how do I let go?

[koban4max]

I do get tired of depression.
The cure it..you need to have happy face.

 

[luv4godremains]

yer...
my boyfriend helps a lot when he's around!
I miss him! lol, oh well, I gotta learn to rely on God to make me happy, especially as my bf will be going home at the end of august! happy faces should work, and if not, at least no one will be able to tell, I manage to hide it from myeslf quite well toothat way! I dunno why, it just works!

 

[lj4jc]

Having a happy face doesn't always make you feel good on the inside. Many times I have to think of something good as well. One thing is to think of the many blessings God bestowed on you. I think about the fact that I have a roof over my head and food in my belly and clothes on my back and that I can pay most of my bills- this helps as well.

 

[koban4max]

Just refuse to be depress..

 

[lj4jc]

Just refuse to be depress..

Easier said than done

 

[koban4max]

just murder "depreession" with prozac..

 

[Johnnz]

Letting go is easy advice when you are fine. What are you meant to 'let go"?

Memories remain. They don't simply disappear. That is a large part of what you are struggling with. Memories can become less binding if we do a few simple things.

1. They take time to change in their hold on you - so don't depair or panic, or feel that you are not comitted enough.
2. When you get a flashback, or thought or feeling just quietly and peacefully pray "Lord Jesus. I don't want that to keep it's hold on me. Just work within me and begin to loosen its power over me. Thank you Lord Jesus"
3. Good experiences and healthy thinking can begin to replace the hurtful and bad ones. We need teh positive to work against the negative - light replacing darkness.
4. Often a person is deeply wounded within their own spirits. This requires wise counsel, and specific prayer/ Jesus came to 'bind up the broken hearted'. This does take more than a quick prayer though.

John
NZ

 

[lj4jc]

When all you have known is people hurting an abusing you all your life- it is hard to just think happy thoughts- prayer helps -but still the depression remains

 

[luv4godremains]

thanks John,
I will keep praying, found it pretty hard today though, after everything, the attempts to get rid of the derpression as well, my body just wont give it up for some reason! it won't let me live peacefully, I went on one of my real highs, which is great at the time, but when you get the low afterwards, that sucks, same when I get the whole anger side of things, I ahte not having control over this! I trid giving it to God, but if I don't have it in the first place, then how can I give something that I don't have to him?
I will keep praying, especially when I have flashbacks, I will pray that I also remember! and with the good experiences thing, I guess all I can think of right now is that now I don't have to worry about the past hurting me again, even though it's still scary to think that there are people like that who wouldn't even think twice about hurting me like that!
and about the whole prayer over "binding up the broken hearted" I have had a lot of prayer for that! I know it will help, and that God will heal me some day, but I also know that whatever reason he isn't, that it will be used for good!
Koban, I would "murder" the depression with Prozac, but after the way my mum being on atni-depressives hurt me, I don't think I could do that, plainly in fear of reacting the same way as her when stopping, and when they wear off!
ljorem, I know happy faces don't always work, I've been trying to make them work for me for my wole life, but, I guess at least I'm trying something! I will think of the fact that I am lucky to live where I do, so many times we have almost ended up on the streets, yet, we pray for God to provide for us, and in certain clear ways, he does! it scares me a little, but, I know it's a good thing!

 

[angel82]

I know everyone is saying Let Go and Let God ,however there is sometimes a medical condition that may be involved in your not being able to control the ups and downs. There is medication for this and God has given us the intellect to discover this so I would seriously look to a professional for some healthy advice. I have a familly member who is going through the similar situation and it is caused by a low level of seratonin in the brain.

I am not saying to stop praying but God did give us the ability to seek out the professinals out there. If you feel more confortable look for a chrisitian physician, we have a directory in Ontario that lists Christians in different fields

Hope this helps and I have you in my prayer circle

With Gods Love and Blessings you will get through this

 

[cristalblaze]

One way I handled depression years ago was drawing cartoons, and putting characters in funny situations and outrageous situations, and then it was not long before the cartoons took on the faces of the people who were cruel to me. Then I began laughing at them, instead of hating them. Maybe that doesn't sound like a nice thing to do, but it sure was good therapy for me at the time, and it really pulled me out of the depression. And if you really think about it, the abuser is a very pathetic individual. The best thing anyone can do is get as far away from an habitual abuser as possible. With me, this was my mother. I am still learning to deal with her abuses, all psychological. It has become necessary to cut off all communication with her for the rest of my life.

