- Mar 11, 2013
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I am really tired of people saying, "Hello, how are you?" Because, often, it's none of their business. When they ask me how I am, they're forcing me to either reveal private information, lie about how I'm feeling, deflect the question, or simply refuse to answer it.
Honestly, saying I'm "great!" all the time doesn't make me any happier. It just makes it more instinctive/normal for me to hide problems and feelings I need to address.
I think, as a rule of thumb, that you shouldn't ask someone how they're doing unless you are OK with them answering honestly and it's a time and place where they can do that. You can replace "How are you" with "I'm glad to see you," if you must have an extra nicety to greet someone with.
Am I the only one who feels this way?
Honestly, saying I'm "great!" all the time doesn't make me any happier. It just makes it more instinctive/normal for me to hide problems and feelings I need to address.
I think, as a rule of thumb, that you shouldn't ask someone how they're doing unless you are OK with them answering honestly and it's a time and place where they can do that. You can replace "How are you" with "I'm glad to see you," if you must have an extra nicety to greet someone with.
Am I the only one who feels this way?