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I am Living in a long nightmare

Discussion in 'Prayer Wall' started by CD1, Jun 3, 2019.

  1. CD1

    CD1 New Member

    United States
    wow, well, where do I begin? My Father’s, brother’s and my lives have been turned upside down for the past year. Basically my mother went crazy last Spring time because her youngest daughter is a very immodest dancer that is OBSESSED with becoming famous out in Los Angeles. My mom went to see her mother (that she and we did not want to see for all these years because she was extremely physically and mentally abusive to my mother, as well as being a drunkard. My grandmother who had nothing to do with us skipped our five of our births for a cruise, never talked to us, never celebrated our birthdays, etc) and after she saw her (she only saw her because she wanted some money for my younger sister to become famous), she had to pick up some type of Demon. My mother started coveting after her mother’s mansion, wealth (she married a millionaire for his money), etc. She ignored my brother’s high school graduation, she ignored my father’s birthday and ruined my birthday. She began abusing my father and insulting him right in front of me which would make me have panic attacks. My father (who is 57 years old), brother and I just wanted our normal family back but she didn’t and continued on to make our lives miserable. My father is a business owner and she began this narrative saying: “You don’t do anything”, even though he manages his OWN business and worked another job (night shift as a clerk stocker) to provide for our family. My mother eventually walked out on the three of us, abandoned us, stole the business, stole our 1 minivan (it’s in my father’s name but she stole it) which has resulted in us having to live with my 88 and 86 year old grandparents who have fixed income. We are having to work as Bussers at a restraunt that pays me 9.50 and my brother 8.75 dollars an hour. My brother and I can’t go to school because we don’t have a car, our mother I believe intentionally tried to sabotage our futures. All of this is happening while my youngest sister (my mom gave her 11,000 dollars to move there) is living in Los Angeles, cursing, living in sexual immorality and God knows what else she is doing out there... My mom is taking advice from a 17 year old rebelious child for crying out loud.

    Anyway, the three of us have prayed hours and hours for over a year for reconciliation within our household, but nothing seems to change. I feel extremely discouraged and hopeless. This is the first time I have told anyone about this but the weight is too much to carry. I need help bad, my dad needs help and my brother. I don’t know how else to pray. We have prayed all sorts of prayers, the miracle prayer, etc. I really don’t know what to do. Please help me
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  2. Richard T

    Richard T Well-Known Member

    United States
    Sometimes when an unbeliever from the family departs, there is no guarantee that reconciliation will occur. In the meantime, I would forgive, and try to make the best out of your situation. Ask the Lord for hope and wisdom, and that your incomes would increase.
  3. ajcarey

    ajcarey Active Member

    United States
    What is the response that God is looking for from you so that you properly represent Him in your circumstances? Will you seek Him and serve Him with your whole heart even if things don't change for the better anytime soon? I would wrestle with those questions honestly before God. People will often choose to be wicked; and often their wickedness came about by influences upon them and choices they've made which we can't do anything about. If you can let your confusion over this situation drive you to pray and study God's Word like you never have before then you just may be able to relate to Him and understand Him in a way that you see higher goals He has for you that are beyond the resolution of your bad temporary circumstances. I know that's general, but nevertheless having our minds renewed by gaining a view of the mind and will of God is the freedom we really need; and that takes a labor of seeking Him through diligent prayer and Bible study which is hard work that can't just be done overnight. If you can let this trial, this frustration, this vexation etc that you are needing to deal with be an aid to drive you in that labor then you're going to win out in the long run whatever your family members end up doing and however your job and education work out. Will say a prayer for you and your family, my friend. - Proverbs 2:1-11

    WESTOZZIE Active Member Supporter

    If your story was shared on Crowd funding you would get enough to buy a car pretty quickly I reckon. That doesn't sound very spiritual does it? Maybe sharing your needs is the place of humility, brokenness and desperation that God will move in for you all.
  5. LoricaLady

    LoricaLady YHWH's Supporter

    I would not look to your adult relatives for help or support of any kind. They have a pattern of being not only abusive but dismissive. People repeat patterns and not uncommonly those patterns escalate in intensity. Of course you want them to love you and care for you, but it seems they just don't have the capacity to do that. Yes, on extremely rare occasions people "see the Light" and turn around. But that seems unlikely in most cases. The Lord said that "few" would take the straight and narrow path to Heaven. Focus on Him only and just pray for and be kind to them, but don't expect anything but more of the same. Pray for escape into a much better life, if you are not already doing so, which is what I pray for you. I also pray for healing for you and your siblings from what you have suffered.

    I also pray for you and your siblings for insight and wisdom on what to do, favor where you need it, and a life centered in the Savior. Good for all of you that you are praying, and praying together.
  6. paul1149

    paul1149 that your faith might rest in the power of God Supporter

    United States
    First of all, as hard as things may seem, the Lord does not leave or abandon. That is His promise. He does allow us to go through hard things though - that also has been promised.

    It's fine to pray for repentance and reconciliation, but maybe it's time to take a step back and reassess. James 3 describes the wisdom from above, and after being Pure it's primary component is peace. Seek the Lord's peace. That may mean you need to accept, on a practical level at least, the decisions people have made. Your mother has made some serious choices to honor the superficial things of this world. That's in the Lord's hands, aided by your prayers, but you guys now need to take care of yourselves, and stressing over her choices is not helping you.

    I pray you will find peace in this - the peace that passes understanding, as Philippians 4 puts it - and wisdom for the way forward for all of you. I also pray your mother and sister will see the errors of their ways before it is too late, but that your peace and progress will not be dependent on them at this time.

    May God bless.
  7. believerwithallmyheart

    believerwithallmyheart Newbie

    United States