I don't think I want to...

[Hewitt]

I give up. I am not going to find someone ever and I might as well get used to the idea of it being me alone. It hurts a lot. Do I want this? no. Am I worthy of a Christian man? I sincerely doubt it. Too much baggage and I don't want the pain of being used and tossed aside. I am done with anything resembling love. If I am going to be a Spinster, at least let me be a happy one. I wonder sometimes if I am just not loveable to anyone but God?

Never underestimate God.

When you put your faith in Him, He will do more through you and for you than you could even imagine. God has a plan for our lives and when we submit our lives to Him entirely, His will becomes ours and that is true happiness. That doesn't garuntee a mate, but that won't matter when you are living life as God has planned.

 

[ZiSunka]

sigh.

I'm tired of this thread. Let's close it and move on to more interesting and meaningful discussions.

 

[calgal]

sigh.

I'm tired of this thread. Let's close it and move on to more interesting and meaningful discussions.

Sorry lamb. This is a rather consuming thing for singles.....

 

[calgal]

Thanks Donny B and Hewitt. The slough of despair Milton referred to is too easy to sink into sometimes. I appreciate the kind words

 

[elisablaze]

I haven't read through all the replies but I understand your feelings.

For the longest time I did not want to be married. My family is not the greatest role models when it comes to relationships and I don't want to end up getting divorced.

Then I met him. I can actually picture myself spending the rest of my life with him. Is it meant to happen, I don't know but I guess time will tell. And I completely understand about "alone" time

I don't feel everyone is meant to be married though

 

[Galadriel]

I am not sure about marriage. I would like to be able to have someone who really cares and thinks the world of me, and someone I could talk to and be with. I don't think I want to be alone forever either, but I too feel like I just have too much baggage in my life for anyone to want to be with me. I can understand your despair calgal. I don't want to be alone, but then I do like my alone times sometimes, but then I am misreable, so I don't know. Heck I've never had a real boyfriend yet even.

 

[enslow]

Lambslove,
I thought much like you after my divorce. For awhile I thought I'd never want ANYTHING to do with women. But then I realized I didn't want to spend my whole life alone. One can have friends, but no one to share intimate conversations. In fact, what I realized was that I wanted a nice loving faithful family complete with kids. Because the first time was nothing like that, I didn't believe the possibility existed, and I didn't want anything else other than that. So I was in a dilema, until I met my girlfriend.

 

[Stanfi]

This is an interesting question. Sometimes I think it would be great to be married other times, I would really miss being single.

I recently have been doing some research on the "gift of singleness". I won't agrue the definition of "gift" since I see that it has already been done here. However, I feel that it is a gift because of the things that I have that I would not have if I were married. For one, I don't have all the finacial obligations that someone who is married does. If I want to buy something, I just get it, I don't feel obligated to run it by my wife. I make up my own schedule, I don't have to plan my free time around my wife.

Then again, I do not have that close companionship with someone, or someone to share the things I like to do with. So, there is plusses and minuses to everything. I just think we need to be thankful for what God has given us, and trust in him. His word says that he will supply our needs.

I believe that if we put him first in our lives, and if we need and spouse, and it's in his will for us to have one. Then he will bring that person into our lives when it is the right time. It's just takes a little faith.

 

[ej]

I find my life is becoming superficial and boring. I don't want to live life for myself any more. Sure, I do plenty for others, but nobody really relies on me financially, or upon me and nobody else.

I feel I am called to marry and bear children. I know plenty people who are totally happy with their single lives (for whatever reason!) but I will not feel satisfied until I have brought children into the world.

 

[tinkerbell]

Apparently that's not a bad thing because Paul gives council that not everyone is to marry.