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How Quick we are to Judge!

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I see.

So is it okay to:
  • Have sex with your mother?
  • Have sex with your sister?
  • Have sex with your aunt?
  • Have sex with an animal?

Read chapter 18 of Leviticus. You'll see the prohibitions against men lying with men is in the same chapter as the prohibitions I stated above. Aren't we "picking and choosing" which verses and laws to obey when we abstain from those perversions I've listed, yet somehow think it's okay for men to have sex with other men?
If someone makes a decision to have sex with their mother, sister, aunt, or an animal than it is possible that they have other issues. Then again, maybe not. I would not at ALL consider them to be bad people. God is the judge, not you or I. Maybe you should re-read your own message at the end of your posts. It's a little hypocritical to me. You are a sinner just like me and every gay person out there so maybe it's time to take the plank out of your own eye. Do you think it right to judge gay people as being wrong? Honestly?
 
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Buzz Dixon said:
Bestiality, no. Consensual incest, yes.
Why?

I think this statement is made because many Christians use the rhetoric of "I don't judge gays," but this statement clearly states otherwise.

Gay people are not having sex with family members, that is why one cannot compare them to incest.
 
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Fate276 said:
Consensual incest, NO.
Consensual incest, yes. It's two people voluntarily having sex. Why should they be denied the right to knock boots just 'cuz mean ol' society says their relationship is immoral and contrary to family values?

No different from gays demanding the right to have sex with members of their own gender despite society's disapproval of homosexual behavior.
 
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Neverstop said:
Gay people are not having sex with family members, that is why one cannot compare them to incest.
Well, actually, there are a number of gays who have incest, it's just that the opportunities for incest are rarer compared to incest among heterosexuals.

Since only 3% of the population is gay, the odds of finding two closely related people who are both gay are considerably lower the odds of finding two closely related heterosexuals.

But it does happen.

As to comparing gays and consensual incest, I find the dinstictions made by [apparently] pro-gay posters amusing. It reminds me of an incident that happened once between my Korean wife and me.

I was telling her how, when I played football in high school, one of the players used to gross the rest of us out by catching and eating grasshoppers.

"What's wrong with that?" she asked. :scratch: "We used to catch and eat grasshoppers all the time. We'd roast them over a fire. They were delicious."

"He ate 'em raw," I said.

"RAW?!?!?!" she said. :sick: "Yuck!"

And I said, "It's interesting where the line gets drawn, isn't it?"
 
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Buzz Dixon said:
Consensual incest, yes. It's two people voluntarily having sex. Why should they be denied the right to knock boots just 'cuz mean ol' society says their relationship is immoral and contrary to family values?

No different from gays demanding the right to have sex with members of their own gender despite society's disapproval of homosexual behavior.
"Society's" disapproval? Funny...we must live in different "societies." Here in America, adults have the right to live their lives as they wish, well, at least they are supposed to...
 
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Well, actually, there are a number of gays who have incest, it's just that the opportunities for incest are rarer compared to incest among heterosexuals.
Mmmm....how does one support this claim? It doesn't really matter because there is an implicit point here that incest among heterosexuals is NEVER a hot button issue, and it happens a LOT more that gay sex. Yes, just google incest statistics.

Since only 3% of the population is gay
Don't we mean 3% of those that admit to being gay? If we haven't noticed, being gay is not exactly popular, so there is much motivation to keep it quiet.

As to comparing gays and consensual incest, I find the dinstictions made by [apparently] pro-gay posters amusing.
The world is not as black and white as we would like to think it to be. Just because one is pro-civil rights doesn't mean one is pro-gay.

As for thinking it "amusing," why try to bait someone? Is it because there is no more argument left? Gay people cannot be compared to incest because a large number of incest that occurs is really sexual abuse. Gay people are not forcing each other to do anything, that is why the analogy fails.

The mere fact so many try to compare gays to murderers, incest, beastiality, etc shows just how much work needs to be done by all of us.

