"I have yet to see any Christian lady broke up with their BF due to them being a non-believer. "
Well let me comfort you by saying I am then I guess the first lady to prove you wrong on this. Yup. Left a past boyfriend before because I realized I couldn't deal with him being non-Christian and constantly bashing my beliefs. I also didn't see how we could sustain a family someday with clashing views.
I just wanted to second this. I've had chances to date guys before, most of them were not Christian. I have no interest in dating a guy who is not a Christian, moreover I have no interest in dating an immature Christian. It's probably part of the complex equation of why I'm single. I don't care if I never marry or don't marry until I'm 60 like my great aunt, I won't be marrying someone that isn't walking the same path as me. I won't be with someone who will tear me down rather than help build me up. I've had enough headache and heartache in life.
I also wanted to add, "wooing" isn't necessary as long as you're honest and proactive in relationships and treat people as human beings. The term wooing frankly makes my skin crawl, it reeks of something sub-human. I try to be fair in discernment, but generally charisma is an unattractive quality to me because I find it goes hand-in-hand with deception. Stability, integrity, honesty, wisdom, health, maturity, joyfulness... these are things that are attractive to me. Moreover a guy who knows as much if not more Biblical information than me is
extremely attractive (and frankly impressive as I rarely find people like that), but that only stays attractive if it comes with humility, mercy, forgiveness, gentleness, and love. "Knowledge puffs up while love builds up".
But there are life skills that are important to have outside of text book and biblical knowledge. There are non church related activities, hobbies, interests, careers, events that are worth time and discussion. It's not that these outside things are "secular", all good things belong to the Lord. God is the author of goodness, flora and fauna, beauty, order, taste, star light, laughter, and pleasure. People may distort these things, but they aren't ungodly or lesser. Would God have spent so much of time and energy and details on "non spiritual" things if they weren't good and worthwhile to Him? If it wasn't good for us? Isn't the good things in creation, just extensions and reflections of the God we know? God redemption is for
all of creation, not just human souls. When His kingdom comes, He's taking back
everything that is His. So whether it's gardening, baseball, art, cooking, or science, it's all an extension of God's image in us. Even if you find baseball boring like I do
Humor is an important life skill. Life is too sad not to laugh when given the chance. I say that as a very serious person, as a stress prone person, I say that because I need to lighten up more than most. So to me it is important to have a partner who can laugh and I can joke with because it's necessary for a healthy life, a balanced life. But I don't care if he's smooth with the ladies, in fact I prefer it if he wasn't smooth!
Even if one might argue "humor" is secular and not important, joy and hope is the fruit of the Spirit.
Being good at dating doesn't mean one is good at a life long commitments, weathering hardships, and being content and making the best in daily toil and boring days. Look to be good at life, not dating.