How should a guy first touch a woman?

[SullivanZ]

A light touch on the arm is good for first contact. A nice way to establish contact without being too pushy or overtly obvious. A fist bump or playful high-five can also work.

 

[Im_A]

To me it is a tie between a hug and hold her hand.

When I mean hug, I don't mean the type of hug that leads to making out and more.

 

[Niffer]

I think it depends completely!
I am a very touchy-feely person - I regularly hug all my friends, guys and girls.
Being in a very french-canadian part of the country, means that kissing strange men on the cheek (left, right, left) is a normal way of saying, hello, goodbye and nice to meet you.

My girlfriends and I hold hands, and link arms.
Male friends have arms slung over eachother... *shrug*

But when Remi first "held" my hand, it was a lot different from a guyfriend walking beside me with his arm around my waist.
It was done in a special way, and we both knew it.

It's not what you do, its how you do it.

...But it's different in America eh? They don't touch a lot from what I'm understanding...

-Niffer

 

[LoneSheep]

I generally keep my hands to myself. In the past I have let the woman touch me when she feels comfortable, but I never initiate.

Growing up, if any boy touched a girl for any reason, they were in danger of a slap in the face (or a kick somewhere), and with all the sexual harassment lawsuits these days I don't even chance it in the workplace.

 

[religious&reasonable]

Funniest and akwardest name for a thread ever.


Someone get this man a medal.

 

[Niffer]

I generally keep my hands to myself. In the past I have let the woman touch me when she feels comfortable, but I never initiate.

Growing up, if any boy touched a girl for any reason, they were in danger of a slap in the face (or a kick somewhere), and with all the sexual harassment lawsuits these days I don't even chance it in the workplace.

....
That is so weird.
I have bosses and fellow employees hug me all the time! And visa-versa.

Only those we'd call "uptight" refuse to be touched and don't initate, and even then, they're teased for it.

Who knew North American culture could be so different.

 

[Rhye]

I think its different in different line of work. In my work environment, its normal to hug everyone. Even yesterday, I got some of my parents (students parents) hug me, just randomly. I don't even think about it.

 

[callmeMurph]

I grew up Baptist, so I'm 100% positive that any physical contact whatsoever before you kiss at the altar is unscriptural.

Where does it say that?

 

[Supplanter]

My soon to be husband (in 50 days) laid a kiss on my mouth the first time we met. I'm pretty sure I haven't recovered yet given the upcoming nuptials.

 

[Tehchad]

I think its different in different line of work. In my work environment, its normal to hug everyone. Even yesterday, I got some of my parents (students parents) hug me, just randomly. I don't even think about it.

Same here. When I found out my dad had cancer, all of my agents wanted to hug me.

 

[LoneSheep]

....
That is so weird.
I have bosses and fellow employees hug me all the time! And visa-versa.

Only those we'd call "uptight" refuse to be touched and don't initate, and even then, they're teased for it.

Who knew North American culture could be so different.

Oh I don't refuse to be touched, but I have have more to lose if I initiate

Yes you are right, it is a cultural thing I think. Some are more touchy-feely than others.

 

[TanteBelle]

The touch is a big move for many guys. Should it be the calculated yawn then put your arm around her back? Brushing her hair back with your hand? Holding her hand? The first kiss at the end of the date? For me it always seems to be different. I've heard some guys stop short but I don't go there.

Please, I'd know if he made the 'calculated yawn' and I'd knock him in the ribs rather mockingly! LOL!

For me, it's a huge step just to shake my hand and get a hug out of me! I have a mate who wanted to give me a hug but he had to tell me to 'Relax!!! It's just a hug!' Haha! Egh, that's me! Anything else from there, and I'll start getting nervous.

 

[TanteBelle]

....
That is so weird.
I have bosses and fellow employees hug me all the time! And visa-versa.

Only those we'd call "uptight" refuse to be touched and don't initate, and even then, they're teased for it.

Who knew North American culture could be so different.

Aussie girls generally are very much like you described. But I'm just a prude and don't let folks touch me unless I want it, which I usually don't. The oddest moments when someone touched me was hugging my foot! Now that was weird and yes, it was a bloke! LOL! But with blokes, sometimes if I'm comfortable enough around them then we'll have 'water fights' where we'll wash our hands or just wet them and then smudge each others faces! Ewwww! LOL!

 

[septemberskies]

If a guy starts out with lightly touching my back, it's fine.... that's probably the most natural "first touch". That usually leads to hand holding, hugs, and the infamous kiss.

 

[127.0.0.1]

How should a guy first touch a woman?

With his forefinger...

 

[crishmael]

With his forefinger...

There's an awful lot of creepy in that pic.

 

[peacechild4]

Touch her soul first.. please.. I think all the rest who cares.. it will come without effort..

 

[TanteBelle]

Touch her soul first.. please.. I think all the rest who cares.. it will come without effort..

Yes, totally! That's what enables me to even shake hands with a bloke or give him a hug; he earned my trust enough to even go that far!

 

[Spirit_Star]

for me i think i would be comfortable with a touch of the hand or holding hands.

 

[.Iona.]

Mom told me years ago that ladies like being guided around (to tables, the car, etc) by the small of their back.

Always makes me think of a true gentleman.