Totally agree I can't be in your shoes to perfectly know a situation. Instead, I can remember of course my own situation, which was so difficult that I finally had to pray for help. It was not at all 'wrong foot' which frankly doesn't even slow me down. I fix that one without effort, typically.
This was to me something highly offensive, and I could not fully forgive it even after a few days.
But after I finally prayed, then everything was different on the very next day when I saw the neighbor. What had been uncomfortable avoidance became a neighborly friendliness. Just overnight, with no interaction until that next day. Like flipping a switch.
Sometimes I've pointed out that almost anyone can do the Golden Rule when it is easy, much of the time.
It's when it is hard that we need some kind of resource that is effective. Sometimes, in my experience, there is only one resource alone that is effective enough. Divine aid.
I think the Camp David Accords is an example of an amazing outcome (after 3 hot wars) of enemies coming together into friendship. The photos are simply surprising, with the former enemies shaking hands, and even partly embracing.
It's.....otherworldly.
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Carter is a Christian.