I am a heterophobic. Though I do not act my gay desires, hetero men scare me. I am terrified if they find out about me they will hurt me. So I stay away from them.
All my friends are females and are not believers.
In a potential bit of irony, I think there's reason to be somewhat encouraged in this, which reason lie in the acknowledgement about the truth of homosexual behavior being a sin.
It is alleged by many that [true]
homophobia is a result of one's own latent homosexual desires - which as a sidebar is why many use the term "homophobia" not as a descriptor of a real or perceived fear, but strictly as a pejorative against those who oppose the homosexual agenda.
According to them (and I happen to agree in general with their allegations), men with latent homosexual desires, rather than fear God, ie. acknowledge as sin any behavior that would result were they to carry out those desires, fear man (including themselves) instead. Rather than obey God (as you are doing), their fear of man drives them inappropriately (sinfully) to lash out in anger against their fears, against those whose behavior only exacerbates or incites their own temptations.
They think if they can eradicate the behavior in others, regardless the means, they can quell (blaming themselves), or eradicate (blaming others) their own personal temptations to this behavior.
Their "homophobia," as expressed in anger and fear towards other men who behave homosexually is, in this sense, nothing more than an attempt to "save" themselves - which of course the Christian knows is not possible inasmuch as we are saved ONLY by His kindness and grace and strength and forgiveness.
Of course the opposite (of [this] "homophobia") is equally true - in an attempt to "save" themselves from similar fears (of man) - and rather than obey God, their fear drives them
to seek cultural (man's) acceptance of their behavior - ironically acceptance from those whose own homophobia is largely the genesis of theirs. And this is what we are experiencing in our culture today - a concerted effort on the part of unregenerate men and women who practice homosexuality, even with "pride" (arrogance) to gain cultural acceptance of their sin rather than repent of it.
Neither group acknowledges God on this topic, nor do they seek His help. Instead, and in worldly fashion they seek their own form of release from those fears - gaining in the process man's permission to continue unstigmatized in that sin.
By His grace, you have removed yourself from this worldly, downward spiral
by acknowledging God's truth about this particular sin, for which I pray God will continue to pour upon you His kindness, mercy, and grace, including His strength to continue on the course to which He's called you in Christ. Moreover, I pray He will bring into your life some godly men with whom you can fellowship together as friends and brothers in Christ, men who are mature in Christ and not given to the behavior resulting from either phobia, but whose behavior is in line with Christ's - men who accept you as no different than themselves, fallen human beings in need of God's persistent grace and Christ's sacrifice on all our behalf.