How should a guy first touch a woman?

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The touch is a big move for many guys. Should it be the calculated yawn then put your arm around her back? Brushing her hair back with your hand? Holding her hand? The first kiss at the end of the date? For me it always seems to be different. I've heard some guys stop short but I don't go there.
 

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not the yawn and stretch tactic, too cheesy.

i think it depends on how well you know her and how comfortable she seems to be with you. a hug or holding her hand isn't necessarily out of line. Chances are if she's into you, she'll be touching your arm or some such thing too. so just watch for those cues that tell you she'd be okay with physical contact.
 
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Oh no no no ..never calculated..and never a cheesy tactic....

I personally think that the first touch, kiss, whatever should be in a moment where the guy really does genuinely care for her and wants to show her in that small way...not because that's what's supposed to happen on a date or at a certain point in the relationship.

I think touching seems to come across best when the woman wants the guy to touch her. For that reason I wait until she has touched my arm a few times or she has even gone for the kiss. Suspense and patience are my friends.
 
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Is it appropriate? If her Dad/parents or a church minster or elder were there watching, how would they react?

Every girl, date and situation is different. If girls could be read and predicted, dates wouldn't half be dull!.

How would they react if they were watching? Who cares. That is why everyone knows its tacky to show affection in public, so you don't have to think of such things.

You would have more fun if you would read girls better? Naughty naughty.
 
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I'm kind of silly when I'm really happy, so I'd prob overdo the calculated yawn to the point of retardation. Well, actually IDK. Since we're talking about the FIRST touch, IDK. Mom told me years ago that ladies like being guided around (to tables, the car, etc) by the small of their back. I think that would work near the end of the first date, given that we're comfortable with each other.
 
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I think it's sweet if I guy asks first. That may sound weird to you, but if it's real in his heart it works. If he truly is thinking about me, my feelings, my boundaries, me as a person, a daughter of God, it works. If he's just doing it to seem sweet, it's creepy and his parting gift is nice, fresh pepper spray!:angel:
 
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Ok ok ok hmm

First Kiss in the Relationship when we are both ready.

Holding Hands...Yes.

Anything that is risky that will lead to other stuff...NO not until she has a ring on her left hand, last name is the same as mine, and we just came back from our wedding.

God Bless,
Drew
 
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With respect and the desire to initiate a connection, not just "ahahahahah!!!! I touched you!! nanana!!" ;)

Seriously, physical affection should be an initiate/respond thing between a couple. It isn't one person feeling the other up, its a mutual show of affection that one person starts and the other reciprocates.

I'm trying to think of a good analogy of what I am trying to get across but nothing is popping into my head.
 
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If the topic of how to touch a woman the first time can be spelled out with some equation, I wonder if things in the relationship are legit or if the touch is just being done for the sake of touching.

These things occur on a rather mystical level and are almost hard to understand. If you can define how it should happen, then it probably shouldn't happen. (Except for the obvious clear guidelines of not falling in to sin.)

Proverbs 30
18 Three things are beyond me;
four I can't understand:


19 the way of an eagle in the sky,
the way of a snake on a rock,
the way of a ship at sea,
and the way of a man with a young woman.

20 This is the way of an adulteress:
she eats and wipes her mouth
and says, "I've done nothing wrong." (AC)
 
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With respect and the desire to initiate a connection, not just "ahahahahah!!!! I touched you!! nanana!!" ;)

Seriously, physical affection should be an initiate/respond thing between a couple. It isn't one person feeling the other up, its a mutual show of affection that one person starts and the other reciprocates.

I'm trying to think of a good analogy of what I am trying to get across but nothing is popping into my head.

Its like two flowers growing side by side who eventually intertwine. How did it happen? Who can say? Such are the mysteries of love.
 
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Start by small touches, like brushing her hair aside from her face if she has long flowing hair.

I like this!
I also suggest, touch on the shoulder, and knee. If she is into she is going to love it. This is if you KNOW she is very much into you.
 
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With respect and the desire to initiate a connection, not just "ahahahahah!!!! I touched you!! nanana!!" ;)

Seriously, physical affection should be an initiate/respond thing between a couple. It isn't one person feeling the other up, its a mutual show of affection that one person starts and the other reciprocates.

I'm trying to think of a good analogy of what I am trying to get across but nothing is popping into my head.


^ this :thumbsup:


I saw the thread question and thought : that's planned out? :)


In my experience, it happened by accident honestly and I would blush right afterwards because it really was an unconscious act/response and usually after hanging out them a few times first.
 
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