Why ask while you keep ignoring what he already tells us?
Tell that to Paul.
Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one.
Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was pelted with
stones, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a
day in the open sea, I have been constantly on the move.
I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits,
in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in
danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea;
and in danger from false believers. I have labored and toiled
and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger
and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been
cold and naked." 2 Cor 11:24-27
That verse you flipped out was intended for a totally different context.
I had handed this enigma to the Lord. If you grow more to better understand the nature of God you would have to be forced to question your position (which is hyper Calvinism).
At one time I had been confronted by the same apparent dilemma that you have too quickly surrendered to. I did not throw up my hands and surrender. I knew that God could not be that way. For it makes God out to be an arbitrary and a respecter of persons, while the believer who accepts it, shrugs.. and allows God to appear to be evil while claiming God is sovereign and can do what ever he wants.
Instead of surrender, I persisted in prayer and kept seeking. Over time God's grace provided refreshingly sane answers as God's Word was skillfully delineated before my ears.
The waiting period needed (to test and grow the believer's patience) causes suffering for righteousness sake. For we must go through a season of deep personal suffering when we choose the right path. Yet.. As Jesus warned. Many will refuse to suffer for righteousness sake. Instead they prefer a smug (when pushed) and easy form of Christianity. They chose the broad (open minded) and wide way (having many variations of false doctrines to choose from to please one's personal inclination).
So be it.
God brought to me (and others) to sane and sound answers by means of several genuinely dedicated, gifted men of God who were perpetual deep students of the Word of God. Hebrew and Greek were always being exegeted. Greek and Hebrew with their moods and tenses expounded reveal a glorious insight into the light.
Here's the problem.
Calvin was coming out of corrupted and bankrupt form of Christianity. He was starting off fresh. He was what we would call today a "baby Christian." By himself he only could gain so much understanding in his few short years. Since then? Many having stood on his (and others) shoulders were able to see beyond what he was failing to see....
The Word of God is alive and powerful. We are in turn to become alive and powerful in our minds and in our spirits... w It happens when we are truly finding hidden treasures that many were not willing suffer for. Needing to wait, while no answer was immediately given.
When a believer is willing to give up his life's ambitions and accepted the needed suffering required for righteousness sake? When he looks around? Those heavy burdens that discourage light minded believers and weigh them down when it comes to their neighborhood? To the one having been properly trained by the Spirit for gained righteousness? What is too heavy to other believers becomes 'light' and easy" to bear. Even having to face martyrdom (if it ever came down to that) is (by grace) light and easy. That is how His burden becomes light. Because when we have a strong and accurate understanding of God's Word? He 'shares' that yoke with us.
grace and peace...