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Extreme anxiety either keeps me up or passes a point where I knock myself out.

It seems many cases I see here keeps one wide awake and have difficulty sleeping.

Maybe it's the adrenaline when hit by anxiety. Anxiety does the opposite thing to me and sometimes it is unwanted because often the cause of my anxiety is a real problem that I need to solve right away. How can I solve a problem when I'm suddenly feeling incredibly sleepy?

Looks like yours is better!
 
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It seems many cases I see here keeps one wide awake and have difficulty sleeping.

Maybe it's the adrenaline when hit by anxiety. Anxiety does the opposite thing to me and sometimes it is unwanted because often the cause of my anxiety is a real problem that I need to solve right away. How can I solve a problem when I'm suddenly feeling incredibly sleepy?

Looks like yours is better!

It's weird. Things tend to affect me oppositely of normal. Like, coffee puts me to sleep. Adrelanine of course is normal but my anxiety first makes my brain and my blood/nerves weird, it has to be really intense to short-circuit and knock me out. I guess it is like a safety switch though.
 
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I'm so scared please help!!! Please

I called my friend and we were talking for a long time and everything was okay but then ....he started going on a rant about about himself....

And out of nowhere he snapped and started screaming...like he didn't even sound like himself it was so scary...

I can't do I can't be his fri3nd.

I rather be lonely than deal with that...

I'm having a panic attack. Ill never trust the internet for f4lends again. Please help please.


You start out by saying you called your "friend". I have no idea what was being said or what may have upset him so much. It may not have been anything you said. Keep in mind, friends have bad days too. If it's moved you to a panic attack, may be best to just to give it some time. Maybe try one or two more times to speak with him again. Sometimes we never really know what someone's life is like. The best thing you can do right now is lift him up in your prayers. Trust me, God knows what your friends life is like; and he knows you're frightened. Give it to God and trust He hears.
 
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What is pusillanimous? Yeah I thank God I wasn't there with him..,thank god for that... Idk why that happened...that was so scary .....maybe to help me not be so naive about the world. Not everyone is good...even people you know a long time....he just snapped. He has all the BPD symptoms...so scary. He needs help... He didn't want to get help....so its not my problem...

I'm afraid whenever my phone rings, its so scary ...I'm still scared.

Read this prayer from time to time, Far Side :

By 'pusillanimous', I meant 'fearful of everything' (natural enough at the moment), though I see it has more negative overtones I had not intended, nor was even aware of.

Lord God, source of our freedom and salvation,
Listen to our humble prayer.
You redeemed us by the shedding of your Son's blood :
Enable us to live by your grace,
and grant us at all times
the joy of your safekeeping.

We make our prayer through Our Lord Jesus Christ.
Amen.

You'll be fine, with God supporting you, and so many prayers to Him, including your own. And, of course, time will soon heal your spirit.
 
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It seems many cases I see here keeps one wide awake and have difficulty sleeping.

Maybe it's the adrenaline when hit by anxiety. Anxiety does the opposite thing to me and sometimes it is unwanted because often the cause of my anxiety is a real problem that I need to solve right away. How can I solve a problem when I'm suddenly feeling incredibly sleepy?

Looks like yours is better!
My anxiety can make me feel that way too. I usually do feel sleepy....but this was alarming so I was wide awake.
 
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Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.

Also your parents need to know what is going on in your life. Especially online. Tell them immediately.

Yes, your Mom would want to share your burden, and be able to take steps to calm your fears and forfend against any possible harm to you, if it might exist. Her mere presence while you are in this state of terror should be help to calm and console you. Stay with her, until this blows over. Never mind about uni., at present, if its an obstacle to your recovery.
 
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Yes, your Mom would want to share your burden, and be able to take steps to calm your fears and forfend against any possible harm to you, if it might exist. Her mere presence while you are in this state of terror should be help to calm and console you. Stay with her, until this blows over. Never mind about uni., at present, if its an obstacle to your recovery.
Yeah uni is far far away .... And I'm staying with my mom.
 
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I'm so scared please help!!! Please

I called my friend and we were talking for a long time and everything was okay but then ....he started going on a rant about about himself....

And out of nowhere he snapped and started screaming...like he didn't even sound like himself it was so scary...

I can't do I can't be his fri3nd.

I rather be lonely than deal with that...

I'm having a panic attack. Ill never trust the internet for f4lends again. Please help please.

Everything will be fine. May Jesus bless you.
 
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I'm so scared please help!!! Please

I called my friend and we were talking for a long time and everything was okay but then ....he started going on a rant about about himself....

And out of nowhere he snapped and started screaming...like he didn't even sound like himself it was so scary...

I can't do I can't be his fri3nd.

I rather be lonely than deal with that...

