how do I let go?

[Ssarl]

I've seen the idea used for protection of spoilers in a TV forum, and it works quite well.

Yes- It takes strength and resolve and a decision to let things go or to change in any way. And God is there to help you in his strength. When that decision is made, it doesn't mean things will be perfect and everything will be honkey dorey. Relapses will happen. Don't kick yourself in the behind for it. Just pick yourself up, pray, resolve to go on, and try, try, try again.

Very true. I had a major relapse this June, where after six months or so clean of it, I *strongly* felt like committing suicide. I gave myself three more days - I figured I could hold out that long, and no more. But in those three days God gave me the strength and by the end of it there was again no question - I was to remain alive for Him. And I grew from that week; sometimes the times of greatest progress are also the greatest triggers.

 

[Yasha]

; sometimes the times of greatest progress are also the greatest triggers.

THAT has been true with me my whole life! When there is much headway gained, then we suddenly have to deal with the 'stress' of success. We jetison ourselves into new ground and find the things that are our hope for so long are here, right here withus, we've made it. Then, suddenly, we notice the new prices and costs of these things that we so deeply longed for are higher than we anticipated and the unfamiliarity in governing ourselves in their presence sets us back. Like, we finally realize WHY God was slower to grant them than we had wished.....because He knew that we would find them differing from our fantastical hopes and dreams. and He knew that we weren't ready to grow into them yet.

Trusting Him in the blessings and the trials and the having and not having and the learning and feeling dull or lost....we need Him in ALL these things.

Bless you, dear Ssarl. I'm glad you carried on, my heart would have been greatly grieved to have lost you. Thanks for being.
Love, Sha

 

[lj4jc]

Sometimes, you have to just let go several times a day or even several times an hour. I don't think that I can ever totally get rid and let go of the past without it sneaking up on me at the most opportune moments. It is a decision to let go, but be prepared to let that nagging flashback or whatever might jump out at you know that it is not wanted and "let go- ie-tell it to go away, pray about it, refuse to entertain it, etc." often.

 

[luv4godremains]

I don't think any one can really, I think it's something we will have to do for the rest of our lives, constantly give it up, constanly let go, always try to do what's right with the past, sucks though!

 

[lj4jc]

For those of us that suffer from our past lives, this just might be the cross we have to bear in a certain sense. It might just have to be something that will bring us closer to God. I know it has with me.

 

[luv4godremains]

I think, those who haven't learnt to trust God, or don't trust him because of their past, when we do learn to trust God, I think it will definately bring us closer to God, I know that at times, it already ahs done, it's when it begina to hurt again that I lose trust in God, and have to ask for forgivness for holding my past against him. I think in time, anyone who has suffered abuse that knows Christ, will be brought closer to him because of it, even though it's really hard to deal with!

 

[lj4jc]

I know my past has made me more sensitive to others and what they might be feeling. I am not as selfish or as egotistical anymore, although there are times..........

 

[Godsgirl481]

My past has made me more sensitive to what others think about me. I got a job with T-Mobile (call center) and I am in a training class. Only had the job for a week...and the class seems like a bunch of high schoolers. They laugh at me a lot...even if they don't mean anything by it...it hurts. I recently got frustrated at one kid...and threw a piece of paper at him...which I guess is considered "violence" to them...so they sent me home for the day.

I can't seem to get a handle on my over-sensitivity...nor my rage.

Having a real hard time since I have moved back to Kansas.

 

[Jcsogls]

ok, at church on sunday, they asked for anyone to get prayer if they struggle with depression, well, I decided that I should take a step forward in my life and get prayer at church. one of my friends prayed for me, she said that God was saying to me to "fly away, let go, let go of the chains holding me" and that I needed to let go of the pst, but really, I have no idea how to!? I have been getting flachbacks again, and just don't see how he can expect me to let go when I'm getting them, let alone without them! I really want to, I do, I just don't know how, any one here have any ideas?

Hi,

I was diagnoised with depression in 1992. I gave my life to the LORD in 1998. I asked the LORD to help me get through it. I'm still living with depression, anxiety, ptsd. I havent been healed from it. I look at it as not being in Gods will for me to heal me from it. However he gets me through the day. Some days are harder then other with thoughts of suicide and such.

 

[luv4godremains]

ljorem - well done on changing that! and, down get annoyed on the times that you are egotistical or selfish because it's human nature, and, sometimes we NEED to be selfish, take something for ourselves, instead of alwas gving, how can you give when you have nothing left?!
Bams - I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your rage and sensitivity, I will be praying that God will open up your heart to find it easier to cope! PM me any times you need to chat!
thanks Jcsogls - Just because God still hasn't healed you from your depression doesn't mean to say it is not in his will, I believe that he reasons for not having healed you yet, and I also belive that he will do, in HIS time, not ours, he hates to se eus depressed and hurting, but he has reasons for making us wait to be healed, and we will all be fully healed one day, even though we will still most likely be borken and hurt when we die, in heaven, we will be happy, but we can reach out and help others in our times of weakness! I believe that Gods' will id to heal you, just maybe not yet, and he won't heal us untill we are ready and want to be heled, ready to let him in to our hearts to complete the work he has already started on us! I hope he heals you soon, and that you at least feel alot better! and that he gives you the strength you need to get by. Jesus has power over us, we have to close the door on the Devil by declaring Jesus' power over our lives and that the Devil has no right to hurt us, loosen his grip on your heart and life, and hopefully he will leave you alone, walking away with his head hung, knowing that he has no power over you whilst Jesus lives within you! I dunno if that would work, but, maybe, I guess it's just one of the common "christian" tools to use!

