How far would you go?

[jenptcfan]

I think it would depend. If he lived someone warm with a beach, I'd be happy to move. I hate cold weather, but if he lived somewhere cold and was close to some good ski slopes, I might move there. In other words, if I deem the new location better than the present location, no problem!

 

[Out of the Flames]

I have moved for love before- twice. From a relationship standpoint, it was a HUGE mistake because I was not getting the support that I was giving. But the experience did help to shape me into who I am now and I have learned a great deal from the whole thing.

Would I transplant myself right now in hopes that it might be the right time? Not a chance. But if I could say in my heart with no doubt that this is the one and there could be nothing greater than that which I have right now, I'd move in a heartbeat.

 

[brettnolan]

I think it would depend. If he lived someone warm with a beach, I'd be happy to move. I hate cold weather, but if he lived somewhere cold and was close to some good ski slopes, I might move there. In other words, if I deem the new location better than the present location, no problem!

location wins out over love

 

[TinaW]

I moved from one continent to another to be with my love. We got married and were very happy together. I would have always done it again for him.

Now of course I have children and I don't think I would take a big step like this again. My kids come first. My oldest is in highschool and I don't think it would be a good idea for him to change schools.

If I found a wonderful man again I'd hope he would be the one to move.

 

[jenptcfan]

location wins out over love

Location, location, location!

That not to say that if I were already in a serious relationship with a guy who lived nearby and he had to move because of a job or something that I wouldn't move there with him. I just don't know. I guess I'd probably have to be engaged for that to happen though.

 

[ardeur]

If I know for certain that I'm going to marry the guy I'm "involved" with right now, I will be the one to move. Right now I feel very reluctant about moving, but I also don't want to marry right now either. There is so much I want to do... that's why I'm moving to Spain in June for 6 months. Next I need to work on finishing the last few quarters of my Math degree.

Additional Comment:
Clearly, if I move to marry this guy, it will be a step down from where I'm living at the moment. There are no career opportunities where he lives, I have no family or connections, there are no good schools, and the weather is nasty. Right now I live near the Silicon valley with ample job opportunities at every corner, several excellent schools to choose from, all my family within an hour of each other, and I couldn't ask for better weather. We've discussed this at length with each other and I think it will continue to be a hot topic of conversation in the future. I can't say that I've made a concrete decision.

 

[Grommit]

1001.38 miles. Would have moved further if need be.

I moved because it's worth the risk. I'm also still young (kinda) so this is really the best opportunity for me to undertake this type of venture. Short of Christ, this may turn out to be the best thing that could happen to me so, yeah... I'm going to do it, but, if it doesn't work, hey... at least I gave it a shot and found out first hand it wasn't ment to be rather than living the remainder of my life wondering, "what if..."

If the person is worth it, and in my case she is very much worth it, and if you want to see how things may end up, then, eventually someone is going to have to move. Sure there is no guarantee that it will be successful (read marriage) but, I feel more confident things can work out if we are together rather than far apart. Being close adds a whole new dimension to the relationship that you just can't make up for online or on the phone. You can't replace touch nor can you replace those special moments that only happens when you are near. Beyond that, if you romantically love a person, I don't know how you wouldn't want to be close to them.

As for you having kids I guess that really makes things difficult. I personally would have to do what's best for my children, but, if they were comfortable with the idea of moving, I'd find a way to make it work... I'm sure you can find a new job (even if it pay's less) and you can also work things out with your ex. I'm sure she's your ex for a reason... (Oh, and please note that I am not endorsing remarriage if it would be seen as adultry)

Anyway, thats my two cents.

 

[mountainman1234]

i'm with heavenlieisland on this one. i'd go where i needed to go. marriage (being with someone) is supposed to be like the union between Christ and His church. we should go where we can be the best spouse we can be. if my love for Christ calls me to some foreign region, i'll go. if my love for a woman takes me some place far away, i'll go.

 

[mattkimsey]

arrg......it depends....any of you ladies single





























j/k....

 

[violetstar]

I would definately move to a diifferent country for true love. It does not scare, it just scares me too find that kind of love then lose it.

 

[hischildsindik]

I would move to the ends of the earth... or stay in my smallish, boring hometown. With love that is centered in Christ... it would be worth it.

 

[strasburg_valley]

I can't go anywhere, I love my family too much. I'm patient and certain my partner is around here under my nose somewhere(didn't know something would be so hard to find under my nose....)

 

[R.James]

If I found the right woman I would drop whatever I was doing to be near her, so long as God approved. I am working on a career, but I hope I never get so committed to a job or one location that I am unable to move if needed. If she was in Siberia maybe that would be a different story (I love you, but....)