I'm having a panic attack. Ill never trust the internet for f4lends again. Please help please.

It sounds like your friend is doing drugs or is a drunk. Best that you find out now what he's like. Distance yourself from him and have no further contact with him. And don't make friends with strangers online. A lot of them are predators looking for their next victim.
 
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It's going to be OK! Try to pray if you can, even if it's something small! Just please take a breather and go unwind, take a walk or listen to some calming Christian music to help you stay on the ground.

Regarding the sub-topic of Anxiety, I've had bad bouts of it in the past, but thank God that He healed me of it. I couldn't talk to people on the phone, nevertheless in person. Still struggling with video chat, but practice makes perfect.

God is watching over you and He loves you! Don't let your fears get in front of that. Remember that He gave his ONLY son to die for us, so there's nothing He can't do for those He loves! God bless you and I'll be praying for you. Let the Holy Spirit intercede on your behalf about this situation, but please do take a step back and take a deep breath.

God bless and have a great weekend! Maybe my icon can cheer you up, I think it's rather cute! <3
 
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Far Side Of the Moon.. very hard to answer not knowing both sides.. but the one you should run to is not HERE not man.. Jesus is real. He said.. Prov 3:5-6, Math 11:28-30, John 14:27 Col 3:15.. like let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts since as members of one body you were called to peace.. HIS peace that HE gave you.

Like 2 the 3:16 "Now the Lord of peace himself give you peace always by all means. The Lord be with you all.".. now GOD can not lie. So when you FEEL like this.. say NO.. say.. God has not given me the spirit of fear and He gave you a peace that is not of this world. You BELIEVE John 3:16 YES? Then BELIEVE the rest. We so many times do not FEEL saved based on how we act.. yet.. we are STILL saved. We dont go by how we feel. He said.. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus..

So when you feel fear or anxious.. you say.. no..for its written the peace of God which passes all understanding shall keep my heart and my mind through Christ Jesus.

We really need to know JESUS is real.. and He is your BEST FRIEND. And ask HIM for more friends as in believers.. HE WILL put them in your life.. just because you ASKED. He wants to be 1st.. yet.. what ever we ask.. that goes inline with the word aka HIS WILL HE always does..

I know VERY well how you feel and more so. And what I found is HE can not lie and He always keeps HIs word. If I RUN to Him.. wow HE IS ALWAYS there. And ALL the fear and anxious.. feeling vanish.. oh but if I dont keep this up.. those FEELINGS can come right back. As the WORD goes out.. the enemy comes right into steal it. To many times if we just pray.. and then as we look left and right to wonder which way to go.. one way..we get this great wonderful peace. The other way we dont. To many times we go by what WE want.. if we just listen to HIM His way leads to US being SO Much more happier..

Praying for you.. run to JESUS.. faith.. and sometimes.. we all act say things because something else is going on in our lifes and we take it out on our best friend. So take all this and put it in HIS hands.. cast all your cares on HIM.. its hard.. but TRUST have faith HE will be there HE will answer..
 
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Ill never trust anyone again....EVER. I'm so scared. I'm so scared.

You seem to be scared about someone's irrational behavior, and a little reasoning in your self will help you. Unless the person is where they might attack you, then you can just put distance between self and that unbalanced person. There is no reason for you to panic, except you don't like to hear or see bad things ---neither do I, but we can't let other's bad behavior cause self to fall apart.

Talk to God and ask Him for peace and assurance ---which you can have by confessing God's "beloved Son", the Lord Jesus to come into your heart and live with you forever. That is an important thing to pray. He will come if you invite Him into your heart (read John 14 for some peace, and believe it).
 
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You can download a free program called 360 Security onto your phone and it is very effective for blocking both text messages, and phone calls. The link is here 360 Security - Antivirus Boost - Android Apps on Google Play

Its not wrong to be frightened of someone abusing you, but try to look at the opportunities for you to move above this, and become a stronger person for it all, through God, and friends of God here online who have given you some good ideas you can do now, for you. You never have to put up with abuse, neither in person, or over the internet. There are things you can do to protect yourself. One thing that helps me when I am in emotional upheaval is to find something positive and uplifting that will help you to be more relaxed, yet more confident in dealing with these kinds of difficulties.

Here is something you may enjoy, and learn from. Listen as many times as needed :)
 
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I'm so scared please help!!! Please

I called my friend and we were talking for a long time and everything was okay but then ....he started going on a rant about about himself....

And out of nowhere he snapped and started screaming...like he didn't even sound like himself it was so scary...

I can't do I can't be his fri3nd.

I rather be lonely than deal with that...

I'm having a panic attack. Ill never trust the internet for f4lends again. Please help please.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I am praying for you and for your friend that he heal.
 
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