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HMSSydney
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I am a 22 y.o. and today I got to the point where I cannot take this anymore. I have now been struggling for more than a year with this issue, I have never had a serious relationship in my life and up until last year I was not worried at all because I knew that the Lord would give me a wife when the time is right Up to that point in my life I had realized that I self-sufficient, just me and the Lord - I never-ever felt lonely. I should also mention that I had actually prayed for my spouse in detail as I was told to do, things about her character, religious aspects and even physical aspects.
Things have now changed, I met someone about a year ago. At the time I was SO sure that she was an answered prayer and I was so happy, everything was going so well, things had meaning, the Lord up to that point was my best friend but he had now become my hero, the mighty God of Jacob, Abraham and David has answered my 6 if not more year old prayer in detail, character-wise, physical aspects and even that lovely english-accent. Things went ok for a while, we become friends but then the unthinkable happened, things turned ugly, things were said, she did not want a relationship (or maybe did not want me) our characters were tested and things went nowhere. She went back to her home-country and I was left just hanging there like a dirty old mop.
Things have changed, I never fully recovered from that experience, and i simply cannot let go of her, it hurts too much, at times I simply cannot believe what God has promised me, he is not my best friend anymore, hes just God, my relationship with him weakened, I should also mention that Im in part of active church ministry and things are not going so well there either. I now hate to see couples or married people because everything reminds me of her (lets call her S), I get jealous of everyone in an active relationship and I wonder why hasnt God done anything yet.
I used to be a happy guy, worry-free individual and a seeker of Gods face. Everything reminds me of her, even the most stupid thing like streets, sounds, words, feelings, some foods. I got to the point where I dont even want to go to church because most of my good friends are married and I get jealous. I have prayed to hear from God, if I could just hear Your wife is in my hand would be enough but I hear nothing. God seems so distant, I doubt if he listens to my prayer, I am so angry and disappointed in him.
S turned my life upside down and at times I wish I had never met her, maybe well end up together one day, maybe not but I cannot keep living like this anymore, I am so depressed, I am even crying now (I am a guy I shouldnt ) I cant see the bright side of life, I simply cannot make God fill my deepest needs. It was hard to write this but I guess I poured out my heart, no-one know about this and everyone thinks I am the same good-old-guy. Please help me I cant take it anymore.
Things have now changed, I met someone about a year ago. At the time I was SO sure that she was an answered prayer and I was so happy, everything was going so well, things had meaning, the Lord up to that point was my best friend but he had now become my hero, the mighty God of Jacob, Abraham and David has answered my 6 if not more year old prayer in detail, character-wise, physical aspects and even that lovely english-accent. Things went ok for a while, we become friends but then the unthinkable happened, things turned ugly, things were said, she did not want a relationship (or maybe did not want me) our characters were tested and things went nowhere. She went back to her home-country and I was left just hanging there like a dirty old mop.
Things have changed, I never fully recovered from that experience, and i simply cannot let go of her, it hurts too much, at times I simply cannot believe what God has promised me, he is not my best friend anymore, hes just God, my relationship with him weakened, I should also mention that Im in part of active church ministry and things are not going so well there either. I now hate to see couples or married people because everything reminds me of her (lets call her S), I get jealous of everyone in an active relationship and I wonder why hasnt God done anything yet.
I used to be a happy guy, worry-free individual and a seeker of Gods face. Everything reminds me of her, even the most stupid thing like streets, sounds, words, feelings, some foods. I got to the point where I dont even want to go to church because most of my good friends are married and I get jealous. I have prayed to hear from God, if I could just hear Your wife is in my hand would be enough but I hear nothing. God seems so distant, I doubt if he listens to my prayer, I am so angry and disappointed in him.
S turned my life upside down and at times I wish I had never met her, maybe well end up together one day, maybe not but I cannot keep living like this anymore, I am so depressed, I am even crying now (I am a guy I shouldnt ) I cant see the bright side of life, I simply cannot make God fill my deepest needs. It was hard to write this but I guess I poured out my heart, no-one know about this and everyone thinks I am the same good-old-guy. Please help me I cant take it anymore.