Help with GF

[Christianrocker90]

So I've been dating this girl for two months now, and I know she's not perfect in her relationship with God. But it didn't seem like she was lacking as much as I know now. Well, some backstory. Her cousin committed suicide back in March. She was very close with this cousin and it hit her hard. Now she swears she feels his spirit with her on a daily basis. She also swears she feels the spirit of her late dog with her as well. She says she feels him sleeping at the end of her bed every night. Lastly, she told me she has cats because they're the guardians of the underworld tonight. When I asked her why she cares, she shrugged and said "I don't know." She's also a little too concerned with astrology. Now I know she believe in God and accepts Jesus as her savior. She was raised catholic. But it seems like she's still believing in things she shouldn't be. I don't want to break up with her over this. I firmly believe we're together for a reason. We share so much in common. But at the same time I'm worried about her salvation with her concerned in this things. I'm already praying for her, but I feel I should be doing more, but I'm not sure what. I love her. And I don't know if she is "the one", but I don't want to abandon her when I feel like I could help her and build a future for us. Any advice would be helpful.

 

[stuart lawrence]

So I've been dating this girl for two months now, and I know she's not perfect in her relationship with God. But it didn't seem like she was lacking as much as I know now. Well, some backstory. Her cousin committed suicide back in March. She was very close with this cousin and it hit her hard. Now she swears she feels his spirit with her on a daily basis. She also swears she feels the spirit of her late dog with her as well. She says she feels him sleeping at the end of her bed every night. Lastly, she told me she has cats because they're the guardians of the underworld tonight. When I asked her why she cares, she shrugged and said "I don't know." She's also a little too concerned with astrology. Now I know she believe in God and accepts Jesus as her savior. She was raised catholic. But it seems like she's still believing in things she shouldn't be. I don't want to break up with her over this. I firmly believe we're together for a reason. We share so much in common. But at the same time I'm worried about her salvation with her concerned in this things. I'm already praying for her, but I feel I should be doing more, but I'm not sure what. I love her. And I don't know if she is "the one", but I don't want to abandon her when I feel like I could help her and build a future for us. Any advice would be helpful.

Many, many years ago I went out with someone who I knew in the bottom of my heart I should not have gone out with. The feeling the relationship was wrong was always there. However, as Jeremiah tells us. The heart is deceitful. I made up reasons/ excuses to be with the person. That relationship scarred me for life.
I wont go into it here. All I can say is. Do you truly have peace in your heart about going out with this woman? If she is right for you, you will have a deep reassuring peace. If you do not have that now in my view you never will.
It is so easy to get in a relationship, yet it can be so hard to disentangle yourself from one even if you realise it is wrong.
My late mother once told me you will have an inner peace if you are doing the right thing. I have found those words to be so true.
Whether it is right for you to be with this woman or not I cannot say, but I believe deep in your heart you probably already know the answer to that.
Based on my past experience, I would plead with you to immediately leave her and never go back to her if in your heart you are troubled by the relationship.
If God was in it he would give you peace.
God bless brother

 

[timewerx]

The spiritual realm is real. I've have quite a few experiences that cannot be explained by conventional wisdom.

If you can't give yourself an open mind on this subject, it will only make things worse.

 

[Alithis]

So I've been dating this girl for two months now, and I know she's not perfect in her relationship with God. But it didn't seem like she was lacking as much as I know now. Well, some backstory. Her cousin committed suicide back in March. She was very close with this cousin and it hit her hard. Now she swears she feels his spirit with her on a daily basis. She also swears she feels the spirit of her late dog with her as well. She says she feels him sleeping at the end of her bed every night. Lastly, she told me she has cats because they're the guardians of the underworld tonight. When I asked her why she cares, she shrugged and said "I don't know." She's also a little too concerned with astrology. Now I know she believe in God and accepts Jesus as her savior. She was raised catholic. But it seems like she's still believing in things she shouldn't be. I don't want to break up with her over this. I firmly believe we're together for a reason. We share so much in common. But at the same time I'm worried about her salvation with her concerned in this things. I'm already praying for her, but I feel I should be doing more, but I'm not sure what. I love her. And I don't know if she is "the one", but I don't want to abandon her when I feel like I could help her and build a future for us. Any advice would be helpful.

JEsus said those who love me obey me .. if You love the lord Jesus and desire to show him you do by your obedience to him and she does not .. you wont help her by accommodating her but only by sharing the fully gospel with her ,of repentance and baptism and receiving of the holy Spirit . This is the greatest help we can offer any one -the gospel in full_ its the power of god to save a believer.

john states that a person who is born of god does not "continue to practice sin " so if there is no repentance from sin no forsaking of worldly ways and doctrines ..then you can be pretty sure one of the mainstay foundations of salvation is fully absent .. that house is built on sand.

 

[Tull]

Relationships are a nightmare

 

[dysert]

Now I know she believe in God and accepts Jesus as her savior. ... But at the same time I'm worried about her salvation with her concerned in this things.

Well, one good thing is you don't have to worry about her salvation since she knows the Lord. She may very well be feeling all the things you mentioned, but that may not be good for her. Maybe you and she could take on a Bible study together where you see what the Bible says about the spiritual world, and how we need to be cautious about it. It's too bad you have these differences, but as she grows in the Lord, her feelings about the spiritual world may change. I don't see your differences as a reason to break up, since she's saved, but they could get in the way of having a close relationship.

 

[Christianrocker90]

Thanks for the advice, everyone.