 

[luv4godremains]

angel - I have gone to my doctor, but nothing can be done untill october, I was referred, and they are really full up and that's when I get to the top of the waiting list!

cristalblaze - it doesn't sound mean or nasty as we all have our own ways of coping and dealing with things! I think I am as far away from him as I can be, though,I'm a bit worried about going to camp as he sometimes goes to some of the seminars, guess if I see him I will either freeze up and stand still, or, just leg it! I don't have his phone numbers, I don't even know where he lives any more, and that's my Dad! it seems kinda stragne though, I mean, to be avoiding someone who I am meant to love and all, I do love him, but I hate what he did to me!

 

[cristalblaze]

cristalblaze - it doesn't sound mean or nasty as we all have our own ways of coping and dealing with things! I think I am as far away from him as I can be, though,I'm a bit worried about going to camp as he sometimes goes to some of the seminars, guess if I see him I will either freeze up and stand still, or, just leg it! I don't have his phone numbers, I don't even know where he lives any more, and that's my Dad! it seems kinda stragne though, I mean, to be avoiding someone who I am meant to love and all, I do love him, but I hate what he did to me!

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean! You can forgive, but cannot forget... and probably should always be careful not to. Take care of yourself, and that is the most important thing to do at this point. I am with you on avoiding him if at all possible. God bless, and I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[luv4godremains]

thanks hun, PM me anytime if ya wanna chat pr anything!

 

[marieg]

Letting go is not easy, its about choices, we can either allow Satan to hold us in bondage to our past or give it all to Jesus. Jesus came to set the captives free. It all can be done through Jesus, remember God our Father is the gardner and Jesus is the vine. God wants us not to allow our past to controll us today, he wants us give the things of the past to him. In Matthew 11 v 28-30,Jesus said "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light, what a promise.
Jesus is the one who restores and heals and he wants to do that today for all of us.

For me he has healed and restored all the things that hurt me in the past and I am free. I was abused but no more, I am free. I made a choice to let Jesus be my vine and my father to be my gardner.

marie

 

[lj4jc]

Letting go is not easy, its about choices, we can either allow Satan to hold us in bondage to our past or give it all to Jesus. Jesus came to set the captives free. It all can be done through Jesus, remember God our Father is the gardner and Jesus is the vine. God wants us not to allow our past to controll us today, he wants us give the things of the past to him. In Matthew 11 v 28-30,Jesus said "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light, what a promise.
Jesus is the one who restores and heals and he wants to do that today for all of us.

For me he has healed and restored all the things that hurt me in the past and I am free. I was abused but no more, I am free. I made a choice to let Jesus be my vine and my father to be my gardner.

marie

I have made the choice of refusing to be depressed. I wish it were that easy. There is many things that can be done to ease the depression. I have tried a lot of them. I think what it comes down to, is keep working on those things that could work, and maybe a person will find a way to make it work. Different things work for me at different times. I haven't found the magic bullet yet, tho. Medication helps, but you have to be able to afford it, and then it is sometimes hard to find one that works. Talking it out helps at times. I think if a person was to read through all the posts, there is a possibility of finding something that does work. A person has to have an open mind and willing to try new things to ease the depression.A little advice from someone who suffers from depression to those who want to help- Keep up the suggestions, there might be something that hasn't been tried that does work. But most of all pray for those who suffer from depression. One size does not fit all, because people are different. Be willing to listen to someone who is depressed, you might just save a life. Be sensitive to others feelings. When someone jokingly says something to me, it can sometimes cause me to spiral down into depression. Don't tell someone " don't let it get to you", just listen and be a friend. A little more suggestions for someone who does suffer from depression: Read something happy, or something from the Bible, or watch something happy or funny- these sometimes are temporary reliefs from depression, but it might be something to bring a person out of depression. I hope this helps people on both sides of the coin.

 

[luv4godremains]

thanks guys, I continue to pray, for me and others who have been affected by abuse and/or depression. I have kinda lost peaying for myself again, mainly because I just miss my friend atm, I don't know how to do things like pray about things going on with me again, and my relationship with my boyfriend is suffering because of my past, so I think I may go to church in a minute, and maybe get some prayer, at least face God with the Anger I feel towards him at the moment. I guess I'm just tired of having to fight this now, beginning to wonder how much more I can take! again! I guess it will be over soon, I mean, life's short, right? at least it was for Lizzie, maybe I'll get lucky! doubt it though! sorry, don't mean to be all like this, just saying how I feel! I'm gonna go pray at church, and try to get people to stop bugging me about why I left in the first place this morning!