With lips people say "I don't judge," and with their keyboards they use nearly every letter as their own personal gavel.

When we will realize the problem with homophobia has almost nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with patriarchy and the subjugation of women?
 
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Fate276 said:
If someone makes a decision to have sex with their mother, sister, aunt, or an animal than it is possible that they have other issues. Then again, maybe not. I would not at ALL consider them to be bad people. God is the judge, not you or I. Maybe you should re-read your own message at the end of your posts. It's a little hypocritical to me. You are a sinner just like me and every gay person out there so maybe it's time to take the plank out of your own eye. Do you think it right to judge gay people as being wrong? Honestly?

Ummm - before you haul off and slug me, did you even read my responses in posts #50 and #52?
 
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Fate276 said:
You are a sinner just like me and every gay person out there so maybe it's time to take the plank out of your own eye. Do you think it right to judge gay people as being wrong? Honestly?
Haven't you just judged Buzz Dixon and gay people by calling them sinners - rightly. If you want to criticise others for judging you should explain what you mean by judge, since people use the word in different ways.
NB People can't take the plank out of their own eye - that is the work of God.
 
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CSMR said:
Haven't you just judged Buzz Dixon and gay people by calling them sinners - rightly. If you want to criticise others for judging you should explain what you mean by judge, since people use the in different ways.
NB People can't take the plank out of their own eye - that is the work of God.
(Not trying to speak for the poster quoted, just couldn't resist this great post:) )

Can one be a Christian without being a sinner?

A good point is raised here about what it means to "judge." In my experience, people that are homophobic, especially Christians, judge gays in the way of completely shunning them. Not getting to know them, not talking with them; really it's just not caring about them.

There is a difference between judging people and holding them accountable. The former is cold, harsh, and self-righteous while the latter is warm, firm, compassionate, and Christ-seeking on a multi-lateral level.

The only way to seek Christ is together, and whether we like it or not, there are Gay Christians, and we need them like they need us.

No one goes to heaven on a solo flight.;)
 
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re amount of consensual gay incest vs. consensual heterosexual incest:

Neverstop said:
Mmmm....how does one support this claim? It doesn't really matter because there is an implicit point here that incest among heterosexuals is NEVER a hot button issue, and it happens a LOT more that gay sex. Yes, just google incest statistics.
Do the math:

3% of the population is gay. Say we have a small community with ten families, each of which has ten blood relations (evenly divided between male and female) who would qualify by the degree of relationship for incest (not sayin' they're actually doing it, just that if they did, the act would be considered incest).

In that community of 100 people, three will be gay ('cuz we're playing by strict statistical averages here). Of those three, there is a one in five chance that two of them will be in the same family, and hence any physical intimacy they share would be incestuous. However...one has to factor in the fact that gays are male and female, so conceivably one could gave a gay male and a lesbian in the same family, and hence no risk of incest. (We'll leave that out just to keep things simple.)

Conversely, there are 97 heterosexuals in the community, and each and everyone has a 100% chance of finding a heterosexual member of his/her family with whom physical intimacy would be incest. Even if all three gay community members belonged to the same family, there would still be enough heterosexual family members in that grouping to guarantee the possibility of incest.

Hence, gay incest is a possibility, albeit a smaller possibility than heterosexual incest. And again, we're citing consensual behavior between two adults, not child molesting and pedophillia.


Neverstop said:
Don't we mean 3% of those that admit to being gay? If we haven't noticed, being gay is not exactly popular, so there is much motivation to keep it quiet.
3% is what Kinsey cited as exclusive adult homosexual behavior (the 10% number cited erroneously by many people refers to children and adolescents who abandon same-sex play by their early adult years). Since then some figures have suggested the actual number of gays may be as low as 1.8%.


Neverstop said:
Gay people cannot be compared to incest because a large number of incest that occurs is really sexual abuse. Gay people are not forcing each other to do anything, that is why the analogy fails.