 

[tturt]

You're right to be concerned about those things you've posted. She's very interested in the spirit world and there's nothing wrong with that in the sense that Yahweh is Spirit. We need to keep our focus on Him.

 

[Goodbook]

Well..i would share the gospel with her sounds like she needs it.

I have experience with a few catholics who are into the paranormal and psychics and its because, their church teaches different things and is not really strong on the Bible. It is frustrating because I assumed that they believed the same God all other christians believe, but it seems they have an extra fascination with things which are no go areas.

You may have to detach because we cant fellowship with darkness. When people lose a loved one in tragic circumstances, often they want to talk with them again but the best thing is really to talk with God. GOd knows better than any psychic medium or clairvoyant the state of ones soul. Pray for Him to comfort her.

When my friend passed in tragic circumstances I was given assurance she was saved.

Psychics and mediums and spirits may lead you down a different path.
I think the best thing to do is just pray. You can pray with her and then just leave it with God and He will do whatver needs to be done to put her on the right path, its not really your job, but definietly share the gospel when God directs you to do so, sometimes the seed or Word dont take straight away but God will grow it.

 

[Goodbook]

Also dont disobey God by going with someone whos not meant for you. Like the other poster said, you will have to leave her if shes not a believer. When you cant agree over spiritual matters dont kid yourself it would make a good marriage or that you are the one to save her soul when its Jesus who need to go to first and believe in first not our gf or bf.

 

[Kit Sigmon]

I've already shared these chapters...so I will share them with you:
Read with her chapters 1, 2 and 3 of First Corinthians.
Also... Galatians 5:20, 2 Corinthians 4:4, Ephesians 6:11... here's also the teaching on the full armor of God: http://www.acts17-11.com/armor.html

 

[Christianrocker90]

Not that anyone was sitting on pins and needles waiting for this update, but here it is anyway. She broke up with me this past July. So, I guess it doesn't matter anymore. But hurting from the breakup since then. I guess that's to be expected after dating someone for 10 months. *sigh*

 

[Andrew77]

So I've been dating this girl for two months now, and I know she's not perfect in her relationship with God. But it didn't seem like she was lacking as much as I know now. Well, some backstory. Her cousin committed suicide back in March. She was very close with this cousin and it hit her hard. Now she swears she feels his spirit with her on a daily basis. She also swears she feels the spirit of her late dog with her as well. She says she feels him sleeping at the end of her bed every night. Lastly, she told me she has cats because they're the guardians of the underworld tonight. When I asked her why she cares, she shrugged and said "I don't know." She's also a little too concerned with astrology. Now I know she believe in God and accepts Jesus as her savior. She was raised catholic. But it seems like she's still believing in things she shouldn't be. I don't want to break up with her over this. I firmly believe we're together for a reason. We share so much in common. But at the same time I'm worried about her salvation with her concerned in this things. I'm already praying for her, but I feel I should be doing more, but I'm not sure what. I love her. And I don't know if she is "the one", but I don't want to abandon her when I feel like I could help her and build a future for us. Any advice would be helpful.

There is no "the one". G-d does not create a specific other person dedicated solely for the purpose of making you happy. There is no "the one".

The Bible says "who can find a wife of noble character". Throughout the Bible, it says find find find find.

So your goal is to find the woman of noble character, and from what you've said, this isn't her.

And lastly, the moment you think that you need to "help her and build a future for us" and "I feel like I should be doing more"..... the moment you get into that mindset, then you are in a bad place.

Whether you realize it or not, you are trying to be a savior for her. You are not a savior. There is only one savior, and it's not you.

You can't fix her. And she likely doesn't even want to be fixed. She didn't ask you for help, and she doesn't want you changing her.

Getting married is about finding someone of noble character. Not finding a crazy person, and trying to give them noble character.

This is a bad plan.

Bottom line. Break up with this girl. Move on and find someone who isn't broken.

 

[heyanne]

I think God brought you into this relationship so you can be of guidance to her and you can help her with her struggles. Be the good man and let her realize things and that the Lord is always with her.

 

[negativeflare]

I am a 20-something married something guy, I have had this same sorta issue with my wife. She has some MAJOR flaws in her character, but no matter how I look at it. I still love her. I can make up excuses all day, but when it comes down to it. I hold her and I smile. And since we're both believers in the Lord I am very confident that she is the one for me.

Hope this helps man

 

[Christianrocker90]

Clearly my update was not read. She dumped my butt.

Not that anyone was sitting on pins and needles waiting for this update, but here it is anyway. She broke up with me this past July. So, I guess it doesn't matter anymore. But hurting from the breakup since then. I guess that's to be expected after dating someone for 10 months. *sigh*

 

[Sketcher]

Clearly my update was not read. She dumped my butt.

Unfortunately, that happens. People post before reading through the whole thread or looking at the dates on the messages. Sorry to hear that you're going through that pain of separation.

 

[Zatek]

How can you be "very close" with someone and not know they are seriously considering suicide? Obviously the two of them weren't that close. Is that really the kind of woman you want to marry someday, one who thinks that is what a close relationship is?

Obviously I don't know her, but based on your description she is a certifiable crazy person and you need to run far, far away. It is not your job to fix her, that's not what dating is for. She needs to get help from a parent or pastor or mentor or professional, not a boyfriend.

 

[negativeflare]

Clearly my update was not read. She dumped my butt.

I apologize

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

Sorry to hear it turned out this way. But maybe it was a good thing, seemed like there were to many red flags that may have been hard to deal with.