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How should a guy first touch a woman?

Discussion in 'Singles (Only*)' started by Gabe7, Apr 14, 2011.

  1. SullivanZ

    SullivanZ Seeking His Face

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    A light touch on the arm is good for first contact. A nice way to establish contact without being too pushy or overtly obvious. A fist bump or playful high-five can also work.
     
  2. Im_A

    Im_A Legend

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    To me it is a tie between a hug and hold her hand.

    When I mean hug, I don't mean the type of hug that leads to making out and more.
     
  3. Niffer

    Niffer So...that just happened.

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    I think it depends completely!
    I am a very touchy-feely person - I regularly hug all my friends, guys and girls.
    Being in a very french-canadian part of the country, means that kissing strange men on the cheek (left, right, left) is a normal way of saying, hello, goodbye and nice to meet you.

    My girlfriends and I hold hands, and link arms.
    Male friends have arms slung over eachother... *shrug*

    But when Remi first "held" my hand, it was a lot different from a guyfriend walking beside me with his arm around my waist.
    It was done in a special way, and we both knew it.

    It's not what you do, its how you do it.

    ...But it's different in America eh? They don't touch a lot from what I'm understanding...

    -Niffer
     
  4. LoneSheep

    LoneSheep Thou, oh Lord are a shield for me

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    I generally keep my hands to myself. In the past I have let the woman touch me when she feels comfortable, but I never initiate.

    Growing up, if any boy touched a girl for any reason, they were in danger of a slap in the face (or a kick somewhere), and with all the sexual harassment lawsuits these days I don't even chance it in the workplace.
     
  5. religious&reasonable

    religious&reasonable Slayer of Stupid Threads

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    Funniest and akwardest name for a thread ever.


    Someone get this man a medal.
     
  6. Niffer

    Niffer So...that just happened.

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    :confused: ....
    That is so weird.
    I have bosses and fellow employees hug me all the time! And visa-versa.

    Only those we'd call "uptight" refuse to be touched and don't initate, and even then, they're teased for it.

    Who knew North American culture could be so different.
     
  7. Rhye

    Rhye Legend

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    I think its different in different line of work. In my work environment, its normal to hug everyone. Even yesterday, I got some of my parents (students parents) hug me, just randomly. I don't even think about it.
     
  8. callmeMurph

    callmeMurph BGTF

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    Where does it say that?
     
  9. Supplanter

    Supplanter There is no charge for awesomeness.

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    My soon to be husband (in 50 days) laid a kiss on my mouth the first time we met. I'm pretty sure I haven't recovered yet given the upcoming nuptials.
     
  10. Tehchad

    Tehchad YOU! are awesome!

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    Same here. When I found out my dad had cancer, all of my agents wanted to hug me.
     
  11. LoneSheep

    LoneSheep Thou, oh Lord are a shield for me

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    Oh I don't refuse to be touched, but I have have more to lose if I initiate :)

    Yes you are right, it is a cultural thing I think. Some are more touchy-feely than others.
     
  12. TanteBelle

    TanteBelle Guest

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    Please, I'd know if he made the 'calculated yawn' and I'd knock him in the ribs rather mockingly! LOL!

    For me, it's a huge step just to shake my hand and get a hug out of me! :D I have a mate who wanted to give me a hug but he had to tell me to 'Relax!!! It's just a hug!' Haha! Egh, that's me! Anything else from there, and I'll start getting nervous.
     
  13. TanteBelle

    TanteBelle Guest

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    Aussie girls generally are very much like you described. But I'm just a prude and don't let folks touch me unless I want it, which I usually don't. The oddest moments when someone touched me was hugging my foot! Now that was weird and yes, it was a bloke! LOL! But with blokes, sometimes if I'm comfortable enough around them then we'll have 'water fights' where we'll wash our hands or just wet them and then smudge each others faces! ^_^ Ewwww! LOL!
     
  14. septemberskies

    septemberskies You can find me on cloud no.9

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    If a guy starts out with lightly touching my back, it's fine.... that's probably the most natural "first touch". That usually leads to hand holding, hugs, and the infamous kiss.
     
  15. 127.0.0.1

    127.0.0.1 They rally 'round the family

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    With his forefinger...

    [​IMG]
     
  16. crishmael

    crishmael nothing but the rain

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    There's an awful lot of creepy in that pic.
     
  17. peacechild4

    peacechild4 My ♥ is hidden in GOD~ want to find me ~ find GOD

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    Touch her soul first.. please.. I think all the rest who cares.. it will come without effort..
     
  18. TanteBelle

    TanteBelle Guest

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    :clap: Yes, totally! That's what enables me to even shake hands with a bloke or give him a hug; he earned my trust enough to even go that far! :D
     
  19. Spirit_Star

    Spirit_Star Newbie

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    for me i think i would be comfortable with a touch of the hand or holding hands.
     
  20. .Iona.

    .Iona. I love Jesus!

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    Always makes me think of a true gentleman.
     
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