeah, that doesn't exactly work because their hearts are hardened. But that is actually still a good idea. I have actually already done that. When I did that they just said that I was just using them as an excuse. But thank you very much for the suggestion.

 

[LoricaLady]

Hard hearts indeed. You seem to be around a big percentage of toxic people. Here is one last thought. There is a classic book called The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense. You can get it really cheap, used, on Amazon, or it may be in libraries. The author never says she is Christian but I think she most likely is. She gives all kinds of advice, with lots of examples, on how to deflect verbally abusive people. These ways are never antagonistic, but effective if you keep your cool.

 

[Introverted1293]

Hard hearts indeed. You seem to be around a big percentage of toxic people. Here is one last thought. There is a classic book called The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense. You can get it really cheap, used, on Amazon, or it may be in libraries. The author never says she is Christian but I think she most likely is. She gives all kinds of advice, with lots of examples, on how to deflect verbally abusive people. These ways are never antagonistic, but effective if you keep your cool.

Thank you very much. I will look for it.

 

[LoricaLady]

One last thought because those people who tell you that you are faking it really annoy me. Maybe you are too nice to do this, but I would be tempted to have the phone numbers handy of the professionals involved in your case. Then if anyone says you are faking it, I would bring out those phone numbers and say, deadpan, " Well, here are the professionals who, as a team, said I needed the scooter. Perhaps you could call them and tell them that you know more about disabilities and how to treat them than they do. I'm sure they'd be interested to hear what you have to say."

If they try to avoid taking the paper with the numbers, I'd say, "No, no. Take it. You have an opinion. The professionals have their opinions. Why don't you share yours with them? Maybe you can explain why you know better than they do!"

I assume they will not take the paper. I also assume that on another occasion they will start in with the same accusation, but if you whip out that piece of paper often enough and keep saying, "Have you called these people to explain to them why you know better than they do? Please do so and be sure to report back what they had to say." I bet they will eventually drop the issue.

 

[Introverted1293]

One last thought because those people who tell you that you are faking it really annoy me. Maybe you are too nice to do this, but I would be tempted to have the phone numbers handy of the professionals involved in your case. Then if anyone says you are faking it, I would bring out those phone numbers and say, deadpan, " Well, here are the professionals who, as a team, said I needed the scooter. Perhaps you could call them and tell them that you know more about disabilities and how to treat them than they do. I'm sure they'd be interested to hear what you have to say."

If they try to avoid taking the paper with the numbers, I'd say, "No, no. Take it. You have an opinion. The professionals have their opinions. Why don't you share yours with them? Maybe you can explain why you know better than they do!"

I assume they will not take the paper. I also assume that on another occasion they will start in with the same accusation, but if you whip out that piece of paper often enough and keep saying, "Have you called these people to explain to them why you know better than they do?" I bet they will eventually drop the issue.

Yes, I would love to do that. In fact, I am going to go to physical therapy for my disability. I will actually do that.

Thank you very much for believing me, even though people do not.

 

[LoricaLady]

When people are abusive to us it can be hard, sometimes, not to fall into the trap of seeing ourselves as they do.

Most everyone has some kind of disability or short coming, if not everyone. The worst kind is to have a mean heart, I believe.

 

[Introverted1293]

When people are abusive to us it can be hard, sometimes, not to fall into the trap of seeing ourselves as they do.

Most everyone has some kind of disability or short coming, if not everyone. The worst kind is to have a mean heart, I believe.

Thank you very much. It can be hard sometimes. And I am learning to adapt. God bless

 

[lismore]

Is it wrong to not trust people any more? I have closed my heart to human beings because I no longer trust them.

Hello. Sometimes it is wise to be cautious in friendship.

'The righteous choose their friends carefully' (Prov 12:26)

God Bless You