 

[lj4jc]

ljorem - well done on changing that! and, down get annoyed on the times that you are egotistical or selfish because it's human nature, and, sometimes we NEED to be selfish, take something for ourselves, instead of alwas gving, how can you give when you have nothing left?!

Sometimes I feel as though I am still being selfish when I only think of myself. I just withdraw when I have nothing left to give and then I start having a party of 1. A pity-party that is. Although I have become more sensitive towards others, I am still sensitive inside. The best I can do sometimes, is just pray and give it to the Lord. It doesn't necessarily make it better, sometimes, I just have to confess to the Lord my feelings and pray some more.

 

[luv4godremains]

ljorem - I think everyone struggles with that from time to time, and it sucks and hurts us, but as I said, it's human nature. I relaly do hate it when w feel like that though because it can feel soo degrading not being able to change it, and push us even more into the self-hatrid that alot of people are already in! I think it's really cool that you have the strength to be this honest about how you feel about yourself, what you think of the way you act or whatever! I'll be praying that you feel better, and that God reveals the truth about you to yourself, and how he sees you!

 

[lj4jc]

ljorem - I think everyone struggles with that from time to time, and it sucks and hurts us, but as I said, it's human nature. I relaly do hate it when w feel like that though because it can feel soo degrading not being able to change it, and push us even more into the self-hatrid that alot of people are already in! I think it's really cool that you have the strength to be this honest about how you feel about yourself, what you think of the way you act or whatever! I'll be praying that you feel better, and that God reveals the truth about you to yourself, and how he sees you!

I think your prayers worked for me today. It was the second day of College and I am loaded down with school work, yet I feel positive about it instead of panicing. I alos feel I related better to others today, Thank You.

 

[luv4godremains]

that's ok, and I'm glad that you had a better day! sorry that you're loaded with work, but, I'm sure you'll manage to get it all done! oh, and reading that through, it kinda sounds like I was belittling your probs, that was not it at all! just trying to say ur not alone angel! sorry if it felt like I was belittling!)
God bless

 

[lj4jc]

that's ok, and I'm glad that you had a better day! sorry that you're loaded with work, but, I'm sure you'll manage to get it all done! oh, and reading that through, it kinda sounds like I was belittling your probs, that was not it at all! just trying to say ur not alone angel! sorry if it felt like I was belittling!)
God bless

I didn't think that at all. All prayers are welcomed. Thanx

 

[luv4godremains]

lol, that's ok!
God bless

 

[lj4jc]

lol, that's ok!
God bless

You too

 

[luv4godremains]

lol, thanks!

 

[Ssarl]

I really had to let go today.
I hit rock bottom, and God offered to help me out of it - He just wanted me to ask for it :S
When I did... He bailed me out, and I'm just starting to realise how good His promise is for me.

Thing is, I also realise how much I still cling to, and that it's got to go, or it will remain between us.

I still think of myself as some sort of freak; I'm just not the same as everybody else, I don't fit in. I feel that nobody in the world gets me. I have to realise that we have a high priest who perfectly understands our struggles, and to open up to Him about it... I'm being a wuss about it though.

 

[luv4godremains]

you're not being a wuss at all! and, God doesn't see any problem bigger than another, we are ALL his priorities, no one person comes before another, he loves us all the same, which is more than a human could ever be capable of, unfortunatley! and, his promise for you isn't just good, his promise is the best thing anyone could hope for, yet, it's something I don't think any human could grasp, we can understand that it is good, we can understand that it is amazing, but, I don't think anyone knows just how prescious we are to him, and how wonderful the things he ahs for us are!
when you say, you don't think anyone in the world get's you, no one gets anyone, God is the only person who could ever understand any of us. we only have one point of view on each thing, yet, God has infinate views on EVERYTHING, he gets you more than you get yourself, and, the only person we need to get/understand us is God. I know it's hard because it's soo lonely here, especially when no one even remotly understands us or knows how we feel, but, the reward for living this life is greater than anything, and, the rewards God holds in heaven for you are soo amazing you would not be able to know!
you're not being a wuss at all, he knows, and understands, and is soo proud of you for who you are and everything you have accomplished in your life and done for him!
sorry if that made no sense or anything, or was completely off point, I'm in a bit of a weird place today, but he loves you soo much, and understands you more than you could ever even want someone to! but, he does for a reason, because he loves you, because he hates to see you hurt!
God bless