The mere fact so many try to compare gays to murderers, incest, beastiality, etc shows just how much work needs to be done by all of us.
No offense, but you are in as dire need of remedial English as you are remedial math. In my original post I cited consensual incest; i.e., sexual relations between two competent unencumbered adults who are closely related by blood. It is no different than consensual homosexual sex. In both cases in involves individuals who put their personal physical gratification above societal norms. Nothing prevents gays from loving one another all they wish; the moral stricture is against the physical act. Likewise nothing prevents family members from loving one another as deeply as they wish; again the moral ban is on the physical act.

I have never compared gay sex to murder or to bestiality; again, seek out my original post on the subject and you'll see I deliberately excluded bestiality while specifically citing consenseual incest, not child abuse.

Neverstop said:
With lips people say "I don't judge," and with their keyboards they use nearly every letter as their own personal gavel.
Methinks thou project too much...

Neverstop said:
When we will realize the problem with homophobia has almost nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with patriarchy and the subjugation of women?
Say wha--? Huh? You pulled that one so far outta left field you had to leave the ball park to do it.
 
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Neverstop said:
A good point is raised here about what it means to "judge." In my experience, people that are homophobic, especially Christians, judge gays in the way of completely shunning them. Not getting to know them, not talking with them; really it's just not caring about them.

There is a difference between judging people and holding them accountable. The former is cold, harsh, and self-righteous while the latter is warm, firm, compassionate, and Christ-seeking on a multi-lateral level.
Then you'll be happy to know I am not a homophobe. I have a number of gay friends I love dearly and cherish richly, I just don't want to have sex with them. While I think homosexual behavior is a result of some sort of physiological or psychological misfiring (or a combination of both), I am willing to tolerate what people do in private.

Just because I do not extend a blanket blessing on gay sex, nor do I think it's a particularly wise move to classify even stable long term homosexual relationships as marriage does not mean I wish ill on gays. I've said it before, I'll say it again: Bring me a petition for domestic unions that gives those unions the same rights as marriage but covers relationships in addition to gay unions and I'll sign it.

What gays -- and philanderers, and consensual incest advocates (they're out there), and others -- are saying is this: My right to personal physical gratification supercedes any duty I may have to society as a whole.
 
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What gays -- and philanderers, and consensual incest advocates (they're out there), and others -- are saying is this: My right to personal physical gratification supercedes any duty I may have to society as a whole.
So "society" is something set in stone? It has never changed, progressed, or evolved? That statement wholly reveals bigotry because it is saying "Gays have no place in my society."

Bring me a petition for domestic unions that gives those unions the same rights as marriage but covers relationships in addition to gay unions and I'll sign it.
Wow...so much for the 1st Amendment

Do the math:

3% of the population is gay.
Just because one believes only 3% is gay, that does not make it a fact.

I have a number of gay friends I love dearly and cherish richly, I just don't want to have sex with them. While
This sounds suspiciously like the old 'I'm not a racist' argument. Maybe you've heard it? "I'm not racist, I have black friends."

No offense, but you are in as dire need of remedial English as you are remedial math.
I am in dire need of a LOT of things...just trying to prioritize:bow:

In both cases in involves individuals who put their personal physical gratification above societal norms. Nothing prevents gays from loving one another all they wish; the moral stricture is against the physical act.
How do gay people hurt society? We have ALL heard the whole ridiculous AIDS thing, so that is not a valid response because it is not a serious one.

More important, the gay couples that love each other are not in it for "sex." Believe it or not, they are humans too, created in the image of God.

In my original post I cited consensual incest
Incest is heterosexual sex, and it is a violation of that heterosexual sex. Gay sex is not comparable for another reason...

Methinks thou project too much...
Is this a professional opinion?

Say wha--? Huh? You pulled that one so far outta left field you had to leave the ball park to do it.
Instead of trying to insult someone as a way of avoiding admitting a lack of comprehension, maybe it would be more constructive to ask what was meant by that?
 