 

[Tamara77777]

ok, at church on sunday, they asked for anyone to get prayer if they struggle with depression, well, I decided that I should take a step forward in my life and get prayer at church. one of my friends prayed for me, she said that God was saying to me to "fly away, let go, let go of the chains holding me" and that I needed to let go of the pst, but really, I have no idea how to!? I have been getting flachbacks again, and just don't see how he can expect me to let go when I'm getting them, let alone without them! I really want to, I do, I just don't know how, any one here have any ideas?

Hello luv, It is ok to say to God I don't know how to...that is a good place to start...each day, each moment you will learn to let Go and let God.

I struggled all my life with abuse and neglect...I actually GRIEVED...for so long wasting my life, on suffering. You are YOUNG, no offense in being young, but there are levels of maturity and understanding and of course there are no times tables with God. I found as I matured in age and my understanding, God peeled away at the layers of my life (like an onion) that was so wounded and undone. IT is nOt your fault...getting flashbacks can be opportunity to take those scenes in prayer to Jesus, ask Him to go into your heart and to right all those wrongs and hurts in your life. Each time you get a flashback, take it before the Lord ask Him to go into that moment of time to bring healing. There are many books on this, good christian healing books, that helped me get thru some moments I didn't understand... there are alot of moments like that, when you are procesing in your healing. One thing, is to not be trapped in your past with the chains...I've been there, unforgiveness, anger, bitterness. Learn to receive God's Love, ask the Lord to perfect His love in your heart, for those who have wounded you. Journal your feelings, flashbacks and also what the Lord has done for you. Look first to God's word, and seek out those promises that He said are your. Ish. 53 He is depised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief, Surely, He has borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows, read the whole chapter, and put your name in each of the things He did. Make it personal, ask JESUS to come into the areas that you are not aware that need to be healed and trust Him to do a complete work..He will..don't put a time frame on it, as some get healed instantly while others process each step, but the end result is a complete healing. I am thankful you are aware at your age...it took me a very long time to even understand there was something wrong...God is faithful and He is caring...and He understands and loves you beyond your comprehension! Trust In Him all the way...the work has been done...and you can know that you know...look to Him for that! He won't let you down! Don't be hard on yourself to try to 'figure' it out...let Him do the work for you..just trust in His work. Take each day, don't look to far down the road..it can get overwhelming..one day at a time, one moment at a time, and one hurt at a time. God Bless you sister!!!! pm anytime you would like.

 

[Yasha]

... Talking it out helps at times.
--->>I think if a person was to read through all the posts, there is a possibility of finding something that does work....
>--->One size does not fit all, because people are different.
>--->Be willing to listen to someone who is depressed, you might just save a life. Be sensitive to others feelings. When someone jokingly says something to me, it can sometimes cause me to spiral down into depression.
>--->Don't tell someone " don't let it get to you", just listen and be a friend.
A little more suggestions for someone who does suffer from depression:
>--->Read something happy, or something from the Bible, or watch something happy or funny- these sometimes are temporary reliefs from depression, but it might be something to bring a person out of depression. I hope this helps people on both sides of the coin.

and,

>--->Journal your feelings, flashbacks and also what the Lord has done for you.
>--->Look first to God's word, and seek out those promises that He said are your.
>---> Ish. 53 He is depised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief, Surely, He has borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows, read the whole chapter, and put your name in each of the things He did.
>--->Make it personal, ask JESUS to come into the areas that you are not aware that need to be healed and trust Him to do a complete work..He will..
>--->don't put a time frame on it, as some get healed instantly while others process each step, but the end result is a complete healing. I am thankful you are aware at your age...it took me a very long time to even understand there was something wrong...God is faithful and He is caring...and He understands and loves you beyond your comprehension!
>--->Trust In Him all the way...the work has been done...and you can know that you know...look to Him for that! He won't let you down!
>--->Don't be hard on yourself to try to 'figure' it out...let Him do the work for you..just trust in His work.
>--->Take each day, don't look to far down the road..it can get overwhelming..one day at a time, one moment at a time, and one hurt at a time.

Both SOLID with many good suggestions, in my humble opinion. Thanks to both of you for sharing from your experiences with practical application of 'how' you manage day-to-day. Really, thanks.
Love, Sha

 

[lj4jc]

I'm glad this can help. I am sure there is many other ways to let go and let God as well. It seems to me this is a not a one time help, but a continuous help. Satan wants us to be bound to anything but God. He will use anything and everything to try to get a person away from God and from serving God. Anything is possible with God when it is in God's will. God is with you.