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I think it's precisely for that reason that we shouldn't argue about terminology. When people come to the church, they very often feel like they are trapped or that things are predetermined. They aren't initially receptive to the idea that they can be different than they already are. Some don't even see why they should be different even if they could be. The church teaches us to war against the flesh. If a person feels that their biology determined their behavior, it simply means that the passions and appetites have a stronger hold on them. We can reassure them that they can overcome the passions by the grace of God without having this conversation. They think it's impossible, but so is raising the dead, healing the blind, walking on water etc. Peoples' words tell us how they frame their struggle. If we are too busy trying to correct their words we risk not listening to them. I agree it's not good terminology, but it's what people are using; we need to be able to listen to it and interpret it.Forgive me ... I know that my understanding especially in a pastoral sense doesn't compare to others.
But I think "gay" does have a particular danger attached (maybe due to the media insistence). A person may recognize that he lies or steals, and may even call himself a liar or a thief. But I've never seen someone who said "God made me a liar, God created me a thief, and I cannot be otherwise, so God must be ok with lying or stealing".
Being "gay" DOES have that ideology attached to it, frequently. In this case I think it is potentially dangerous for a person to identify as their sin. Of course, they could say and mean the exact same thing by saying "God created me same-sex attracted" but it takes a slight further disconnect to do so. The language of "same sex attracted" is a better descriptor and brings a person one step closer to seeing what the issue truly is.
Again, forgive me. It's funny because I initially disagreed with all the hullabaloo over which word to use, and if made sense to me to use whatever people understand. But in having time to think about it, having something of a background that delves into such things, and discussing struggles with very close friends who are same-sex attracted, my opinion has changed.
It's not the most important thing, but it is a factor. And anything we can do to improve anyone's potential outcome, we ought to do, it seems. (I don't mean this to be correcting anyone's ministering! Just a general comment.)
Forgive me.
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