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Buzz Dixon said:
To paraphrase an old quip, Neverstop, you are like the peace of God, you passeth all understanding...
Not sure how the topic was switched from the thread to attacking me, but that is the beauty of free speech.

It saddens me the discussion was reduced to this, but it also feels good because yet another defense of bigotry failed.

Still learning how to communicate in a more loving manner without compromising the message.
 
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Neverstop said:
Not sure how the topic was switched from the thread to attacking me, but that is the beauty of free speech.

It saddens me the discussion was reduced to this, but it also feels good because yet another defense of bigotry failed.

Still learning how to communicate in a more loving manner without compromising the message.
Neverstop, you think much too highly of yourself.

Go back and re-read the message thread.

You are the one who keeps throwing non-sequitors into everything when you're confronted with an argument you don't care for.

I do find you amusing, especially the way you automatically assume bigotry among those who hold opinions contrary to your own.
 
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big·ot (bĭg'ət)
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n.

One who is strongly partial to one's own group, religion, race, or politics and is intolerant of those who differ.

big·ot·ry (bĭg'ə-trē)
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n.
The attitude, state of mind, or behavior characteristic of a bigot; intolerance.



Christ was never a bigot, and he is God. Many may disagree, but it seems Christ was quite opposite of the above definitions.

Who are we to improve on Christ?
 
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The mere fact that I am indulging in this fruitless (no pun intended) debate is a sign I'm tolerant of those who differ with me, Neverstop. Perhaps the bigotry is on the other side of the line since the pro-gay side never seems willing to say, "Y'know, perhaps the people who think homosexuality is a sin may have a point..."
 
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Buzz Dixon said:
The mere fact that I am indulging in this fruitless (no pun intended) debate is a sign I'm tolerant of those who differ with me, Neverstop. Perhaps the bigotry is on the other side of the line since the pro-gay side never seems willing to say, "Y'know, perhaps the people who think homosexuality is a sin may have a point..."
Again, just because one is pro-Civil Rights does not mean one is pro-Gay.

Homosexuality is a sin, don't argue or doubt that. Gays are judged more harshly than heteros, and that is what is upsetting to many people.

The debate is only fruitless if one, or both parties, exit without learning.

Please forgive me if I have insulted and/or attacked you.

According to the definition, I don't think one can be a bigot against a bigot because if the latter is absent, the former cannot be present.
 
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Buzz Dixon said:
re amount of consensual gay incest vs. consensual heterosexual incest:

Do the math:

3% of the population is gay. Say we have a small community with ten families, each of which has ten blood relations (evenly divided between male and female) who would qualify by the degree of relationship for incest (not sayin' they're actually doing it, just that if they did, the act would be considered incest).

In that community of 100 people, three will be gay ('cuz we're playing by strict statistical averages here). Of those three, there is a one in five chance that two of them will be in the same family, and hence any physical intimacy they share would be incestuous. However...one has to factor in the fact that gays are male and female, so conceivably one could gave a gay male and a lesbian in the same family, and hence no risk of incest. (We'll leave that out just to keep things simple.)
Which would be a good argument in small communities such as existed in
much of Israel to interpret Lev 18 broadly rather than narrowly as is
suggested by its Deut parallel.

i.e. there is a good chance that a marriage won't be available to a
sizable fraction of gays. (And lesbians, do be serious, women can't
survive on their own ...)

Hence, gay incest is a possibility, albeit a smaller possibility than heterosexual incest. And again, we're citing consensual behavior between two adults, not child molesting and pedophillia.
Leaving genetic arguments aside, for sibling relationships and parent-child relationships there are very serious questions of power relationships which make the question of true consent iffy enough to justify banning them.

First cousins... with genetic counseling I don't see an objection from a secular POV. Ideally I'd like to see some studies on polygamy before going down that path, but again I don't see any obvious killers from a secular POV (and the Biblical arguments against it aren't all that red hot either).
3% is what Kinsey cited as exclusive adult homosexual behavior
Which leaves bisexuals where?
 
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