I appreciate your attitude here brother. I too used to feel the same way. However I also came to believe that the issue is important enough to persue.
What really settled it in my mind was the doctrine of sin. If men are truly as wicked, evil, and rebellious as the Bible makes them out to be, if men are truly not seeking God and find the gospel foolishness, as the Bible says, then it makes sense that the only way men can be saved is if God comes down, intervenes, and saves them.
If he simply offered a choice, then sat back and did nothing, nobody would ever be saved. But instead, the Bible describes salvation as God pursuing us. He actively stepped in to save us. He elected us, predestined us, made sure we heard the gospel in our lives, brought us to Christ, brought us to faith and repentance, changed our hearts, took off our blindfolds, spiritually resurrected us.
To me, God's activity in salvation is what makes election and predestination true. If I believed he just sat back and did absolutely nothing to save anybody, I would have no hope that anyone would ever be saved.
So I truly believe if someone takes seriously the doctrine of sin, they will inevitably have to concede and say "Salvation is truly by free grace".
I don't believe that He sits back and does absolutely nothing to save anyone either mate. I wasn't suggesting that in the slightest. I have tried to understand Calvinism, but the fact of the matter is there are many verses which are at stark contrast to it, in my view. I understand that not
everyone will be saved, but scripture presents the picture of a loving God to me, whose grace and mercy
extends to all. How else could you reconcile passages such as:
He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and
not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world. (1 John 2:2)
The next day he saw Jesus coming to him and said, Behold, the Lamb of God
who takes away the sin of the world! (John 1:29)
I am the living bread that came down out of heaven; if
anyone eats of this bread, he will live forever; and the bread also which I will give for
the life of the world is My flesh. (John 6:51)
And I, if I am lifted up from the earth,
will draw all men to Myself.(John 12:32)
For there is one God, and one mediator also between God and men, the man Christ Jesus,
who gave Himself as a ransom for all, the testimony given at the proper time. (1 Timothy 2:5-6)
But we do see Him who was made for a little while lower than the angels, namely, Jesus, because of the suffering of death crowned with glory and honor, so that by the grace of God
He might taste death for everyone. (Hebrews 2:9)
But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will also be false teachers among you, who will secretly introduce destructive heresies,
even denying the Master who bought them, bringing swift destruction upon themselves. (2 Peter 2:1)
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that
whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16)
Etc etc etc. I think you get the point.