The Bible also says that you can divorce your husband due to his adultery and atheism. Scripture that says do not be unequally yoked pertains to the Christian who is in a marriage with an unbeliever.
Your husband is telling you his sins are your fault!
You could wear a Burka, walk three paces behind your husband, never look him in the eyes, and never disagree with a thing he says so as to demonstrate submissiveness, and you'll never be good enough for him to be man enough to live up to his vows that he took with you.
Now, you have to be selfish!
Because God trusted you with three children! Who's care and upbringing you are not only responsible for but shall answer to God for at the day of judgment.
Your husband isn't changing from his old ways. He's washed in his sins and he's using you as his excuse to enjoy the submersion.
And while you're wasting your time with someone who doesn't respect you or your children, the man God has picked out for you is going to pass on by unnoticed. Because he is everything you wish your husband would be. And he would never look at a married woman with kids.
When you're making that list in your head that says you'd be happy if your husband just did this and that, you're telling yourself that that man you wish he'd become is the man you deserve! And that list you're writing up is point by point proof that man isn't in him!
If you do what you've always done you'll get what you've always gotten.
You owe it to yourself and your children to depart from the sinner and seek the righteous way. Because you are their role model. And so too is he.
And how you act toward him, how he treats you, is what they learn to be.
If you wouldn't wish your relationship troubles on anyone, then don't teach them to your children.
His attitude is you're not worth staying faithful to.
You're worth dying from the STD's his whoremongering actions risk bringing home to you.
You're worth dying from the diseases he can get as a drug addict.
You're worth being treated horribly by him by his choice! And the whole time he says its your fault he does that to you.
The only way he can do that to you is if you're there for him to continue doing it.
He doesn't think you're worth more than the way he treats you now. And he calls that your fault!
He doesn't love you. As an adulterer and a drug addict he doesn't love himself. How can he love you? He loves his sin...until death does he part.
And as a drug addict and a whoremonger, in the age of HIV AIDS, death is not impossible.
The thing is, do you want him to take you with him? Then your children are orphaned. Because daddy didn't think more of mom and the kids. And mom agreed with daddy that it was all her fault.
If it were me, he'd have been gone yesterday. God didn't make you in his image and likeness so that you could be abused after taking a sacred oath at an altar where it wasn't asked of you.
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Hoping someone might have gone through a similar situation and may be able to help. I have been married for 8 1/2 yrs, about 4 years ago my husband cheated on me (with a co-worker) - he actually left me and our (then 2) children for about 4 months, prior to that he struggled on and off with drug addiction (even before we were married too, but before we were married he completed a year long Christian drug treatment program called teen challenge) - after that he relapsed pretty bad about 2 years into our marriage. We tend to fight quite a bit now. We have 3 kids - 3, 5, and 7. I homeschool them and stay home. Our last fight was pretty bad and he brought up divorce. He said I am not the same as I used to be - specifically not as submissive. He says I am ungrateful too and that I don't respect him. I am different. I agree. I have forgiven him for the past but the things I have gone through with him have hardened my heart. I don't want to be like that. I want to be able to respect him and submit to him completely like I used to but I am bitter. Obviously praying is part of the solution, but what else can I do? How can I start to be more submissive, not just in actions, but in attitude? The Bible clearly says that wives are to submit to their husbands....so if you don't agree with that please don't reply, I am just interested in helpful advice - thanks